We know what we know and nobody can tell us different. This is a dangerous mentality. I have been very grateful to have had leadership and great teachers, who love what they do and are very passionate about what they teach and want to share with others. Really sucks when a piece of shit has to prove to everyone that he is the baddest. I mean it is fun for me because I want to be the one to test him. Not saying he won’t pass my test. I am definitely not the baddest fucker around, nor do i pretend to be, but testing those who seem to think they are the best has always intrigued me. I want to spar, or I want to open up lines of communication to them. To see what they know and what they think is right. Treat everything as a learning experience and you will never waste a day in your life. We have all met assholes before, but maybe just like everyone else until you get to meet someone they may seem like an asshole. Ladies you cannot tell me that someone has misunderstood your man who you snuggle up to every night and think he is a mean person. He is big, has tattoos, drinks, likes angry music and cusses all the time. THAT IS LIKE HALF MY FRIENDS. Most of them are some of the funniest people I have ever met and like to have a good time. This is why I keep them around. They are also very hard workers, collaborative, smart, funny and very family oriented people. I am not saying go up and make friends with everyone around the bar. I will say if you open yourself up and let people surprise you then they probably will. They may even become good friends or even someone you can have a casual nod to when you see each other at the same bar. The concept of opening yourself up as well gives you an advantage, for my military people, (tactical advantage) in familiarizing yourself with an area and those around you. Setting the scene for you to be the person who does not come off as the aggressor, but wants everyone to have a good time. This is how people gravitate towards you, an better yet it is positive people feeding off your vibe. Stereotypes do keep you alive in some certain situations. So not saying to drop your guard, but you can always have a shield up while being inviting. Just takes practice and a willingness to open yourself up to new ideas and experiences. If you do this in a bar or public setting, which I hope is a safe setting. Don’t be making friends in back of allies, but in an environment where people are meeting and greeting, this may help in how you approach people of importance in your life. When you ask your boss for a raise. Discussing with potential clients, or even just creating connections with possible investors. This is what I would like to see others doing when trying to improve themselves. Paying attention to the “assholes” in the room. If you label them too quickly then it is your fault if you did not take the time to learn from them. If they are so confident in themselves then why wouldn’t you want to find out what they know? Very rarely is someone a bad person in this world. I mean an actual bad person. We are all trying to find our way in this world, but unless you enjoy or have the intent of hurting someone, and you just wish to make something out of your life then that means everyone else is just jealous when you have found the confidence that everyone wishes they had. I do jujitsu a few times a week and man is it fun to roll with those who you know are trying the hardest. Those who want to be the best. Of course if your intention is just to feel more confident or just get in better shape, then maybe the attitude they have is not for you. Those who really want to improve or even compete, they all tend to find each other on the mat. After a few months, you know who the challengers in the class are. You just decide is it a easy flow day I’m going to go roll with this group or am I going to roll with this group and really feel the soreness tomorrow. Some of you go to the gym, so ask yourself is it going to be a heavy lift day or an active rest day. Quit treating those you don’t agree with, or maybe have a different approach. They are not the enemy unless their sole intention is to hurt you. Some guys are just trying to make it to the next level. If this so-called “asshole” is so arrogant then maybe he would like to talk about himself. So go ask some questions. Military was so easy for me to pick out great leaders. All you had to do was ask a question to someone that was a higher rank than you. If it was a legitimate question about your job or a way to make yourself better, and they did not want to give you any knowledge. Then fuck that guy I won’t follow him anywhere. Leaders and those I would follow in the gates of hell were people who constantly wanted me to learn, take classes and if they did not know an answer they made sure and found it for you. Nobody likes assholes, but nobody likes the leader either. BanGov Actual, out.
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