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“Problems” Or A Different Approach

Writing to make things bearable. This is why I tell you to write things down. You can’t remember everything. Write down your thoughts, frustrations, goals, ambitions. Keys you have written down will open so many doors for you to embrace how much you’re feeling inside and will bring what is inside to life. I write to communicate. The mouth cannot regurgitate everything that the mind is thinking. It is fitting a super computer on a turn belt, Niagara falls through a straw, which is the same feeling when trying to piss while having an erection, so maybe poor choice of words, but let us move on from this. The mouth can only say what it is trained to say. Think of learning a foreign language, you must train linguistically through repetitive movement of the mouth. Your tongue is a muscle, just like your brain, but what needs to be said needs to be written down first. Accumulate all of your thought processes and analyze them over time. Those who say or do things today may say and do something different a year from now. For me the things I write to you are not only thoughts but the process in which they are expressed. These give me time to digest thoughts and emotions I would rather not express until I have further had time to consolidate what I am trying to communicate. Remember using big words does not make someone intelligent. Intelligence is defined as: the ability to acquire and apply knowledge and skills. Everyone is intelligent in something, I have said it before. I believe everyone has a talent, and I love to drag it out of them in order to show them they are special in their own way and should utilize their talents in order to rise above poverty or even out of their comfort if they choose to do so. Bangov should be in all of our minds as a way for us to break through barriers. We do not dodge obstacles, we face them head on and on an occasion we step to the side for when shit hits the fan. We can all be intelligent in something, but ignorance is when you think you have it all figured out. I write as a way of getting all I have going for me and all I need to work on in front of me. With so many lock doors and so many keys, it is in my best interest just to keep putting keys into doors till some open. Those who are tired of problems, step into my world and welcome problems as a neurological strike to the brain in order to help you find solutions. Problems are defined as: a matter or situation regarded as unwelcome or harmful and needing to be dealt with and overcome. The need for whatever comes your way will inevitably lead you to a new perspective, as long as you stay positive, what you have in your mind will be all the strength you need to push forward in your endeavors. Bangov Actual, out.

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My Version Of “Fake It Till You Make It”

Pretending who we need to be, to get where we want. To me everything is salesmanship. Only difference is I am not forcing customers to buy anything they don’t actually need. Bangov is not to take up space in your home, but it is for you to take with you everywhere you go. Confidence is defined as: full trust; belief in the powers, trustworthiness, or reliability of a person or thing, or belief in oneself and one’s powers or abilities; self-confidence; self-reliance; assurance: Bangov is for you to take along your journey of taking risks, daydreaming. Being confident in yourself when you need the strength to move forward. The belief you have in yourself of course will come with time. I didn’t create Bangov in a day, week or year. It has been my life’s work, a constant fear of never having enough money to do the things I wish, living the life I wanted. Never taking risks on love, thinking I have to be at a point in my life in order to live my life. Sometimes it is good to pretend. It helps us solidify the dreams in our heads and realize that the distance between having a dream and living one are only a couple decisions away. For the ladies maybe a dress you can’t afford, makeup and hair done, and OF COURSE let’s not forget about the shoes. For my gentlemen, nice suit, watch, haircut and shave. To treat yourself with things you wouldn’t usually have is just putting on a face of who you are inside. Problem is people usually retreat back to those whom they think they have to be to please others. Or worse, they don’t try to hold on to the dream for as long as possible. Believe me I understand having to make sacrifices in order to get to where you want to be. That does not mean the dream may stay the same. Dreams are evolving with time and experiences. Like a blank canvas you wake up to every morning. Just pick up the brush and start painting and see what comes of your motion. Have confidence in yourself, whatever face you choose to put on, brave face, tired face, angry face and trust yourself that you can keep going. When it has been a hard day, I quietly whisper to myself, Bangov. To me Bangov is something for all to hold on to when you need an anchor. Something when your mind is lost, you need something to ground yourself to. When you’re afraid of floating away, being forgotten, Bangov will always be there. As I am continually trying to make Bangov more accessible to others, through blogs, social media, some day an app which I am tirelessly trying to figure that shit out. I whisper because it is what I wake up thinking about, and what makes it hard for me to fall asleep at night. My hope is for all who read, that you will find your Bangov one day. To dream is such a beautiful thing, and to be lost in your dream is just another way to say you’ve made it a reality.

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The Fear Of Love

Love is a very daunting task to me. Daunting is defined as: causing fear or discouragement; intimidating. Most of us have felt the feeling. High school sweetheart, summer fling, or maybe even a friend you just couldn’t help but push away anymore. We have love, and lost, then lost the love. Like most things that are worthwhile, they take time. That is the only way we know that they are worth the effort. Anything that takes away time from something else is what our focus is on. I focus on many things that I probably shouldn’t. Love is not one of them as I spend all my waking hours writing to you, so it’s no wonder why I am still single. Or hell at least always at arms length with marriage and what it means to me. That all being said, one thing is clear to me, that when I graduated high school, the world had just ended, so to speak. Then when I got out of the military it ended again. You think after all I have written about positivity I would have looked at it in a different light, but that would not be honest to my readers. As I was young, my cynicism grew and grew…and grew. Thing about cynicism(cynical) which is defined as: distrusting or disparaging the motives of others. What I have realized is the relationship between love and fear. When you lose someone, a relationship, or they just are not around anymore. Fear is no longer a reasonable emotion. They are already gone. We fear losing them, we fear the day they may not be there, or the experiences we may not get to have with them. Fear is what keeps people together or apart. Fear is defined as: a distressing emotion aroused by impending danger, evil, pain, etc., whether the threat is real or imagined; the feeling or condition of being afraid. Remember fear is just as real as you imagine it to be. So whatever your fears, focus on who and what you want in life and the rest of those fears will pass with time. I have had the pleasure of seeing beauty in the eyes of someone sleeping next to you. You want to tell me something that makes you afraid, pshss try waking and staring at someone when they are at their most vulnerable. As they sleep and hair in their face, a slight bit of drool creeping out of the corner of their mouth, and you put a blanket over them because you felt a slight chill and you’re no longer next to them keeping them warm. You ask “why didn’t he stay in bed with her?” I was making breakfast bitch! It was a Thursday and we got work to do, so don’t give me any shit. So my question to you is do we hold on in fear of them being gone? If you have ready anything previous to this you know I am a huge proponent of choice. That is because it eliminates false senses of security that we have woven into our society’s willingness to comply with the decisions of the masses. In my experience giving someone the choice to make their own decisions, may not always give you what you want, but both parties end up finding peace they can live with. Love should no longer be the goal, it is merely the byproduct of making the decision to be with someone above all because we truly do want them. Then years down the road when time has been invested in the relationship, you will know the fear of losing them will be for the right person. Not just because you are controlled by fear. Bangov Actual, out.

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Friends Are Always There

We’re all trying to figure out life’s challenges. We call them challenges, but they are just choices. Kids, who we want to be and be with. You said so yourself you don’t need all the answers right now. Some of us must remember if there’s an answer we need, then don’t live in ignorance. Seek answers, and ask questions. Conversation shouldn’t be the fear. Decisions shouldn’t be either but ignorance is terrifying when we think about what might have been. When a friend is in need, be there. Maybe the gesture will be returned to you. Maybe not, only this way will you find out If the company you keep is the company you want.  I have always said I have the greatest friends in the world. It is because they constantly surprise me. We do not owe each other anything, we do not talk all the time, we don’t see each other all the time. I am far from them, but in the end they are always there. A constant reminder of those I have in my life. Knowing who they are answers so many questions that I need not ask them. They are forever images and hopes of a life where I could be with them always, but life’s ambitions keep me from them. I am a constant seeker, while those who choose to stay have found their bliss. A man in search of a vision(or woman) is that of relentless anxiety that if they stand still, they may be forgotten about. Waking up in a sea of decisions that needs to be made within the hour to make sure your day is more productive than the last. When the day is done, the dust has settled, I still see them, they are the calm, right before the storm starts again. May just answer some questions on why I encourage you as readers to open yourself up to others. People will hurt you, but it is part of the experience of finding those you will need to fight exceptionally more fierce battles. For those of you who have all the wrong ones around you. You’re better off alone if you choose to be better.

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Build Your world, Also Pick Up Your Fucking Mess.

There is just something about making breakfast in the morning. eggs , potatoes, maybe some grilled bacon or sausage. Is it the food or the action that sets the mood for peoples day. Throw in some morning sex and you that is the breakfast of champions. Fuck Cereal. Then again cereal does not nag you about the lawn not being mowed and the garage needing to be cleared out. Yes ladies, welcome to the mind of a man. When misery sets in we tend to remember the simple things in life. Food, working in the garage, which by the way garages go through fazes, and ladies if your shit is in there too, don’t be bitching at your man until all your bikes and pottery shit is out of the way. I invite all couples dealing with household duties into my world of simply taking pleasure in the project of cleaning. If cleaning is a recurring problem for you then just remember the act of doing something, like making breakfast. Simple acts of starting a task for some will inevitably create a motion to finish what was originally intended. Like a business..see what I did there. Putting things off like cleaning the garage may be your biggest problem right now, but what about when it is finished. Continuously we evolve based on the situation we are in. As soon as the garage is cleaned you will think, “I have so much room now, maybe a gym, maybe a studio for my music, whatever your heart desires.” With that being said a project in my experience has never been a finished piece when it comes to organizing your life. Starting with your garage, it is a series of evolution that need to take place. We see the garage as a daunting task that is looked down upon. Even if we finish we think we still won’t be happy with the result. With that negativity it is no wonder that people don’t make the time to do it. What is even weirder is that we have this place, or part of what is supposed to be our home that is daunting to think about. What next? The kitchen, unfinished bedroom? Getting these types of things put back into order is all part of the construction of creating a productive and efficient household. Thankfully I have been equipped with the OCD complex of not liking things to be too dirty before I start working. Hahaha I clean dishes before I start eating what I just cooked. When it comes to dinner though I will maybe have a glass of wine so it is really not that bad. As well it just has to feel unorganized for me to start throwing things away I do not need or wiping down the office table. In fact if I have to look at this stapler I haven’t used in 6 months the walls will start to bleed. Ok sorry, it’s in the drawer, but now I know it’s in the drawer so ill get rid of it later. My business is all online, why do I need a stapler. Ok rant over. Understand the projects that in life you don’t want to tackle right now are not going anywhere. I only hope that your home is a place that encourages more perspective, and gives you ideas that come from a positive attitude. Go clean that garage, build some shelves, get everything off the ground so for cleanup all you need is an air compressor or leaf blower. Also stop saying that one or the other should be doing things. We all need help sometimes, especially the garage when all of you use it. Make it a family thing and finish in a quarter of the time. Any job can feel daunting when you think you have to do it alone. Bangov Actual, out.

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Expect Nothing, Communicate Everything

Expectations are only that which are communicated to each other. Job, transaction, parenting, friendships, EVEN SEX, is a negotiated relationship between individuals. I know I have been consistent with relationships between others, but these relationships are very important. Think of creating anything with no help. A business, product, or service, anything you do in order to market yourself, your social skills must improve, saying hello, good morning, good afternoon, good evening, shaking hands looking them in the eye, genuine acts of benevolence. Benevolence is defined as:the quality of being well meaning; kindness. The more genuine you are, which is why I try to be as definitive in who I present to others, being myself. The more I have realized others willingness to engage and be inclusive in conceptualizing. Conceptualizing is defined as: form a concept or idea of something. Be mindful that people are always about “good vibes,” or about being involved with those who encourage growth in how they want to identify.

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What Is Business To You?

What is a business, the cliche what you eat, sleep, breath. I just don’t think people of the younger generation are getting it. You don’t need a brick and mortar, you don’t even need to have a name yet. You just need to create an LLC in order to have a beginning for what you may end up calling something else. If your name is John Smith, then call it John Smith LLC. The name can come later after you find a product or service you would like to commit to, or even when you find the demographic for your audience. Bangov obviously went through some fazes, haha no way was I going to have another “freedom” or “Liberty” company. Just the names alone make me want to start suck start a shotgun. Only prior military may laugh at that joke, but HEY guess what, that is my demographic. That is what is so great about being able to say such ridiculous shit, is my people I cater to may have a few screws loose anyway. Plus this is my site and you come to me for entertainment. Business is defined as: a person’s regular occupation, profession, or trade. With such a broad definition, it is no wonder people are lost. Break it down. Your profession, profession is defined as: a paid occupation, especially one that involves prolonged training and a formal qualification. Something you’re paid for. Do not get too caught up in what you need countless hours for. If you’re good at sucking dick, and have hours of experience doing it, well I can guarantee you it may be needed in your state, Also after you establish a good client base, you may want to bring on some help, once the word gets out growth is inevitable, SO MANY DIRTY JOKES, but I digress. Knowing you’re good at something and having the confidence to market yourself I know is easier said than done. Just get ready to fail and fail a lot. DOES NOT MATTER. It is all about trial and error in what is going to work and what is going to make your product or service become the new norm for others. Forget the definition for a minute and think of what a business would mean to you? The definition is just to help the understanding of you having the confidence to go through with the process. I had my attorney do it and it cost about 3k, RELAX. I know for you penny pinchers that may seem like a lot of money, but when a lot more money is to be made then 3k, is all about the start-up costs. Also that is what a bank is for. Can we all come together on this and PLEASE quit demonizing banks? They literally give you money. Yes I know you have to pay it back, but I took out 20k for Bangov and was able to pay it off in a year. Was it easy? No, it is all about what you’re willing to sacrifice in your life up till now in order to create the life you want. Business to me was finally putting all this effort towards working 9-5 and overtime, but putting it towards what I wanted to do with my life. I sold stuff I did not want to. I flipped cars, did all my side hustles I have spoken about before, had people move in my house when I could have definitely lived alone and cozy, but I was trying to create something that was for me. No telling what I would have done really to create this and that is what I want for all of you. No judgment on the decisions you may have to make to make something in your life finally work for you. When you people that have been emailing me, just know any story I have read is not approached with anything but a willingness to learn from which hell you have had to endure. I will admit if it is funny and I bet you I can find the humor in possibly anything, time and place of course. When other people tend to tell me things that they need help on, well I am here for you and I live to serve. Business is not so complicated guys, but it does take fortitude, and a lot of dedication over time. Whether it is worth it or not depends on when you get to say to yourself that you enjoy what you’re doing. When you have the rest of your life to commit to yourself and your aspirations. Seems like a pretty good life to me. Just don’t give up, by all means fail. I know talking to military some of you say I will not fail because you have had it drilled into you over years of service, but this is reality and you will fail, but I think you misinterpret failure and giving up. Those are 2 different things. Failure just means you need to go a different way about things for your vision to work. Giving up means you just are not going to try anymore. So FAIL, FAIL, FAIL. Fail everyday. Giving up is not the option here at Bangov Actual, out.

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