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Numb is a feeling we all know all too well. What’s weird is that we feel numb sometimes to keep us from feeling other things. Numb is defined as: deprived of the power of sensation. So maybe it is when we give up some powers that we feel most at peace. We have many forms of power, but also many ways we can feel numb. Numb to touch, emotion, action, even influence. We are free from emotion as a lack of needing emotion itself. A bottle of wine can do a lot of things. Can be a great night out, or in, due to the occasion of being by yourself or with a loved one. Alcohol itself has a presence in a room. When alcohol is present, it becomes about what was discussed over a bottle of McAllen, Pendleton, Pinot Noir. Memories are made when numb to the touch, we remember what we felt more when we are numb to the touch. We remember and express aspects of life that if in full control we wouldn’t think to express. Decompression of the human mind comes with therapy or means of alcohol that we express deep within. When we have only moments to reflect back on when telling our life story, touch seems to be a waste of time. To be numb we lose the flight response because we are numb, not worried about being shot, or stabbed, poked, prodded. We tend to forget that you don’t have to feel touch in order to feel pain. A broken heart happens from within, so we must think to ourselves for when numbness subsides that we still don’t have any open wounds. All it takes is another drink for the vicious cycle to start all over again. Numb is also defined as: deprived of feeling or responsiveness. When we are numb, in times of joy we are very active. Jumping running, hooting, hollering. As well when we are sad, we want to do anything to avoid the feeling that we are dealing with. When the numbness goes away we are faced with 2 realities. The fact that we ran away and the fact that drinking did nothing to solve it. The reality you have for yourself only changes when the pursuit of another is initiated. So don’t forget to be responsive, and act. Bangov Actual, out.

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Eye on the ball, we are all so distracted with social media now, I’m guilty of this as well. As you look closer to what is being sold to you. Remember everything is a salesmanship, everything is being sold to you, even a like or a comment makes people money on Instagram now. So the time you have invested into someone else for the past hour has been great for them. Has it been mutually beneficial for you? Of course I am not saying that people don’t have beautiful pictures, and I am guilty of looking. Just sometimes I tell myself I have to not look at these sorts of things until night time. Maybe while a movie is in the background, looking for inspiration. I will find myself flipping through things and also have to tell myself NO. DO NOT GET ANOTHER HOBBY. Don’t just be doing these types of things because you’re bored. Sounds pretty lame and this is why people don’t always want to work on themselves or the project they intended to start years ago. I can think of a million reasons to not be typing or thinking where I want to travel. A million reasons to distract myself from doing what I need to be doing in order to get where I want to in life. I find myself feeling for the people trying to do the same thing in the picture. Are they really happy, or is this work to them? Is this them being happy, no idea what is going on behind the curtain. I tell myself, good for them, but what about me? It is OK to be selfish, so for me to be that way I minimize my time spent on things that are other people’s happiness and focus on my own. Looking at pictures constantly is not going to make the reality of it any more true than the couch you are on. People always tell me, I need this, it is going to help me, and they are on Instagram for 2 hours. Keep lying to yourself, you have done nothing for yourself, and it is not helping you to think what if, what if. You’re a dreamer and not a doer. Keep dreaming all you like but that is just you lying to yourself that you’re getting closer. Interesting enough, I can help with that. Instead of looking at multiple pictures. Choose 1. One picture of where you would like to go. Print it out, frame it if you would like. Put it on your wall and devise a plan in order to make it a reality. Then don’t look at any other picture. Just the one you printed out. Eye on the ball, keep that picture in sight before you go to bed and when you wake up. You now have affirmations you no longer have to write down. If a picture is worth a 1000 words then you have one right by your bed. See what it does to you. Don’t look at your phone in a million places you can never will because you won’t even choose one to go to and stick to it. One picture, just stare at it till you fall asleep. I know guys I am a lot of fun. I’m a dream killer because dreams are why so many of you are miserable. You have so many dreams and you never think you want to make them come true so that you get over the fact that dreams are just things you’re missing out on in life. So one picture, and nothing else until it is achieved. Scatterbrained with so many things you want to do and see, you’re not going to be able to do everything in life, so just pick a few that may make you content with the life you had. Eye on the ball. Bangov Actual, out.

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Emotions are very slow, we usually wait for when it feels right. What we forget is there is a warm up period to where when you go through with the first few reps, then pause. You realize, your body just needs a few reps to get into the groove of things. You never think about going to work, 9-5, sometimes 12 or 14 hours a day and thinking I need to warm up. You yell at yourself, you have to be there and this has to get done. Or you are fired, you get let go from the job and they find someone else. Has nothing to do if you can handle the job or not. You know you can do it because you’ve been doing it for 6 months or longer. What you are afraid of is when you are trying to create something for yourself, nobody is there to keep you accountable other than yourself. You won’t fire yourself even though you probably should. You’re not getting paid getting a business off the ground and you still think money should be the incentive for you to continue what YOU CREATED. You’re entitled and you just need to think everyday if I do it for 5 min, I’ll be warmed up to it and I’ll be able to push on for hours. Warm yourself up to what needs to get done today. Set goals if you’d like, it doesn’t really matter if you achieve them, you’re not going to fire yourself. The incentive should be that in 5 years you’re going to wish you worked hard the past 5 years and nobody will be to blame. Incentives are a great way to put a fire under your ass and get you moving. Motion creates motion so just start walking and just maybe you’ll start running. On a cellular level when cells begin to move, they start to create friction, friction means heat and heat means fire. Step by step, one foot in front of the other, whatever you have to tell yourself to get your fat, lazy, hangover of drugged up ass to get moving just know it starts with the warm up. Do push ups, go run, squat thrusts, SEX, incentive for you and your partner to get up, be a team in getting up and conquering the day. Bangov Actual, out.

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Asking questions is one of the hardest parts of learning. You may not know what questions to ask. It is only questions you can ask through what has already been learned that really will make sense to you. Almost like if I showed you how to screw in a light bulb only then would you ask how it works, where are the wires, and how long will it last. I have found myself most interested in learning more when I am doing that thing. It is how my mind is able to see what needs to be asked, that the question is formed and I can proceed with getting better at something. Writing, or blogging, whatever you want to call what you’re reading is something more and more everyday I find myself getting better at. Not the typing itself. I’m slow as shit at that. The gathering of ideas is what has helped me. Typing them out is just what my fingers are being told to do by my mind that is constant with expression in order to communicate the world as I see it. To make a sandwich I need bread. What is bread? What is it made of, where does it come from? All questions for me derive from actions that have been set in motion. When I have thought of schools I have went to I look back and always have asked in every subject, “why the fuck do I need to know this?” Always for months being beaten over the head with information I have never been able to utilize because I wasn’t sure where it was to be implemented. Biggest issue I have with our education system is it is controlled by the fear of not getting sued. Always have started with either a safety class. Which I agree with when being near harsh chemicals or things that may be hot. You learn to not touch them. Education doesn’t start with all the precautions of life. You don’t sit your child down when they are 18 and tell them everything that could go wrong when they say they want to become a doctor. We are not worried about them suing us. Which is why we teach them as they grow. We monitor them and through time we develop an awareness of what is hot, or bad for us. We learn through experiences as well. Someone has shown us that the stove is hot. Someone has shown us that we don’t drink for various reasons. When you’re in a classroom they tell you to read about things you have never seen or touched just so they can say they told you so and avoid a lawsuit. Even worse, you have to figure out how to pull a question out of your ass, or for you Christians, thin air, about something you have never seen, touched, heard or tasted. You’re essentially remembering words for the first couple months and concepts only come after when you have proved you are not a liability through taking a test you just know the words matched with each concept. Then when that person burns a hand, cuts fingers off, everyone goes welp, we told them so. Absolutely no efficiency and no way of correcting the problem. Remember intelligence is defined as: the ability to acquire and apply knowledge and skills. Can only be upset with someone for doing something wrong when they have actually done it the correct way. Not just read it in a book or be told. Lazy teaching sickens me. Bangov Actual, out.

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What happens when you work a 9-5? Your bills are all paid every month, all your expenses managed. You’re comfortable in your life and how it is now. A little time goes by when you get in your nice car, go to work and you realize that you have not moved up or done anything in a few years. Ambition sets in. Ambition is defined as: a strong desire to do or to achieve something, typically requiring determination and hard work. We know that hard work is coming. You already know you have to continue on another consistent path, or if you prefer, a persistent path in order to achieve whatever next level vision you have for yourself. Only takes a moment to make the decision and will take maybe another year or 2 of your life depending on the endeavor. Could take 20 years. What is really amazing is that we still have that as a person. If that is to be channeled into our relationships. Goals as a couple, goals at work, with your kids. Then life as you know it gets better with time, or at least you focus on the things that mean most to you and those will never be “perfect” but with your persistence they will be long lasting joy. More importantly we will teach the generation after these types of morals and type of work ethic as a way of life, not just because I told you so. That way no more when the military go to fight they won’t ask what they fight for anymore. They will see clear as day what they are trying to protect and not be sold the lies that have been used over and over again. Cheap trigger words, like freedom, liberty, and “Democracy.” For fuck sake people we live in a republic. Republic is defined as: a state in which supreme power is held by the people and their elected representatives, and which has an elected or nominated president rather than a monarch. Familiar? well it should be. Every swinging dick and snatch on either side of the table, left, right, lazy rhino, these fuckers refer to us as a democracy. Democracy is defined as: a system of government by the whole population or all the eligible members of a state, typically through elected representatives. Problem that most of us have seen with Democracy is that it generally dissolves into chaos. Mob rule is initiated by a group of individuals and then they impose their will on elected officials till they get their way through imposing arbitrary laws on the rest of society. Which brings me back to my initial point is being the ambitious bunch I know you all are, you find ways around these laws in the most beautiful way. For example, no more bump stocks, not a problem, I’ll just get faster on the trigger. Shorter barrel length, no problem, just create a 300 blackout round designed off a 9 inch barrel, or purchasing an arm brace and legally classifying your rifle as a “pistol” or “firearm” hahaha you bunch of criminals. I love every single one of ya. Also for those of you who are not gun nuts, gear queers, rifle rats, ammo addicts, trigger riggers, examples I have for you are not wearing a mask, you put a thong over your face. Have an emotional support animal signed by your doctor, no more monthly pet fee on your rent. I LOVE AMERICA!!! Get out there you ambitious buffoons, Bangov Actual, out!

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I have had this conversation with many people and it has taken me years to come to a conclusion. For a lot this may seem out of your norm. For others this may seem right up your alley as a new way for relationships to be considered. Those of you who want kids, but don;t want marriage. Does it ever occur to you that the one you want kids with may ;see a need to be married? Ya, I know, people want happiness… Makes me SICK!!…Also if we are to remain a glass half full audience, which I would hope that would be the case for my readers. Look at it as the heart sometimes has such a strong hold on the one it wants to connect with that what you initially want does not get to take form. You have someone that wants what contradicts what you want, so a “compromise” is to be made. Some may argue it is love. Love is defined as: an intense feeling of deep affection. This being the culprit of a lot of confusion. What about attraction? Attraction is defined as: the action or power of evoking interest, pleasure, or liking for someone or something. Love, and attraction, although worded differently can confuse the shit out of 2 people trying to make sense out of how they feel for each other. Biggest concern I have thought of is the man or woman so intent on living together because he or she needs to know at all times who is in that bed. If a man and woman are in a relationship and they have communicated intentions with each other about being exclusive. Then why is it that either side would feel the need to live together. Not saying it is wrong for a couple married or not to be in the same house together. Oh man can it get old. Bangov is the solution, right? Well where can a compromise be made? Compromise is defined as: an agreement or a settlement of a dispute that is reached by each side making concessions. This is when you look at your woman, you may love, or just have a deep attraction to. “Mary Beth?” You and I have been together a long time and I wish to build a life together. Now we already have 2 homes, and we are happy as things are. Why don’t you and I think about having children and what would you say to us living in separate homes in order to keep the romance alive. No more do I need to tell you “wait 15 minutes before entering the bathroom. You never have to pick up after me again. No more dishes, half the laundry and when you need a break from the kids, just drive them on over. We make a schedule and we are not always in each other’s business.. Whether this is helpful or not is really up to each couple and how this suits their needs and wants of a relationship. Lot of conversation and what makes sense to you just makes sense. As couples I hope that you try new things, things that don’t cost thousands of dollars up front. Maybe one of you will stay at someone’s house for a while to see how you feel differently not sleeping with your partner every night. May just find out why you enjoy them by your side in the first place. Relationships are an experiment from the first date till the last till the day you both either give up or grow old and die. Don’t be afraid to try new things. As time goes on, people change, and so do wants and needs, so always be honest and don’t be afraid to let the other one know what makes you happy. When you’re not happy, the relationship is doomed to fail. Bangov Actual, out.

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Consistent vs persistent, which one are you? I am always trying to challenge language in how we communicate towards others. Look at any Instagram influencer and they are always talking about consistency. The power of consistency, how consistency will be the inevitable change that if you choose to be consistent with your endeavors, inevitably things will change. Consistent is defined as: acting or done in the same way over time, especially so as to be fair or accurate. Personally I am more of a fan of persistence. Just as persistence is defined: continuing firmly or obstinately in a course of action in spite of difficulty or opposition. Persistence to me seems a little more my speed and as well I can relate more to persistence. Anyone who believes that society is holding them back in a certain way can use it as a way of thinking that no matter the opposition or difference someone has about your way of life. They will not only just be another obstacle, they will also just be another face in a crowd of people that are not worth your time in fighting. Opposition is defined as: resistance or dissent, expressed in action or argument. OR a group of adversaries or competitors, especially a rival political party or athletic team. Being persistent against those you disagree with,  you learn weaknesses, or even better, how to utilize their strengths against them. Don’t focus solely on those who disagree with you, focus on more those you can add to your idea and that can help you build the empire you intended. Who knows, it may be so big that they can’t help but to see your side or live the way you do without knowing it. Kind of like those who bitch about capitalism and child labor laws all while wearing Nike Shoes. Contradictions in life are funny. Persistence to me is all about creating who you are going to be in the long run. Be persistent in your battles toward what you want and battles will be things that don’t even phase you. Numb to the feeling of being challenged, all you will see is opportunity, and those who are too lazy, entitled will stop fighting you. My hope for this blog is that people would begin to challenge the lessons being taught to them. think about what has been told to you by your father, your mother, a teacher. See if in a way you could do better than those who tried to influence you while growing up. Were they just passing knowledge that didn’t work for them, or were they just full of shit. A Bangov Actual, out.

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