Gentlemen, what gets you all riled up in bed? Seriously. Do we even know, why don’t we know these things. You know your favorite music but not what your lady can do to really turn you on. This is interesting to me because I have been an advocate for men and women to be comfortable exploring sexual acts in order to spice up the bedroom, or even being single you engage in actions that may just be of curiosity to you or someone else. Let me be clear in saying I am not against exploratory sex with someone you are not currently involved with romantically. Casual sex, sex between 3, DO.NOT.CARE. Do what makes your pickle tickle or flower power! I am a strong advocate for being professional, and would like to just mention those who do pay a lot of money for these fantasies to become a reality. We can all stop hiding from those who may not agree with you. If for religious reasons, societal norms, then it is simple that we just do not share these sides of ourselves with them. Some people may think if they won’t accept all sides of me then they don’t deserve me. I won’t be the one to say you are wrong, then again that is your choice who you let in your worlds and those should be people that encourage you to be the best version of yourself. Another side would say due to a societal norm these people who don’t agree may just be under the impression that you may get hurt and they are trying to protect you from that. So don’t always take oppositions as a negative or as a potentially controlling desire. They may just not want you to get hurt. Or hell maybe they are too afraid to say they feel the same way. So be open to talking about it if you’re open to sharing the thought with someone. Break down the psychology of it together with the why. You may just come to the same conclusion. This blog is not just what men may be thinking of about during sex, it may be women need to ask the question for men to feel comfortable answering. Ladies, just know that unless you have never asked, the man in your life has probably never been asked. Men usually talk about sex in bullet points. Went to dinner, drinks,back to my place, fucked. Then a high five with the guys. Ladies are way more expressive in how the night went. All starts with the ring of the door bell and they are telling friends, he came to the door to pick me up, brownie points, he opened the door, brownie points, got in the car, it was clean, smelled good, FUCKING BROWNIE POINTS. I won’t go through the entire date because you get the point. From the point of the act of having sex women are breaking down the five senses The better it was the more detail they will go into it. The worse it was they will be more like a guy and say ya, we fucked in his car, I did not cum. Then he drove me home. Very romantic, I know guys. Gentlemen just know this goes both ways. You have to be willing to initiate conversation as well, if you make an agreement, or have paid someone to have these specific fantasies come true then OK that transaction will be handled as business as usual, But, if you’re intimate with someone for a number of years, these questions just as what they aspire to be, hopes, dreams, aspirations. Why does it never include sexual fantasies?
What men want in bed is simple. The same thing women want. The chance to discuss options of sexual exploration without judgement. The conversation alone is liberating for the both of you, don’t care if you paid or not. Stop being afraid of asking these questions, literally the internet is filled with answers for you and another to explore til your heart’s content.
What? You guys think I would leave you without giving you a list? Come on, this is Bangov!
1-Play with his balls, (suck on them)
2-Finger in the ass, (it’s not for everyone)
3-Little spoon, (some are afraid it’s demeaning)
4-Be vocal on what feels good ladies/guys
5-Sex in a public place, you initiate it ladies
6-Ask to be on top of him
7-Make eye contact while he licks his lips and smiles.
8-Jump into another position without being asked.
9-When we are sucking on you ladies, say yes, no, left, down, right, up, what do you want?
10-Lights on
11-Don’t talk bad about your body
12-Find some clothes you may be OK ripping
13-Go shopping for lingerie together, big part of sex for men is visual, we like a lot of things leading up to the bedroom, like women do with foreplay to get you wet, we don’t get wet ladies we get hard.
14-Sucking on him may take a while, but in the end the commitment and the feeling after, he may return the favor immediately after. Like seriously you would think a refractory period was a myth when you suck him off.
15- Cum in your mouth, chest, stomach, the usual. (I’m not going to pretend to know the level of kink who reads this)
16- According to business insider 26.8 of males fantasized giving oral sex to a man
20.6 males fantasized about having sex with another man ( Who knew?)
source: https://www.businessinsider.com/normal-male-sexual-fantasies-2014-11?amp
17- Make a sex video (this I will say I would do again, will not post, don’t ask.)
18- 3 some, which I have researched, and what I have researched is men, if you’re willing to do it with a guy, she may be willing to do it with a woman.
19-Watching someone fuck your wife, Relax! Talk about it.
20, 4 some, can’t forget about my swingers, that is literally what an open marriage is for.
21- Sit and be naked together, explore each others bodies even before sex
22- Dance naked together
23-Slap his ass, and ladies, (yell yahoo!, yeehaa!, whoo!)
24-Laugh during, still talk and tell jokes.
25- Shower together before/after.
26- Watch porn together, watch something you’re both into, or take turns.
27- Experiment with different positions, see what you both like. Make a top 10.
28- Compliment each other on things you like, or find sexy, boobs, but, legs, arms, smile, hands,
29- Make a list of where you would like to have sex, schedule an airbnb, hotel stay.
30- Ladies what are you going to wear, outfits, star wars, cheer outfit, aeon flux, I mean hell if a woman walked up to me in a lady gaga outfit I’d probably say yes. I mean even Jabba the hutt I may give a try. Just as long as it is a costume. Hahahaha
31- Ladies, maybe we want to buy you something? Vibrators, dildos, clamps, whips, feathers, floggers, just to name a few.
32-Massage, my goodness gracious if you don’t know how, then YouTube, or Pornhub that shit and get your life together.
33- Tie you up?, ladies he may want full control to fuck you where he pleases and in all sorts of positions. Strongly advise doing this between those you trust or in a controlled and safe environment. Or at least a class to go over safety measures.
34- Bondassage? Look it up, light BDSM and sensual massage.
35- Make a playlist of sex music together. Different moods, create a few playlists and use one for maybe more romantic nights, quickies, maybe just home for lunch, more fun and have some time.
36- Cunnilingus,blow job, while sucking on different candies, fruits, after different drinks, light candles for different smells.
37-Sex toys, Just look up different things to kink up your bedroom. Adameve.com, lovehoney.com this one just makes me laugh, buy as many toys as you like and if you feel like you don’t use them as much, leaving a box at goodwill to me was one of the best reactions I have ever seen. Holy fuck I was dying laughing, or save some friends money and see if they want to give them a try. Just use some Clorox wipes ya bunch of nancy’s.
This list I hope this list helps some of you explore more of your sexual worlds within yourself and with your partner. I have heard way too many times men and woman experience sexual frustration and a feeling of being trapped in a reality where they cannot express themselves even privately with someone they are dating, married or just seeing for casual sex. After all sex is not just the act. It is a conversation I feel is only coming to the surface now after years of being taboo, and Bangov is here to set you free. Bangov Actual, out.
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