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Take Away Everything, What Do You Have To Offer?

What if I was to tell you that I was taking every tool you had away from you? If you’re in construction, no more shovel, no more air compressor, nail gun, saws, nothing that you have grown accustomed to working with was available to you anymore. What would you do? If you’re a computer person, what would you do without one? What would be your adaptation to the world in order to survive, make money and sustain or even expand your way of life? Doing a lot of jobs has its perks of being able to do a lot of jobs, make connections, and when time is limited, being able to do things yourself. Nobody wants to call the electrician to put in a ceiling fan when it would take me 15 min. Of course that’s assuming my house isn’t built around WW1 and wires may have gotten crossed and while one switch used to work when I unplugged it now it doesn’t so I have to rewire the short one that has been cut too many times, but that’s another story. What is it inside of our brain that tells us what we are doing needs to change? We look at what we have, we look at what we own, and we think I want more, but less. I don’t want a bunch of meaningless things that fill up space in my home. I want things in my home that are utilized. If not I throw them out. As well utilized for certain purposes. I’m not saying throw out all your silverware and just have 1 spoon, 1 fork and a knife. Definitely not a place to entertain. I do look at all the things that have accumulated, and I just think that I would love to be able to move from place to place with just a backpack and my dog. Jump in the truck and go. Not saying this is for everyone, but for those who define your wants and needs out of life, what do we do in order to make them reality. It’s just an example, if you like having a lot of shit, go ahead. What do we identify with in our home. I see tools, I know someone likes to build things. Probably likes to save money and time if they prefer to do things themselves. If I walk into a home and see no tools at all. It’s just shiny shit, maybe what’s worth his or her time and money is paying someone else to do it for them. With what we own, we identify. Get rid of everything you own, and then ask yourself, would you buy it all again? Or did you buy it all in the first place thinking you would regret it? Bangov Actual, out.

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Dreams Can Be Shattered, Will You Be?

I’m reminded of dreams I had as a kid, first it was Babe Ruth, then Space Jam came out, so basketball was all I did. Baseball ended with a shoulder going out before high school. Basketball sort of ended when the military became the priority at 15. Sure I could have played ball still, but as I got older, college seemed like a place that I would have gone for my dreams to die. So I thought the Marine Corps was all unicorns and fairy dust, that is where I ended up. Military was hard to get away from, the financial security, travel, and would be something for me to learn new things for the next 20 years or so. Problem was I was always being told what to do, where to go, and shaving everyday was just nonsense to me. I had other dreams, and passions, I just didn’t know where to focus them at the time. When I think of all the sports, jobs and dreams that were in motion, I realize the follow through was what always was short. So knowing that I knew I never wanted to really do them. For as many twists and turns life will give you as you age, it has brought me to a point where I am now, and I continually question decisions made in the past. Of course reflection is not a bad thing, but always remember to not dwell. Look forward and make the decision to forget what could have been and focus on where you want to end up. Life could be perfect before you are 25. Billionaire, wife, kids, cars and a house. Remember the life you live continues through what passion drives you. Life can go bad at any time, so having a pursuit is always what will keep your head on straight. Don’t lose yourself in thinking that you’re finished, you’ve completed all you needed to. Many things to come are going to help you in living a full life, and a happy one. Bangov Actual, out.

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Fornicate Your Feelings

Why is it that words have become the focus of how we view people. Is it because we are still children underneath and think to ourselves that he or she hurt me so they deserve punishment? What makes you so special? Why does someone saying something as a joke have repercussions? Don’t care if it racial, or about an illness. Unless deliberately with the intention of harming someone, why is it that as ”adults” we can act in self righteousness like we have all the answers, and the second that we are offended, the real child comes out. Is it that we don’t take enough time to practice our emotions? Are we so consumed with movies and soap operas that we think we have to act in a certain manner? We have to put on a show, scream nonsense, cry, and try and convince the other person that what they said was wrong. Don’t assume they care, that is probably why they said what they said. If meant to harm then they probably care less. If you are one of those people who think we need to have a speech police to arrest the bad men and women who say mean things then life is going to be really tough for you. As it should because you refused to grow up and accept that people don’t have to be nice to you. They don’t have to be nice to you, they don’t even have to respect you. Yet you still think that the world was meant for you, and you think that if someone offends your sensibilities that they should be put on trial for murder in the first degree. Or is it 3rd, whatever, it is all the same that you think to yourself you are so special to say if anyone offends you.

I WILL ADMIT, not every joke even has to be funny, some people suck at telling jokes, which is really just more insulting to the joke itself, which i find offensive. Not that I will call the safe space police, but as an activist for those of the comic relief I do disdain a lack of commitment to the art of comedic relief. If you are to be offended by this blog then just understand that I say this with conviction that we as a people will say and do things in a matter of opinion, which if you remember everyone is entitled to. So that being said coming from a place of entitlement words may seem…well entitled, like they are said only to benefit those whose mouth they come from. I know I know it is crazy to think that someone may say things that would only benefit them. No, it is not a privilege when you can say the same words. Be strategic in how you speak and as well if you do come across the diabolic feeling of an offensive state, then either understand the feeling will pass, laugh about it if in a comedic environment, brush it off because it is not worth your time to engage in confrontation and make a bigger deal than is necessary. Basically the best advice I can give in addition to building a bridge and getting the fuck over it.

Not saying you can’t get offended, but just realize that your feelings don’t rule the world. You could even change your environment, friends or places you hang out at, but what does sheltering yourself from certain emotions do for you. Feeling anger and not knowing how to deal with it has a sense of emotional immaturity. Whatever you feel, become familiar with different emotions, especially those that cause trouble for yourself. Bangov Actual, out.

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Simple Pleasures

A simple pleasure in life is being able to educate, or inspire others. When you tell others about what they can do to make money, to build themselves a business. I mean a business for themselves. Not a ponzi scheme, or a get rich quick scams. I mean telling someone who knows very little about how money works, and telling them to go to a bank and take out even 100 dollars and say how could you double this? They say I don’t know. I ask “what do you have?” They say, “what do you mean?” SKILLS PEOPLE. What is it that you are good at? What’s interesting about the question, “how do I double my money?” What nobody tells you is that it is harder to double 100 than it is to double 1000 dollars. Of course you could buy 100 things for a dollar and sell them for 2 dollars. Seems easy, but what that takes away from you is your time. Having a 1000 dollars to invest may put you in a bigger debt but the potential is greater. Once more it really comes down to your thinking, and how creative you can get based on the skills you have. When I tell people to take out a loan they are terrified. Remember you don’t have to take out the loan and pay it back tomorrow. So what it means to take out 10,000 dollars gives you time to think of what you’re going to do to pay off the loan and make a profit. Of course I would recommend finding the business idea before a loan is taken out. I’m no financial advisor but I have taken out many loans and have always paid them off, just takes confidence in yourself that you’re willing to do whatever it takes to pay off the loan. Ironically that is what the bank, or credit union is hoping as well. For those of you who have that dream, and have just never thought you would have enough capital in order to make it come true. You thought you had to have a better job, or have more money in order for it to be possible for you to start your dream. Reality is you’re unaware that you can either ask a bank for the loan as I have done many times, or an investor. Someone who believes in your dream as well. If the excuses continue, it’s really because you don’t believe in yourself enough. Bangov Actual, out.

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The Three Of You

It’s the little things people usually notice in order to judge you. We all say we don’t care for what people think about us, and yet we still think to ourselves that we want to do something that makes people look at us.So is it that we don’t care what people think, or is it that we don’t care what people think of us until we get to where we want to go? When we get there, are we still looking for approval, are we going somewhere else so we don’t need it till we are where we want to be again? This is hard for me to word so just let me ramble for a bit while I get this out. Is it in moments of pause that we find comfort in approval. Focusing on the negative of course won’t get you where you want to go. If people didn’t have fans, would movies sell? When you accomplished something, would you want someone there to see? Would you want your family there for when you went to prison? Stop lying and saying that you don’t’ care what people think. What about your son or daughter? When they grow up, would they be proud of you? Would you care if they were? Been thinking a lot of 3 people. Who I am, who I want to be, and who people see. I am a big fan of angles, and the battle that they can win with just the right amount of leverage. To think of my future self is only a worry when I feel I am making poor choices, or headed in the wrong direction. Who I want to be is continuously under construction so my mind goes there in between choices I have made. I picture myself one way one day, then another day I have another image. Can never pinpoint who you want to be in life when you have as many ambitions as I do. Mind is a constant, so when I tend to find myself in between moments, taking a breath, or just a  thousand yard stare, then a glimpse of who I wish to present to the world becomes a little clearer. I won’t tell you who to be, but with that fire I know is inside you, bring to life what is burning inside. Who you choose to be is all a matter of the company you keep. Who you want approval from. This is why people sometimes tend to resemble those they seek approval from. They either wear the same uniform, have beards, or tattoos. In any case the bond you feel between individuals who idolize a man or woman who has done what they wish they had the courage to accomplish. In my opinion, what separates them is someone just had the courage, determination and will to follow through with what they pictured themselves as. Never mind fame, it is more of a feeling that well this life can end at any time, might as well dream as big as I can and go for that. Don’t forget that you still have the ability to dream and that is what will separate you from who you are and who you wish to be. Don’t accept that everything will be the same in 5 years. Constant change and willingness to improve is what it takes to keep things moving in the right direction. Don’t get complacent in your accomplishments. Of course celebrate if you would like. Just remember tomorrow, the work starts all over again. Bangov actual, out.

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The Beauty Of Fuck You

Jealousy has many faces. Jealous is defined as:feeling or showing envy of someone or their achievements and advantages. Synonyms for jealousy I find to be fascinated due to the perspective it opens. Usually when i have heard someone speak of a jealous person they do it in a passive aggressive way in order to make quick sense of a person’s irrational or even erratic behavior. Synonyms of jealousy are: enviousness,covetousness, desire,resentment, resentfulness, bitterness, discontent, spite, grudge, the green-eyed monster, suspicion, distrust, mistrust, doubt, insecurity, anxiety, apprehension about, rivals, possessiveness, over protectiveness, protectiveness. defensiveness, vigilance, watchfulness, heedfulness, mindfulness, care. solicitousness, attentiveness, just to name a few. Sounds pretty fucking evil right? Well no actually, evil is defined as: profoundly immoral or wicked. Not that Jealousy can’t turn into immorality. With such an easy definition.

Jealousy is a great way for me to describe to you, for anyone who reads this to choose your words more carefully. In moments of erratic behavior, arguments, verbal confrontation, really try and be careful with the words you may use to describe someone. If you call someone jealous, understand all the other words that coincide with that word. This doesn’t aid in a solution for you to just scream out random words in order to project an image on someone in order to win a crowd. In fact it just furthers confrontation. For anyone who may have an issue with someone for any sort of reason, it may take more than 20 min of hard thought in order to gather what you may describe that person as. Are they really jealous? Is there something underlying that could be the issue? You put that into perspective, you may have found a solution you both can agree on.

I would rather people said “fuck you” than label them as a word that is not conducive to finding a solution, or resolution. Fuck you is said in a defensive manner when not having anything else to say or when you’re establishing that you will not be walked over. People don’t really remember fuck you,but they do remember an impression they didn’t mean to give. Call someone evil, jealous, or racist. They know that to convince you otherwise is an uphill battle that may not be worth their time. So they walk away, and now 2 people who may have come to an understanding are now bound by their ignorance’s that could have been saved with simply digging into the heart of the problem. As a community, learning to communicate, just makes the community seem that much more productive, when we all speak with a purpose. Bangov Actual, out.

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Only One To Beat Is Yourself

You can get mad, kick, scream, and show the world you are angry. Or you can stay calm and show yourself that you can handle anything that is thrown your way. Physical endurance, training yourself to be equipped for the things life throws at you. You’re still human, yes, but any battle that is worth all of your effort will be matched by the focus you bring to it. Don’t be cast aside by those who think they have it all figured out. They are just as lost or or even more scared than you. When they shout at you, stare them in the eye and you will read fear. Not anger, not determination. We are all on the same level here. Striving for greatness, struggling to reach the next level. Question is, how do we know when we are ready for the next level? Well first is when you choose that you want to accept the challenge. Worst thing is that you could fail. With that comes all the education you need for when you realize that believing yourself takes practice. You might as well start with speaking to those who think they rate to speak down to you. May not happen day 1,but be consistent in your actions of speaking up. Make some noise and people will automatically look in your direction. All it takes is a few seconds for you to grab an audience. So in the lead up to having people look at you, make sure you have the attention grabber. Make sure you are ready for them to start listening. When they start to listen, they will question what they have been told, they will test your standings and ask why they should stand with you. Building your own company is those who believe in common values. Basic principles in a way of life that makes them want to fight with you for it. When they are willing to fight with you, you realize that you’re not crazy, you’re not the only one who has been thinking these things. Night sweats, nightmares, screaming in your pillow, all that becomes the past when you wake up. You’re mind and body battling it out like 2 people going back and forth, amping each other up for the fight of their life. Mind versus body continues till the intended pursuit comes into focus and when they both have the vision, it is all clear what they were hungry for. All 8 cylinders are firing, and the horses get up and go for the finish line. Legs are greased, cocked and ready for that high speed pursuit. For those of you who feel what I am writing, all I need from you is a step forward in the right direction to improve what is yours. Your worth starts with believing in yourself, and ends with what you do for others. This is Bangov Actual, live to serve, and breathe to achieve. Bangov Actual, out.

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