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I’m convinced that boys need a male role model, but probably not in the way that you think. For all my military folk, think of it as not being relieved from duty for your entire career in the military. You are stuck on post for 18-20 years. Now think of that in regards to a child where you are the protector of mom, and no man ever comes to relieve you of your duties. You’re on a constant watch. Which may sound more familiar to moms is that when dad is not home, boys are more rowdy, more in the mindset of conditioning in order to prepare for when they must be physical in a defensive altercation. Until dad comes home it’s fight, play, run jump, trampoline or play with swords and guns. Now to think of what men do when they see a boy, they may even do the same in order to test his strength and worthiness to protect the castle. You can learn a lot from a 6 year old when you pay attention. I encourage any man entering a household with growing boys to be cautious. You may just be entering a nerf war, the floor is lava, or may have to fight to the death so that the princess can be rescued from the top of the castle. Be aware the princess can be a hamster or a 2 year old pup with a ribbon tied around the neck. I don’t want to say more than ever that we need little boys to have strong male role models in the household because it has always been a necessity for future generations to have a role model to emulate. Now to think of this in a business sense, always remember problems are never big or small. Just as our successes can be perceived as big or small, it was the intended goal that made us fall short. For example for those who want to be billionaires, and make only millions. Money should never be the goal, not that I will ever say you cannot wish for that but things in life that are to be wished for IN MY OPINION are those of importance like preparing our youth for the inevitable battles they may face in order to preserve their way of life. These skills of dealing with another male, whether they know them or not, will be life lessons they will carry with them till they know what it is to be in charge of their own lives. They will know the strength, courage, and more importantly the sacrifice necessary in order to sustain and provide for a family of their own. Just as my father had taught me not with words, but with actions. As long as you are present in their lives then the impact is just as important if they were not there for you. You learn from each other. A man learns how to teach the son, the son learns through rebellious acts how to do exactly as the father did to his father in order to prove he is worthy of his own way of life away from the protection from the man that has shown him one of the great joys of life of being a role model/teacher to another. Role model is defined as: a person looked to by others as an example to be imitated. To my younger readers, we cannot always choose our fathers. I have met plenty of children to where fathers are nowhere to be found, I have also met fathers that I wish never reproduced. Be mindful of who you imitate in this world. Those who think you don’t have a choice, just remember that you can always see the man you don’t wish to become. Then spend the rest of your life saying you will be better. Commit to it, and make it part of your life’s pursuit. Bangov Actual, out.

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Confidence, ladies, a woman with Confidence has a man by something even more precious to him than his balls. Confidence is defined as: feeling of self-assurance arising from one’s appreciation of one’s own abilities or qualities. Or the feeling or belief that one can rely on someone or something; firm trust. My question to you is why would you trust someone even more than yourself? Well by definition is someone who has a particular ability such as greater size, strength, or ability to defend. Then ladies, historically men have been viewed as the protectors of the castle, man of the house, Papa bear, take your pick. This is only one example of course. For men or women who have a particular skill set that you don’t have, you are forced to have confidence in those you hire to fix problems, that in which you do not possess the skill to do so. Could be a plumber, electrician, cosmetologist, whatever that you have not put effort into in order to become proficient in. Ladies It has recently been brought to my attention that some women lose confidence in themselves as they age. Which to me seems like a step backward. What is it that makes a woman, particularly one that has had children, become a success in her field of study or career, or even been able to keep her sanity through harsh times of family turmoil or trauma. Can we all agree that families go through harsh times. So no need for specifics, but when a woman says to me with age, confidence begins to dwindle. What does it mean when a child is in the developing stages of confidence, generally preschool where children are exposed to who can run faster, jump higher or even read at a higher level. What I have also learned is that throughout age, generally the older you get, the less confidence you have. Generally 50’s and 60’s shows a lack of self esteem. So IN MY OPINION, What I advise for both men and women is for you to look at the evidence throughout your life and see yourself for what you are and what you have done, rather than pick an afternoon to tell yourself that you are worthless than what the evidence shows. If by your 50’s and 60’s you have accomplished little to nothing, which is highly doubtful to a large majority of the population to never have had at least one accomplishment, then so be it you’re a loser. Those of you who know and are still trying to lie to yourself and say that you haven’t accomplished anything then you know deep down that is not true. Again the evidence may not lay all your doubts to rest, but at least you will know deep down that they are only doubts. Doubts will be with you till the end of time. The only way to subside them for the duration of your life is to develop a pursuit. That pursuit keeps people sharp as well as distracted by what they are incapable of doing. They only focus on the positive because they enjoy what they are doing. Self-esteem is defined as: confidence in one’s own worth or abilities; self-respect. So to circle back to confidence being about appreciation of abilities or qualities, I vote that we all transition to self respect, which is defined as: pride and confidence in oneself; a feeling that one is behaving with honor and dignity. This being a more concrete approach to one’s self development, I am in favor of us moving from what we try and teach our children, which is self-esteem, and transition as adults, to self-respect and let confidence be the byproduct of that. Above all, change how you define yourself and you will be ever evolving in this world of motion. Bangov Actual, out.

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When to say “I love you.” This is a tricky one for most, and also for most we go off a feeling, a vibe that it has been a while. What is worse is some will even go off the pressure that they have been dating for 6 months and they think they have to say it or the relationship is over. Don’t be that person. Think to yourself, why? Why would I say I love this person? Have you asked yourself enough questions about it? Or are you just saying it to say, “eh fuck it?” According to a 6000 person study done by okcupid, 62% of people think “I love you” should be when it is felt, 22% after several months and 3% are on the after a year train. Generally most of over 30 it is 6-9 months and under 25 it is like 20 min, or as soon as she touches your wee wee or hoo ha. So everyone has their timeline or specific moment of realization. So what do we do? Do we look at love as a series of longevity. If you both stick around for a year then you get to say it to each other. Or is it 6 months that when we see that person do something nice for you in the kitchen and then it just comes out? As always I like to let others decide their intended path of discovery for nobody should be in control of your experiences and/or intended choices you make except you. “I love you” is very powerful, and can be used for great intentions, or very bad ones just like all other forms of communication. When you say hello, even that can be in either an aggressive or friendly manner. So don’t think “I love you” is any different from being able to communicate how you feel about someone. IN MY OPINION, do not focus so much on the words as they are words that can be thrown out just like saying hello. It is the specific intent behind them that needs more focus. Try not saying it. Try being the person who does whatever is possible in order to show that special someone that you are devoted to them. Countless efforts on your part through the time you spend together. Whether it be 6 months or 6 years, the time and effort you put into it, you will have “I love you” bursting out of your chest and you will want to sing it from the hills of Narnia. So just be patient and focus on the work that goes into saying “I love you.” When it comes time -to say it, it will not only feel right, but evidence will make it undeniable. Undeniable is defined as: unable to be denied or disputed. Bangov Actual, out.

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Abstract is defined as: existing in thought or as an idea but not having a physical or concrete existence. Everyone may have an idea of what they want to see in a man and woman, but then they see someone else and they think oh that is another type of beauty that i was not aware of. We all have this, especially the guys, hell we ;designed to fuck anything in sight. Don’t really care how religious or “good” of a person you are. I say good because good can be defined as: having the qualities required for a particular role. So when someone says they are a good person it just makes me chuckle a little. Women are everywhere and as many forms of beauty as they can be in, their special powers still to this day come from the eyes. The way a woman looks at you can mean 2 things. In a close relationship, they are asking for approval. She is asking, “does he think I look beautiful, sexy, is he still attracted to me?” Or for women with a little more confidence the thought may be, “let’s see if he can handle this.” Either way ladies just know when you least expect it we are looking. When you step out of the shower, it does not matter if we have seen you naked before. We see you in your most vulnerable state with only a towel around you and your man has one thing on his mind. POUNCE, which is defined as: notice and take swift and eager advantage of a mistake, remark, or sign of weakness. Just know ladies your mistake was putting us in this situation. You’ve just stepped out of the shower, you smell like the garden of Eden or what we interpret an herbal essence commercial would be like in real time. You wrap the towel, and put your first foot out. Then the second one comes out. Now you’re in this situation where your man could be waiting outside, so you peek, just to be sure. You don’t see but you hear him. You are on a time table, you have to get the kids to school, get to work or make it to the grocery store before the rush. You just slip out in time to make it to the bedroom. Whew! OK he didn’t see you, still downstairs SO YOU THOUGHT. You just now realize you fucked up the moment that you turned the water off. That is what he heard and that is why he gave the kids a pot and pan to play with while you were in the shower. He is actually in the bedroom waiting, you just think…POUNCE. Ladies, we are big balls of testosterone and your goddess-like physique coming out of a shower is pretty much like a glass of whiskey, cigar and game all wrapped in a towel. We’ll bend you over the bed and don’t care if the kids are watching while they learn sex ed faster than they can scream and run out of the room. Just food for thought ladies while you’re questioning what we think, our job is to keep that lust alive. Although our vision of you may be abstract, it is also our own. Why we feel the way we feel, the way we look at you are all tied up in the intricacies that are you. Subjective is defined as: based on or influenced by personal feelings, tastes, or opinions. In all you mean to us in our day to day is why we sometimes forget to tell you. Or even why you would doubt it just seems as if you don’t know what is going on inside us. Bangov Actual, out.

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I am CONVINCED that men have to find out what they want to do in life to be happy. All the interconnecting webs of misconceptions, societal norms and culture pressures are just distractions to what a man is really in need of to not only feel fulfilled, but also to not feel cheated that he is only doing something, or living his life in a way that was constructed by someone else. It is a hopeless romantic story, I will admit that but I love romance. I like them for the breaking of “natural” barriers put in place by those trying to control an outcome. Romeo and Juliet all the way to “The Best Of Me.” Hell if you haven’t heard of what Cleopatra did to get in with Julius Caesar, look that shit up. If a woman has her servants roll her in a rug and sneak her in my house, I’d probably fuck her too. Not sure about a second date because that bitch is out of her mind. Still, breaking the natural order of things for lust, love or even luxury, turn up the volume and shut up. Of course ladies would love to hear from you about what makes your foundation in order to be content in life. I can only speak from a man’s perspective. While a man can have many aspirations throughout his life It is interesting to me what I see a man go through during a break up. He will dress, eat, sleep, and occasionally talk differently. All of life’s possibilities are thrown in his face, he no longer has a commitment to a life that he did not understand. That is to say he was the one that initiated the break up. If not then get ready for a whiny little bitch that needs meaning in his life again because he hates his job, and doesn’t have the life that he thought he was going to have and thought he could be happy with someone else when he really should have been happy before he met the woman. Not saying it is her fault, she could even cheat on him, but that does not take away from the fact that the man was not happy before they were together. He may have been happy with her, but that is probably why she cheated on him. She couldn’t stand to share a life with a man who didn’t enjoy his. Gentlemen for those of you who may see a flaw in the logic, I encourage you to ask yourself if you are happy with or without your partner. If you were happy before, great, if not then stop wasting time focusing on the fact she cheated, spend time on making your life happy in order for the next woman to feel as if this is a life she is excited to be a part of. Shit rolls down hill. So make sure while you are choosing your day to day life, realize you are creating a world for yourself that the right woman for you would enjoy. Having a career determines your health, happiness, and way of life. So define that and the woman you end up with may be entirely different than the one that cheated on you. At least I hope she wouldn’t cheat on you because you got your shit together. That is not what I mean though. Think of the girl you dated, to the woman that is going to be your rock till the end of time. Unless you just want to pay for it, in that case BANGOV, Bangov Actual, out.

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Jealousy has many faces. Jealous is defined as:feeling or showing envy of someone or their achievements and advantages. Synonyms for jealousy I find to be fascinated due to the perspective it opens. Usually when i have heard someone speak of a jealous person they do it in a passive aggressive way in order to make quick sense of a person’s irrational or even erratic behavior. Synonyms of jealousy are: enviousness,covetousness, desire,resentment, resentfulness, bitterness, discontent, spite, grudge, the green-eyed monster, suspicion, distrust, mistrust, doubt, insecurity, anxiety, apprehension about, rivals, possessiveness, over protectiveness, protectiveness. defensiveness, vigilance, watchfulness, heedfulness, mindfulness, care. solicitousness, attentiveness, just to name a few. Sounds pretty fucking evil right? Well no actually, evil is defined as: profoundly immoral or wicked. Not that Jealousy can’t turn into immorality. With such an easy definition.

Jealousy is a great way for me to describe to you, for anyone who reads this to choose your words more carefully. In moments of erratic behavior, arguments, verbal confrontation, really try and be careful with the words you may use to describe someone. If you call someone jealous, understand all the other words that coincide with that word. This doesn’t aid in a solution for you to just scream out random words in order to project an image on someone in order to win a crowd. In fact it just furthers confrontation. For anyone who may have an issue with someone for any sort of reason, it may take more than 20 min of hard thought in order to gather what you may describe that person as. Are they really jealous? Is there something underlying that could be the issue? You put that into perspective, you may have found a solution you both can agree on.

I would rather people said “fuck you” than label them as a word that is not conducive to finding a solution, or resolution. Fuck you is said in a defensive manner when not having anything else to say or when you’re establishing that you will not be walked over. People don’t really remember fuck you,but they do remember an impression they didn’t mean to give. Call someone evil, jealous, or racist. They know that to convince you otherwise is an uphill battle that may not be worth their time. So they walk away, and now 2 people who may have come to an understanding are now bound by their ignorance’s that could have been saved with simply digging into the heart of the problem. As a community, learning to communicate, just makes the community seem that much more productive, when we all speak with a purpose. Bangov Actual, out.

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You can get mad, kick, scream, and show the world you are angry. Or you can stay calm and show yourself that you can handle anything that is thrown your way. Physical endurance, training yourself to be equipped for the things life throws at you. You’re still human, yes, but any battle that is worth all of your effort will be matched by the focus you bring to it. Don’t be cast aside by those who think they have it all figured out. They are just as lost or or even more scared than you. When they shout at you, stare them in the eye and you will read fear. Not anger, not determination. We are all on the same level here. Striving for greatness, struggling to reach the next level. Question is, how do we know when we are ready for the next level? Well first is when you choose that you want to accept the challenge. Worst thing is that you could fail. With that comes all the education you need for when you realize that believing yourself takes practice. You might as well start with speaking to those who think they rate to speak down to you. May not happen day 1,but be consistent in your actions of speaking up. Make some noise and people will automatically look in your direction. All it takes is a few seconds for you to grab an audience. So in the lead up to having people look at you, make sure you have the attention grabber. Make sure you are ready for them to start listening. When they start to listen, they will question what they have been told, they will test your standings and ask why they should stand with you. Building your own company is those who believe in common values. Basic principles in a way of life that makes them want to fight with you for it. When they are willing to fight with you, you realize that you’re not crazy, you’re not the only one who has been thinking these things. Night sweats, nightmares, screaming in your pillow, all that becomes the past when you wake up. You’re mind and body battling it out like 2 people going back and forth, amping each other up for the fight of their life. Mind versus body continues till the intended pursuit comes into focus and when they both have the vision, it is all clear what they were hungry for. All 8 cylinders are firing, and the horses get up and go for the finish line. Legs are greased, cocked and ready for that high speed pursuit. For those of you who feel what I am writing, all I need from you is a step forward in the right direction to improve what is yours. Your worth starts with believing in yourself, and ends with what you do for others. This is Bangov Actual, live to serve, and breathe to achieve. Bangov Actual, out.

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