I have had this conversation with many people and it has taken me years to come to a conclusion. For a lot this may seem out of your norm. For others this may seem right up your alley as a new way for relationships to be considered. Those of you who want kids, but don;t want marriage. Does it ever occur to you that the one you want kids with may ;see a need to be married? Ya, I know, people want happiness… Makes me SICK!!…Also if we are to remain a glass half full audience, which I would hope that would be the case for my readers. Look at it as the heart sometimes has such a strong hold on the one it wants to connect with that what you initially want does not get to take form. You have someone that wants what contradicts what you want, so a “compromise” is to be made. Some may argue it is love. Love is defined as: an intense feeling of deep affection. This being the culprit of a lot of confusion. What about attraction? Attraction is defined as: the action or power of evoking interest, pleasure, or liking for someone or something. Love, and attraction, although worded differently can confuse the shit out of 2 people trying to make sense out of how they feel for each other. Biggest concern I have thought of is the man or woman so intent on living together because he or she needs to know at all times who is in that bed. If a man and woman are in a relationship and they have communicated intentions with each other about being exclusive. Then why is it that either side would feel the need to live together. Not saying it is wrong for a couple married or not to be in the same house together. Oh man can it get old. Bangov is the solution, right? Well where can a compromise be made? Compromise is defined as: an agreement or a settlement of a dispute that is reached by each side making concessions. This is when you look at your woman, you may love, or just have a deep attraction to. “Mary Beth?” You and I have been together a long time and I wish to build a life together. Now we already have 2 homes, and we are happy as things are. Why don’t you and I think about having children and what would you say to us living in separate homes in order to keep the romance alive. No more do I need to tell you “wait 15 minutes before entering the bathroom. You never have to pick up after me again. No more dishes, half the laundry and when you need a break from the kids, just drive them on over. We make a schedule and we are not always in each other’s business.. Whether this is helpful or not is really up to each couple and how this suits their needs and wants of a relationship. Lot of conversation and what makes sense to you just makes sense. As couples I hope that you try new things, things that don’t cost thousands of dollars up front. Maybe one of you will stay at someone’s house for a while to see how you feel differently not sleeping with your partner every night. May just find out why you enjoy them by your side in the first place. Relationships are an experiment from the first date till the last till the day you both either give up or grow old and die. Don’t be afraid to try new things. As time goes on, people change, and so do wants and needs, so always be honest and don’t be afraid to let the other one know what makes you happy. When you’re not happy, the relationship is doomed to fail. Bangov Actual, out.
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