Tag: business stress management

I’m reminded that for some people, there is not much growing up after a certain age. Having a 6 year old tell you that kids are being mean to you, and that they tell him they are smarter than him. Crazy to think even as adults we do that now in our own indirect ways. People always forget in the battle of right and wrong, that perspective is not going to change a person’s experiences, way of life or how they were brought up. It is a complete psychological experience that you have to put them through in order to change their mind. If culturally, or religiously they are bound by what they have been taught or believe then don’t waste your time trying to convince them that no God exists, or that their culture got it wrong. This comes from a feeling of deep hate and is likely to just make you an enemy. To communicate with someone of a different perspective, what’s most important is the willingness to communicate. A genuine approach that you wish to communicate with someone regardless of each other’s differences. If someone notices that it is not your way of life that offends them, but with conversation can come a compromise. You will be seen as either a friend, or even someone that would just be waved to passing by on the street. In my opinion that is much better than the enemy. To demonize is defined as: portray as wicked and threatening. I have mentioned demonizing an individual, or groups of people a lot in past blogs. To demonize is so quick of a reaction for some it is almost an indefinite response within a few seconds that no hope of a friendship, or even just to be cordial with one another exists. Cordial is defined as: warm and friendly. We do this based on first impressions. Be aware that impressions are defined as: an idea, feeling, or opinion about something or someone, especially one formed without conscious thought or on the basis of little evidence. Still remind yourself of the little evidence you may have on this person. If it is someone you’re a coworker, and choose to not associate with, eh fuck em. If it is someone your child is bringing to meet you. Maybe impressions will have to be built over time. An understanding that this individual may be weird or just have a lot of energy. Nonetheless the importance of that person to someone else makes you see past a lot of flaws and be more accepting. Just remember people have their layers, these layers are reasons for doing certain things, whether they are about telling you they are smarter than you, or may be mean to you. The only thing that matters is how you react to them, and showing how little that bothers you. Bangov Actual, out.

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Everyday distractions come in to the game of life. Distract you from your hopes of finding that one thing you long for in order to push everything else aside. Distraction is defined as: a thing that prevents someone from giving full attention to something else. It is that simple people. I cannot put it into any simpler terms than that. How much, time, money, and effort I wasted on things that should not matter in life. My guess is a lot. My guess is right now people reading this people already know what that thing is. They already know what is taking their time and and attention from what they should be focusing on. I have the same problem. It’s a battle within yourself to fight the laziness that occurs when you are trying to do something that is toward your pursuit. My question you is, is it something that you enjoy and something that comes natural? Interesting enough I started writing blogs not even knowing that I was writing them. It was a list of thoughts I had written down over the course of years that I wanted to come back to. I wanted to dig a little deeper into this sort of expansion. I like to have good conversations. I do enjoy when someone sends me emails telling me of whatever the hell they have going on. Or in person which has been most of how I have been able to expand my blogs. Constant communication with others struggling to find what they wish to pursue. Cannot tell you how many people have told me they don’t enjoy what they are doing. I ask what else do you do? What are hobbies or things that you don’t really think about doing? They say they write, or draw, or the job they are already doing a 9-5 is what they are passionate about, they just want to bring it to the best level. I suggest a youtube channel, or even freelance work. Not a brick and mortar, but starting their own advertising for their skills. These distractions may be pulling you towards something that already was supposed to be your pursuit in the beginning. Don’t ignore what comes naturally productive. Bangov Actual, out.

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To participate is something we have all been told to do since we were in kindergarten. Everything from painting a bunny, gluing macaroni to paper plates, and even duck duck goose. Now that we are older, we are taking part in what society has deemed necessary for success. In college you’re told to participate in electives you may not even care for, and are told this is how you get to where you want to be. College, then find a relationship, then marriage, kids, 50% will have a couple kids then be divorced, and then be trying to do that again, and then again not knowing statistically it just gets worse from the first time you tried it. So what does it really mean to “participate” in life when everything has been planned for you. You choose what you like to be apart of, then you go by their way of standards and means of completing a task. Participate is defined as: take part in an action or endeavor. Pretty simple to me, but what does it mean to not go by someone else’s design that has been laid out for you. To create your own step by step process. A road map completely your own, free from rules, or free from underlying pressures made for you to forget your dreams and what from a young age most people forget how to do, which is continue to see the world as where 90% of people are doing things according to plan, and only 10% do whatever the fuck they want to do. To participate in your own life is to take control of the actions that may not be the popular choice. Don’t think to yourself how, but what is it am I afraid of? School, work, kids. Problem is when people get to the kids’ part they no longer tend to do anything for themselves. You may be thinking this is all for the child, but then as the child becomes an adult, they are stuck in the same cycle and never end up doing something for themselves. Break cycles of inevitable disappointment. People have always believed, “life is too short.” Well not when you’re miserable. Time slows down, and suffering even for a day feels like an eternity. Try breaking away from someone else’s rules for a while. Participate in your own life for a day and learn how to want for yourself again. Don’t make any sacrifices for others and who knows. Maybe, just maybe you will make decisions tomorrow for your own life, and not just what someone told you to be. Bangov Actual, out.

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How do we push through the effects of negative people? Distance is a big one. Can’t be negative if they aren’t around you. Then again some of you can’t pick your parents, or brothers or sisters. Also maybe you’re under the impression you have to have money in the bank and make 100k before you can go live on your own. Making necessary sacrifices in order to get away from those that may be holding you back is a dangerous way to live. Letting someone impede on your life is just letting them control you. It is hard for you to not be controlled by your emotions when you’ve never really had time to gather them for yourself. Just think of why teenagers are in their rooms for long periods of time. They give themselves time to think about what they want to do aside from being under their parents house. It’s a time for establishing their own personality, it’s literally all over the walls what they into, anything from the Jonas Brothers, to sports cars and supermodels. Clues are around you when it comes to finding those you wish to associate yourself with. Monkey see, monkey do is probably a new system of schooling we should implement. Nothing for what I have seen is faster, and a more reliable means of communication. What’s even more interesting, you don’t really need a lot of words. Mountains of textbooks saved from inevitably will be the trash, or just recycled back for another person to forget a word of what was said. If you think I’m wrong, I wonder how many people would be able to tell me a few things they remembered out of a textbook they read. Not saying nobody would. A large majority of people would not be able to give me a single sentence out of a textbook. If I showed someone how to replace a tire on a car, I bet you they would remember for the rest of their days until they hit alzhemers. Which again if we go full circle, and we are to go back to the root of the question. HOW DO WE PUSH THROUGH THE EFFECTS OF NEGATIVE PEOPLE???.. My advice is to learn from them. Stare at them right in the face and realize the pain they are in due to lack of self worth. They are stuck just like you, but not like you, they are panicking. They are in a world of anxiety where they have to shout out to others in the hope that they won’t feel as lonely if they have someone down in the hole with them. Remember you can learn from even those you despise. Just rise above their pain, and create some distance. As well the moment of clarity is not instantaneous, may take a few minutes, may take a few days. Just don’t let it become a part of how you react to life’s difficulties. Letting someone else control you like that, you’re not an individual anymore, you’re a slave. Bangov Actual, out.

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Nothing being what it seems nowadays, I tell myself that everything is what someone else seems. What you hear, what you see, touch, taste is someone else’s perspective on what that something should be. We are very trusting in nature to leave our experiences  up to others. So why don’t we trust others day to day? Only when we are looking, or purposely in search of an experience. We don’t go through an alleyway at night BUT, we strap ourselves to an amusement park ride with absolutely NO evidence whatsoever that the thing is built to code, by engineers or is even within 10 years old. We just tell ourselves that we paid a lot of money to be here so if death is on the other side then so be it. They said they WOULD NOT refund my gift certificate so I’m going to get on this thing and hopefully everything works out. Why is it unless I tell you at the gate, “if you get on this ride you will die,” do people just let themselves get put in to situations that may not be beneficial to their health? Almost as if we all have no internal danger sensors for the things that go on around us. I’ve seen people completely oblivious to threats around them. Not saying they are imminent, but they are still what people view as a daily occurrence so they deny the ability to act and interfere with the reality going on around them. To me I can only see this as a lack of fortitude in order to change the world around them. Fortitiude is defined as: courage in pain or adversity, to further clarify, adversity is defined as: difficulties or misfortune. They have no idea what they can do to change the daily struggles they may face. They just have to make a move in the direction of what they fear and even if they see the slightest movement of retreat, I bet they would attack. They would rid themselves of what fear may be holding them back. A lack of long game if I may. The refusal to commit to something for a long time. People are afraid of failing at year 1 or 2, so they never even reach the possibilities at year 10 or 20. Life is a long game, there are no shortcuts, even with the internet, time is still the same, coming and going. Work still has to get done and moves have to be made. If I was to put in 20 years of work on something, maybe, just maybe I will have my own dose of nothing is what it seems. Bangov Actual, out.

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While you’re at your 9-5 just take a moment to think of the system that you are taking part in. I’m not demonizing 9-5 work, I am just simply expressing that those who are reliant on a 9-5 fall into the system of needing to build their 401k, retirement plan, social security, if it will even be a thing by the time my age bracket needs it. So when you look at your way of life, and look at how your parents might have had to survive based on that same system. Are you thinking to yourself, “this will not be me?” Or, “that will not be my life.” Many people have told me that they see a life far greater than what their parents had provided. Whether or not they will ever surpass their parents ambitions, who the hell knows until those days come. Simple choices create a system of reliance all its own. Multiple avenues of income, this to others seems like a lot of work, and people apparently don’t like working in this day and age, they don’t know how to find the joy in misery. I’m not saying be fake, I’m saying that even in miserable circumstances you develop a sort of mental toughness that makes you cling to the hard work that you know will pay off, but most just have a hard time getting into. Real estate, flipping cars, car washes, handyman,photographer, web designer, whatever tickles your pickle. These things create multiple streams of income. For those of you who bitch about working on the weekends, well if that is how you feel then maybe have longer Monday-Friday days. Or if you work from home then maybe a project that can be worked on in-between your job. Fit your dreams wherever you can. Break away from the system of reliance and realize these false senses of security are just a mirror staring right back at you. You must rely on yourself and your own ability to break free from crutches in life. You’re not broken, you’re just unaware of the possibilities that may be more simple than the job you’ve been hired to do. Create your own system and break free. Bangov Actual, out.

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There will always be moments thinking that you’re not cut out for the profession you’re in. Don’t listen to the naysayers in your mind. Pursue a clear mind and you will come out on the other side thinking that you’re more capable than once believed. It is hard, I understand that each level of pursuit you try and achieve comes with a complication, or set of its own barriers that we as individuals must burst through. A phase of doubt will cloud your mind, a reminder of limitation will keep you from that which has kept you in your corner so that you won’t see what has been with you since birth. A great positive to when you have consistent actions, could be a workout regimen, or not eating junk food, is when you fall off the wagon again you realize how fucked up you once were and how far you have come from being who you were to who you want to become. Simple steps, of course every day is hard when you’re not used to doing something, but when everyday becomes the norm then it is hard to see yourself not doing a workout, or writing blogs, or even getting up at a certain time. I’ve regularly thought about 4:30 am wake ups, but I just haven’t made the decision yet that I wanted to do that. A few extra hours in the morning though does sound awesome for getting things done. All that time to myself to gather thoughts, make a list for myself to create new possibilities. New expectations for myself. Also remember that day 1 will never feel like it is worth it. You don’t know when it will be worth till it is. Sacrifices you make for yourself always are in your best interest to make when it comes to making your life more productive. If you ever do something on a consistent basis that is in turn bad for your health then STOP FUCKING DOING IT. I will say that might be my one limit to consistency, and why I don’t do drugs. Weed sounds fun, but it’s just not a sustainable thing for me to do everyday. So choose your consistency especially based on your way of life, throw some productive ones in there and when you maybe have a hangover, or 10- 20 passed out drunk people on your floor, just tell yourself you had a good night and get back on track. Don’t beat yourself up too much and just get on with your day as you’re trying to still get things done. Work will always be there tomorrow. Bangov Actual, out.

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