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People still tend to surprise me, pay attention to those around you, no matter how small of an interaction is meant to happen, they may even inspire you. Can’t tell you how many times I have come from those I have gotten negative experiences from. Either rude, or just aggressive individuals. It is all just a rush of chemicals to the brain that may trigger different responses and give you new ideas. Positive interactions are great, but it is the negative ones that people tend to need help with. They either shut down, or don’t see a learning experience in the situation they are in just because they are mad, sad, frustrated. Still your responsibility as an adult to utilize every situation as a learning environment. People in my life, long term or short consistently give me a different insight into the world I live in. Giving me new ambition to see different parts of the world and gain an insight that may be lost on the majority of people that are not looking. We tend to confuse people as complicated. Societies are complex of course. We have seen what damage can be done just by simple misunderstandings. Only takes an individual to initiate a mob mentality. I hope to inspire people to take control of their own lives. It is how they react to a push back will define if they are to go the distance in order to make their lives worth something other than what has been deemed “right” or “normal.” Some are in it just to survive and I can’t blame them. It has been taught since the beginning of man, and I am not saying to go against that. I will say incorporate your dreams so that in the end you can say you flourished, not just existed. Of course even existence can be taken for granted. Breath, build, fuck, and fight all you wish. When that big ball of rock hurling towards us finally decimates, or when the sun blows up. what will be the next? Continue the same disputes that have occurred time and time again? Always was interesting to me how when you graduated high school there was an understanding that the past quarrels, or grudges that had kept two people apart were now laid to rest. So why don’t we have that now? After 30? Maybe 50? I mean grudges held for hundreds of years between groups of people, I mean hit the snooze button or wake me when you guys build a bridge and get the fuck over it. These continuous wars that never seem to end give me the impression that they need to continue in order for someone to keep getting paid? Government? Religious leaders? Who knows? Just know it is not a war I am interested in fighting. All this inspiration may or may not have come from a homeless guy wearing military camo, trying to sell me a bottle of water. Poetic, I know. Bangov Actual, out.

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Reflection of past blogs, always good to reflect on past blogs to see how you have changed. All this bullshit of people being ridiculed for things they said 10 years ago. How about we ask today what the person thinks of these same scenarios. Not as if I am going to be the one to care. Say anything you want to about any group of people. Does not bother me any. Even if they were talking about me, it still wouldn’t bother me. I’m always told by people saying I have to care about other people’s feelings. Why!!! Why Is my opinion of any importance to those I do not know or have never even met. Seems as if a part of society thinks anyone who does not agree with you is a racist, or evil, or ignorant. To reflect is to see what has been said and how your perspective has changed with age and more wisdom. It is OK, you may have said some crazy shit when you were younger. That is OK. May have offended people, but that is all subjective. Understand that what you are trying to bring to the table is that people are either too afraid they will be ridiculed. To reflect is defined as: think deeply or carefully about. Think of all that has been said without proper reflection. Can’t tell me anyone who has a following has not said some dumb shit and regretted it. Whether they choose to commit to what they have said is up to them. Maybe they are catering to a specific pressure of a specific audience. You know like politicians always do to get votes. You either stand by what you said or maybe you’ve seen a different side of things. What was said was said, and words are cheap. Your actions on those words will show your intent and that is what I really look at when judging others. Bangov Actual, out.

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Why do we stay? Why do we endure those we have told ourselves not to go back to for certain reasons. He’s too short, not ambitious enough. We don’t communicate well, she’s erratic, and doesn’t get along with my family. Even when you are convinced you have found something about someone that will end the tie, and you will be able to finally break away. As those in a relationship, no matter if the relationship ends on good or bad terms, we all remind ourselves of the consequences of not associating with people we used to. Relationship, for 10 months or 10 years that person was a part of your life and you shared aspects of your life that you hoped they would understand. Your parents met them, your friends and you invited them into your life as an addition. Not sure if anyone I have met has ever gotten into a relationship in order to push someone else away. Maybe a ploy between the both of you to show your ex you’ve moved on so they stop eyeballing you in the bar, sure I get that. Those types of rouses are fine for about as long as it takes the guy or girl to back off. Whether they do or not is another blog entirely. Restraining orders are issued and just not a fun situation. Now aside from that dark situation. Those who can’t seem to break the cycle of letting this person into your life are in my opinion trapped or unaware. It’s not someone physically holding you down, but trapped is defined as: induce (someone), by means of trickery or deception, to do something they would not otherwise want to do. This also is just 1 of 2 situations I am trying to communicate. As well I am not trying to demonize anyone here. Emotions for one another are hard to control and everyone can react differently to the same chemicals telling us we want to be with that person. I look at it from the perspective of if one is intentionally trying to trick, or play mind games in order to coerce the other into being in that relationship. I have said before everything is about salesmanship. May just have fallen for a really good salesman. Sell yourself, you can sell anything, the first rule of sales I learned. The fault of going back to that person over and over again eventually becomes yours, but no matter who’s fault it is, it is still up to you to make the decision on if you would like to continue giving this person a part of your life. You may feel trapped in the web of familiarity, god sex and promises that were made prior before the relationship becoming confusing and turned to shit. Talked to couples that have been together for 10, 20 or even 30 years. They have all gone through some shit, and may even still be dealing with things. Relationships are a constant project, but when it comes time for it to end it is important for us to realize that it ending does not mean that it is over forever. Unless he or she was a terrible person, abusive. Look at it in a way where you’re still learning about you and what you want. Ever heard the story where the guy went back to his ex-wife? Ladies right now are shaking their heads.

The 2nd situation I want to refer to is that of 2 people in my opinion who are just unaware. Unaware is defined as: having no knowledge of a situation or fact. So you have 2 people that are unaware of the damage they may even be doing to each other. These I communicate more towards my younger audience, or your first real relationship. Without being aware of the damage we may be doing to someone else, we are also doing it to ourselves. Someone who can only remember the pain caused by you while you keep them “on the back burner” so I have heard others explain it to me. Of course some people will need to learn the hard way, just their nature and I ADMIT IT, I am one of them. I am 30, not married, and I have not yet “found the one”, or am too “into my career” right now”, or I am “ just having fun right now.” Not that these are lies. If you are not wanting to commit to someone then DON’T. With that being said, I revert back to my point, which is through the back and forth you really take the time to think and maybe notice the damage that you may be doing to a person that you can’t let go. Not letting them experience someone new for themselves just because it may be hurtful to you. It’s called heartbreak for a reason. Hurts for both parties, just not everyone reacts the same. For those of you trapped, or unaware, treat it as a situation that you need to get out of, or even a dangerous situation, because it is YOUR LIFE. Time being wasted on someone who can’t let go. If you have to move, or even simply just stop answering their calls for a little while till you are able to give yourself some clarity. Bangov Actual, out.

If I told you to write a book to tell someone how to succeed, would you tell someone what not to do, or would you tell them how to do it? I can’t imagine those who are successful. The billionaires of our time and what does it mean for them to write a book on success? Success is defined as: the accomplishment of an aim or purpose. How bout a book written about accomplishment, which is defined as: something that has been achieved successfully. How about legacy, which is defined as: an amount of money or property left to someone in a will. We see just by the definition of a word that things can be misconstrued or even left out entirely. For a very long time I have always asked those who have taught me different tasks. How? How? How? like the equivalency of those you with kids when they get to the Why? Why Why age. A child doesn’t commit to action until it knows why it has to do something. Why you shouldn’t say mean things. Cross the street without looking. Most adults think they know or can rationalize in their mind the why so they stop asking unless they are afraid, confused or don’t agree with the morality. As an adult it is all about asking how. How do I do this, or that? How do I become rich? How do I become successful? Immediately as adults the defeat that has kept up the standard for societal norms we rationalize in our own mind. This becomes important later in life. As a child we are smart enough to ask why we do something, and also instinctively challenge what we are told. As we age and think we have “matured” into adults we are brainwashed into thinking we have to live, eat, sleep, drink and fuck the way that society has done it the past generation. This leads to slow growth and continued poverty. How do I become something I am not? Why do I become something I am not? Like asking why would I want to make more money than I do now? Why, why, why? Be 5 years old again and give it a shot. I have heard many reasons you should not have more money or things that you want. Greed is bad, money is murder, more money more problems, Greed is the route of all evil, I don’t need money to be happy, money is not everything, or my favorite rich people are usually unhappy. What people tend to forget is money is not the objective. Listen to any millionaire/billionaire talk, they never give a specific dollar amount on what would make them happy. They do what they want and what they are passionate about in this life. I have said it before, if you are lazy or don’t care about getting the most out of life, then this is probably not the community for you. Most of the problem stems from when people get the answers of how and why then are too lazy or lose ambition the second they hear a solution. We must continue the why in how we live in order to fix what is broken, or just build new. Success, accomplishments, or whatever word you want to use to make yourself feel good about what you have done is going to take commitment. For some of you, depending on what you’re chasing, or how much money you’re chasing, it may take the rest of your life. That alone scares people into never trying. They are afraid of failure so they won’t even begin to try. Failure is not an option, it is inevitable, so you might as well start now in order to find out where you succeed. Everyone has their version of what it means so get off your ass and find your version. Bangov Actual, out.

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Relationships are hard. No shit statement of the year right? Well, what about it is hard? As well to break that statement down. Hard is defined as: solid, firm, and rigid; not easily broken, bent, or pierced. We say this to ourselves as well as others who may be going through things we have already been through. Problem with this is we confuse even ourselves with the language we choose to describe the “hard” problems that we may encounter when wanting to share intimacy with another person. Intimacy is defined as: close familiarity or friendship; closeness. Which in my experience is what hurts the most when a relationship comes to an end. The familiarity of someone that was once close and close for a long time. When it is over, a part of you seems like it is missing. Constant reminders of what you used to be together. Whether the relationship ended on good or bad terms, familiarity is something that when broken. It is partly ingrained into our subconscious. Creeps, and makes its way into our everyday life and weaves a web that is just below the surface of the skin. Can tug on heartstrings at times. We have all heard that wounds heal but scars remain. I have plenty of scars and they have never kept me from feeling something for another. They definitely have set another standard for the next person I choose to create familiarity with. Relationship is defined as: the way in which two or more concepts, objects, or people are connected, or the state of being connected. We just discussed familiarity, so why is it that when people have established they are in a relationship and it goes wrong why have I heard from others that they feel trapped? Trapped in what, you’re in a relationship, not in jail. You have no legal or moral obligation to anyone who gives you a feeling of entrapment. Familiarity can be both good and bad. Just depends on who you choose as your partner and how long you’re willing to stay. I won’t pretend to know what someone has gone through being in a bad relationship. I have been fortunate enough to be around some pretty incredible people in my life and those who seemed to be dead weight I dropped or just don’t care for their opinion, because FUCK EM! Or just realized some were going off in a different direction. Only thing I can offer to communicate is that I do know what it feels like to be trapped. Not knowing where to go, what to do with yourself and wanting something more. Changes will always have to be made and will always need to be made with the intention of doing things for yourself. If you are not enough incentive, then maybe your kids, or whoever in your life is maybe dependent on you. People I have met that have not only been through rough relationships, I am happy to say you couldn’t tell given they have a heart of gold and it has not stopped them in achieving great things as well. Definitely have kept a spark about them keeping a positive attitude about things to come. When you or someone you know is in a situation where familiarity in any aspect of life, relationships, job, or just life overall is in need of a change, look to yourself and ask what needs to change. Drastic changes and distance have always given me a fresh perspective on what I have needed for clarity. Distance has given me the insight and independence to think for myself. Without realizing, it has given me the self reliance in order for me to stand on my own 2 feet. Creating distance from issues, people, projects incentivizes us to trust ourselves more and get us moving. Don’t worry about making it rain with cash day one, just get your head out of the clouds first. Bangov Actual, out.

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Planning and logistics, to plan is to: the process of making plans for something. Which means work must be done, or action must take place in order for a plan to form. These things don’t just fall out of the fucking sky. These are times when you must become someone other than who you see in the mirror. Someone you have been afraid to be. To plan, or execute a plan it is to ignore your current emotional state. Rise above your problems and think “Elementary Watson.” I mean planning is just the beginning of what needs to be done. Since you have gone that far, might as well Forrest Gump it and just keep on going. Logistics is defined as: the detailed coordination of a complex operation involving many people, facilities, or supplies. Devil is all in the details, you may have heard this, but the way I see it is people don’t car much for those anymore, which is why most of our shit comes from China nowadays. Doesn’t matter to me, I choose to buy quality when it matters, and when I need a throwaway spatula, I’ll buy from China. This is a capitalist and Entrepreneurial blogging site. Encouraging those to stop being reliant on the basis of one individual income. Not saying you have to. Just saying don’t bitch or moan because you expect  your minimum wage job to support a lifestyle you cannot afford. You want a boat, well that’s a stream of income. You want a horse, well, ya gotta get one for that too. Make a list for the things you want in life and just attach one stream of income to each that you must create to pay for it.  Any hobbies you may have, or maybe even just go out to eat all the time. Or dream as big as possible and have one stream of income pay for them all. This is not a direct quote, but Warren Buffet had 20 different investment ideas and dedicated your life to no more than 4, you would be a very wealthy person. So find something you want to dedicate yourself to, and you will never look at work the same way again. BanGov, to me, is not something I have to do. I could choose to close up shop right now. No more blogs, no more anything. Discontinue and just toss in the towel. Does not matter the investment, only money right? Time? Gave me some business experience, the creative process. Hell from one job to a higher paying job that is pretty much all we need anyway right? More experience, new skills, or tools to put on our tool belts? Swinging from one branch to the other to get where we have envisioned. Well problem with Bangov, it is not just something that I have wanted to gain experience with. Website management, merchandise sales, product management, brand recognition. Now as sexy as all that may be to put on a resume, the difference between that is I don’t want another job. BanGov is not a job to me, it is an identity. Ya that’s right I did a gender change. Whole procedure changed and everything. Cut my dick off and replaced it with a Rolex so from now on I am only attracted to those who will wind the clock back and are worth my time. (I hear a rap song coming on) I know what you progressives are thinking. “Wow, he’s so brave.” Wrong, bravery is defined as: courageous behavior or character. Me, I just do what I want, and don’t care to label myself as something that is below my expectation of the word. Once you identify as something people will expect nothing less than what standard you have presented to them. That “Bravery” will quickly become what you were put on this earth to do. Bangov Actual, out.

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