The reason I address the guys as gentlemen, and ladies as ladies is because I encourage them to act accordingly. Gentleman is defined as: a chivalrous, courteous, or honorable man. This term ” Gentleman” has been pushed and pulled into the meaning of those interpretations of the word. My standards of a gentleman may differ from yours. If a man were to leave a date, even though chivalrous and polite, if the male and female do not have a chemical bond that calls for a second date then the male not be known as a gentleman so please ladies give credit where it is due. Would love to bring back this type of stature. As a means of something for men to strive for or even be taught as a young age in how to treat those around him.
Manners are defined as: polite or well-bred social behavior. You are told to do it because you should be polite. What is not said is that manners are a way of letting people know you have respect for them. It is not about superiority, it is simply a social skill in having those around you feel welcome. I like to think of it as putting on a show in order to entertain or be a good host. With simple manners and common courtesies you can show your date, or even show guests at your home a good time. Gentlemen take charge of a room if necessary in order for those around him to feel safe and welcome. Another meaning of a gentleman comes from women whose need is to feel protected. Really sucks when men are labeled as “protective.” Not that I don’t like the word or actions followed. The interpretation of that can be misconstrued as overbearing or even controlling. Little things a man makes sure to do for his significant other, like when both are leaving a place in 2 separate vehicles. He may wait until she has left, to make sure she has left safely.
Other gestures are walking her to her car, holding her hand as she steps down in heels, and gentlemen if there’s one thing that sets you apart from the guys who didn’t have a shot with her to begin with is a simple asking if she got home OK, or even if you forget, just a simple text asking if she made it home OK. Now all of this sounds nice and can be learned over time, but gentlemen my crown jewel of gentlemanly advice that needs to take place and as well will save you a lot of time and money. BE ON TIME. The importance of arriving early to get a table for the lady, so that both of you are not waiting. It sets a vibe for the entire night that she was the importance of your night. It just sets a mood as well that you’re relaxed and then she can relax as well. Also ladies, BE ON TIME, it is not hard for the guy to wait 15 minutes and think, “well she wasn’t that interested”, so I have left a few dates where the woman was late and made no difference to me. I simply left and sent a text saying sorry I couldn’t wait any longer. Your time is valuable and if they don’t get that from the start they are not worth your time. A Gentleman or a Lady is not about being walked all over, it is an understanding between individuals about the respect they have for each other. As well, gentlemen competition breeds improvement, so learn from those around you, and be the best gentlemen you can be. Bangov Actual, out.