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Are You A Self Starter?

I’m a self starter? I would say so. Build a business, write everyday, and nobody has to tell me to do it. Are you a self starter? Do you decide when you get up? Do you decide what work needs to get done? Across the valley of resume building and applying for jobs we all need to be self starters. Education doesn’t really matter anymore because even the school system you go to decides what you have to learn before you even go learn what was intended. Self starting is basically saying if you fuck up, can you deal with the consequences? Can you intend on making a decision and seeing it through. Employers are not looking for just someone to get them coffee,  label shit on a shelf, or even take out the trash. They are looking for someone to run this place when they want to get the fuck out. Can hire any jackass and get someone to do the trivial things. When you self start you keep things in motion. Businesses die when they stay stagnant. They have no direction because nothing is moving and therefore less and less options are available to them. Business, life, need to feed someone or something besides yourself? That won’t happen standing still. You’re not a self starter, welp, that couch is going to be your prison one day and nobody will be around to help you get up when they have their business or life they are moving for. Nothing better than getting rid of dead weight. Doesn’t mean they don’t care, or don’t love you. Life continues, and is in constant motion, and you’re keeping them from living theirs. Just like the life of anything else, when you stop moving, you die just a little bit. The comfort that you hold dear while being in between the sheets, on the couch, or by the fire is not a way of life. Self start in order to put things in motion. Sometimes you won’t be able to steer, sometimes you won’t even be the one driving, but when you’re along for the ride still be thinking about stops you want to take along the way. In a world where you were hired to do a job, and they actually think you’re worth a damn, you may just find what you’re looking for on their time. Utilizing someone else’s time while they are paying you? Cannot think of a better situation for you to succeed. So go out there and be a self starter, create motion, watch life unfold before you. Explore the opportunities that can come from doing a 9-5, and don’t care if you’re flipping burgers. Someone is depending on you, that is pretty powerful considering you won’t do anything to depend on yourself. What makes you different from those who depend on you? Maybe a different talent? Maybe a better education? Maybe a mommy and daddy who loved them? Hahaha Look at all the forms of success. Anyone who has been a success in their life has had hardships, so don’t play this game with yourself that your life is harder than anyone else’s. Self start something else in order for you to get off the road you’re on. Keep in mind it should be your life’s work to get where you want to be. Won’t happen overnight, someone telling you it can is selling you something. Life pursuits start in motion, so get moving. Bangov Actual, out.

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Freedom VS. Bangov

Unexpected turns no matter which way they go have an affect on you and your way of thinking. Don’t let this be a make it or break it moment, your dream, or mission has not changed and don’t let anything change it. No matter your decisions, each road you take may feel like a long way, but you have to keep moving either way. As long as you maintain a positive mental attitude then even opportunities disguise themselves as steps backward. Hunt for your opportunity. Look at the whites of its eyes and find the fear brewing under the surface. When you are able to change the dynamic of the eyes, the soul will change the intent of what it was bred to do. Turn a fighter into a runner, make something that flies hide in a hole. Take all that life has to offer, all that life does is push you in the direction it wants. Stop thinking you are in control. You are only in charge of certain outcomes, death is inevitable so don’t think life will be perfect the way you planned it. You will just be miserable in another form. Plan of attack is a hell of a lot different than you planning who you choose to be in this life. Taking charge of your life means that you shape it into what you want no matter what is dropped on your doorstep. When in a state of anxiety, or hyperventilation, it is the perfect time to develop who you are. You will make mistakes, but don’t let the fear of making them stop you from moving. Punch, kick, scream and fight your way out of a paralyzing feeling of someone or something making you feel inferior. Do not be a slave to your feelings. Freedom is defined as: the power or right to act, speak, or think as one wants without hindrance or restraint. Also defined as: absence of subjection to foreign domination or despotic government. Their is a reason why I didn’t call my website freedom fuckers or some lame ass name derived from a word that has been so overused that people never have even thought of looking up what it actually means. They only have their twisted representation that has been passed on from one idiot to the next. Freedom this and freedom that. No issue with the word, the word is harmless, but people never thought to sell it in a way that was beneficial for the individual. It was always left vs. right. Well Bangov is all encompassing. It is whatever you choose it to be. Encompassing is defined as: surround and have or hold within. Your life decisions are yours. So don’t let the weight of your decisions break you. Think positive and become stronger to hold them up. My personal prerequisite for this life is don’t keep anyone else from their pursuits. Bangov Actual, out.

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Why Do We Cheat?

Why do we cheat? This may get “confrontational” but hey you come to me for this shit. Don’t like it, I hear Chicken Soup For The Soul is making a comeback. Why do we cheat is maybe not what we think it is. I can really only think of cheating as piss poor planning. I don’t mean getting away with it either. If you make a commitment to someone then it should be honored as your word should be something to value. In the case that you explain to someone you choose to be intimate with I can only think that there has to be a conversation about what each of you want. When it comes to sex, emotions rule the playing field. Say anything you want, tell someone in the most abrupt way that you like sex and your too young to stop at just one person for the rest of your life. I’m not saying to lie, I am not saying to be hurtful in the slightest. Will it hurt, of course, that is what relationships are about. Experiencing all emotions with another. Everyone I know has been hurt in some form or fashion by their significant other.

Does not mean that it is intentional for either party to be hurtful towards each other. In my opinion all of these things are what get lost, or not said in conversation. I have stated before, nobody has all the right words at the right time. What is not communicated can be the cause of someone’s pain. Even the slightest of misunderstandings, you have a guy that is shaking his head and a woman who Is choosing to sleep with the kids, instead of in the bed with you. I think men and women have been so ingrained with the idea that they must be in a relationship that they are scared to face the reality of what they want, what they desire, and what they would even like to experience from a multitude of people. S.E.X, the great equalizer in the bedroom. The Fully Semi Automatic Weapon of lust. The cause of laughs, cries, fights, and an exponential growth in population size. Sex can cover so many basis and I as your blogger am in hopes of covering them all so that we as a civilization can come to understand more and more about this 3 letter word that in my is so powerful I am surprised that the government has not found a way to tax every orgasm we have. Terrible imagery? You’re welcome.

Why is it we as a species have not expressed the idea that communicated our sexual desires and ambitions is OK? What is wrong with that? Of course let’s not be weird about it. If I am on a date I won’t be so forward as to say to a woman that I just want you to ride my face until geese fly south for the winter. Would some women be up for that? I have always been told it depends on how good looking he is and how he presents the proposition. Fair enough ladies. Understand this, hookers do exist and till the end of time their services will be needed for men and women. As well I am being told male escorts are on the rise( pun intended). So that being said, for those of us who cannot afford it, why are we so inclined to condemn a man or woman who wants promiscuity in their life. These may be people who have had bad sexual experiences and feel paying for a professional is the only way to break the anxiety of being intimate with another person. Or someone who is very career driven, and in no mood to waste time on someone who does not know how to satisfy needs. Why we cheat is the blatant disregard for our own feelings and thoughts on what we want our sex life to entail. Do not be afraid to discuss intentions with those you go on dates with. Don’t hide in the dark, don’t be judgemental of yourself for wanting to be with multiple partners.

You cannot tell me a man or woman has not thought of someone other than their spouse. For good reason is the lack of fear that person will leave you for someone else. Women spend outrageous amounts of money on themselves, ie.. makeup, clothes, shoes, plastic surgery. When a woman is willing to undergo surgery for a man, it is because of a little known fear that she has that if I don’t get these for him to play with then maybe he’ll play with someone else. Please understand I am not judging anyone who chooses to make adjustments to their body in order to boost self confidence. Your bodies, do what you will. I’ll admit if I see a brat doll, with double d’s and an ass that could have saved everyone on the Titanic, I get a chuckle out of it. Sexual frustration is a daunting thing to have to go to. If you are not getting enough from your partner and feel stuck because you already told them you were wanting to be exclusive because that is what you thought they wanted to hear. It is time to have another conversation. Don’t just run to the first waitress or bartender you find on a Friday night, RELAX, talk about it first. If they can’t understand that this is a real issue for you, then cheating is inevitable. Just talk with your partner, don’t be afraid of them saying no. Also divorce is a bitch, not saying I have experienced it, but I have had enough people in my life to be completely turned off by the institution that is marriage.

Also if I haven’t mentioned this before marriage is defined as: the legally or formally recognized union of two people as partners in a personal relationship, as well union for more clarification is defined as: the action or fact of joining or being joined, especially in a political context. Of course as well I know can be defined as: a state of harmony or agreement. BUT..  I cannot ignore the fact that it is only made official through the state, and needing a license to say I love, cherish, or want to spend the rest of my life with them is just hysterical. Why not just spend the rest of your life with them and those who you apparently need approval from will just see that? Also I do own a site called Bangov, so ya. #bangov4life. So just remember that you are not the only one feeling this way, go into a relationship knowing each other’s intentions and do not be afraid to communicate how to go about it. That is why I say to email me. I do enjoy getting them, of course they are anonymous, and as always this is Bangov Actual, I live to serve. Bangov Actual, OUT!

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Bottle Water For A Dollar

People still tend to surprise me, pay attention to those around you, no matter how small of an interaction is meant to happen, they may even inspire you. Can’t tell you how many times I have come from those I have gotten negative experiences from. Either rude, or just aggressive individuals. It is all just a rush of chemicals to the brain that may trigger different responses and give you new ideas. Positive interactions are great, but it is the negative ones that people tend to need help with. They either shut down, or don’t see a learning experience in the situation they are in just because they are mad, sad, frustrated. Still your responsibility as an adult to utilize every situation as a learning environment. People in my life, long term or short consistently give me a different insight into the world I live in. Giving me new ambition to see different parts of the world and gain an insight that may be lost on the majority of people that are not looking. We tend to confuse people as complicated. Societies are complex of course. We have seen what damage can be done just by simple misunderstandings. Only takes an individual to initiate a mob mentality. I hope to inspire people to take control of their own lives. It is how they react to a push back will define if they are to go the distance in order to make their lives worth something other than what has been deemed “right” or “normal.” Some are in it just to survive and I can’t blame them. It has been taught since the beginning of man, and I am not saying to go against that. I will say incorporate your dreams so that in the end you can say you flourished, not just existed. Of course even existence can be taken for granted. Breath, build, fuck, and fight all you wish. When that big ball of rock hurling towards us finally decimates, or when the sun blows up. what will be the next? Continue the same disputes that have occurred time and time again? Always was interesting to me how when you graduated high school there was an understanding that the past quarrels, or grudges that had kept two people apart were now laid to rest. So why don’t we have that now? After 30? Maybe 50? I mean grudges held for hundreds of years between groups of people, I mean hit the snooze button or wake me when you guys build a bridge and get the fuck over it. These continuous wars that never seem to end give me the impression that they need to continue in order for someone to keep getting paid? Government? Religious leaders? Who knows? Just know it is not a war I am interested in fighting. All this inspiration may or may not have come from a homeless guy wearing military camo, trying to sell me a bottle of water. Poetic, I know. Bangov Actual, out.

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Still Of The Water

Reflection of past blogs, always good to reflect on past blogs to see how you have changed. All this bullshit of people being ridiculed for things they said 10 years ago. How about we ask today what the person thinks of these same scenarios. Not as if I am going to be the one to care. Say anything you want to about any group of people. Does not bother me any. Even if they were talking about me, it still wouldn’t bother me. I’m always told by people saying I have to care about other people’s feelings. Why!!! Why Is my opinion of any importance to those I do not know or have never even met. Seems as if a part of society thinks anyone who does not agree with you is a racist, or evil, or ignorant. To reflect is to see what has been said and how your perspective has changed with age and more wisdom. It is OK, you may have said some crazy shit when you were younger. That is OK. May have offended people, but that is all subjective. Understand that what you are trying to bring to the table is that people are either too afraid they will be ridiculed. To reflect is defined as: think deeply or carefully about. Think of all that has been said without proper reflection. Can’t tell me anyone who has a following has not said some dumb shit and regretted it. Whether they choose to commit to what they have said is up to them. Maybe they are catering to a specific pressure of a specific audience. You know like politicians always do to get votes. You either stand by what you said or maybe you’ve seen a different side of things. What was said was said, and words are cheap. Your actions on those words will show your intent and that is what I really look at when judging others. Bangov Actual, out.

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Who Doesn’t Value Good Sex?

What do I value? Can this just be a series of tangible things that are needed to fill a void in our lives. So what are we actually looking for when we say I value these things and I need these things in my life? The perception of value is that it gives us something more than the desired aspect of just what we see. When we see a watch, ring, necklace or something of a certain value that we have a history with, we immediately describe it as something of a sentimental value. So as these things I accumulate in my house become more and more a part of my life I perceive them as things of value. To value them I could say that I would need to utilize them everyday. My perceived value of something is that in which I get multiple uses out of. Tools, clothes, bed, maybe a beer opener. Computer, iPad, phone? When people break their phones, they can’t get to the store fast enough in order to get another one. The thought of missing out on a tweet, text, or the world around them is just utter chaos inside their head. Tangible things have different values for each individual that utilizes them. Value is defined as: the regard that something is held to deserve; the importance, worth, or usefulness of something. So what is important, useful, or of worth to you. Careful when you think of these things. When it comes to utility, usefulness, you may end up being better off not having something that you get many uses out of. You probably use your vacuum once a week. If you have pets, maybe 2 or 3 times a week. How much time is that to you to be doing something worth your time? Spending more time with family? Is time more important to you? Up to you. Would a house cleaner once or twice a month be worth more than you doing it yourself. I could sell everything I own besides my computer and truck and be completely content with just writing for a long time. Don’t think I’m crazy, I enjoy nice things as well. I say my tuck and computer, then I tend to think, welp I need clothes for a date, of course running shoes and clothes for the gym, tools to fix a light fixture. What makes me laugh is talking to women about how they dated a guy who never owned tools. When something broke in the house he would always have to call someone for even the smallest shit. Fixing light fixtures, light switch plates, or even just hanging a picture. They had said nothing made them dry up faster than a man who can’t use a drill or hammer. They got rid of the dating app and just started going to home depot looking for men. Hahaha, now gentleman I won’t tell you that you have to be a tool guy, so take that for what value it is to you. These things tend to creep up on us, so I personally try and simplify my life as much as possible. I hate clutter and I have a ton of hobbies. Hunting, fishing, scuba, carpentry, guns, blogging, hiking, my dog. So I minimize every so often to make sure I don’t have something taking time away from something that is more important to me.

 

Now those are tangible things, but what about things that you cannot put a price tag on? Time, family, Boots!!, just kidding, peace of mind, quiet, patience, independence, hugs, kisses, someone telling you you’re pretty, or handsome, or great in bed. This is Bangov, so good sex is just a spice of life. All of these things can be taken into consideration. All these things are very important, and in a way these are the ingredients for getting the most out of life in whatever hell you choose. If you want to be held more, if you want less noise, maybe you grew up in a busy city and before you take a chainsaw to Starbucks because they got your latte wrong I think it would be an enlightening change of pace for everyone to take a FUCKING MOMENT, to think about the things that they value in life and make them priority. Go around the table, and communicate that to the family, or if you live alone, don’t matter, write them down and make a plan of how these will be implemented in your life. Some of you fucks will make time for you to play video games, watch the football game. That’s fine, but for the other things that you may be lacking, just say hey maybe today I will sit in the closet where it is dark and quiet. Nothing wrong with that. Maybe you’ll grab your wife and kiss her, maybe she’ll want you right there on the rug. WHO KNOWS? If you value your alone time, maybe let the family know and you just have a beer or glass of wine in a room in the house. Cannot tell you how many times a drive at night when nobody is on the road has saved me from choking someone in line at the grocery store. What I value is: Loyalty, communication, deep breaths, condoms, peace of mind, good teachers, silence, work, music, independence, good sex, time, smiles, laughter, comedy, my health, blankets, and last but not least different perspectives. With all of these My life tends to be pretty fucking sweet with little twists and turns in between. What do you value? I value those who read this and actually want to improve their way of life. Bangov Actual, out.

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Numb

Numb is a feeling we all know all too well. What’s weird is that we feel numb sometimes to keep us from feeling other things. Numb is defined as: deprived of the power of sensation. So maybe it is when we give up some powers that we feel most at peace. We have many forms of power, but also many ways we can feel numb. Numb to touch, emotion, action, even influence. We are free from emotion as a lack of needing emotion itself. A bottle of wine can do a lot of things. Can be a great night out, or in, due to the occasion of being by yourself or with a loved one. Alcohol itself has a presence in a room. When alcohol is present, it becomes about what was discussed over a bottle of McAllen, Pendleton, Pinot Noir. Memories are made when numb to the touch, we remember what we felt more when we are numb to the touch. We remember and express aspects of life that if in full control we wouldn’t think to express. Decompression of the human mind comes with therapy or means of alcohol that we express deep within. When we have only moments to reflect back on when telling our life story, touch seems to be a waste of time. To be numb we lose the flight response because we are numb, not worried about being shot, or stabbed, poked, prodded. We tend to forget that you don’t have to feel touch in order to feel pain. A broken heart happens from within, so we must think to ourselves for when numbness subsides that we still don’t have any open wounds. All it takes is another drink for the vicious cycle to start all over again. Numb is also defined as: deprived of feeling or responsiveness. When we are numb, in times of joy we are very active. Jumping running, hooting, hollering. As well when we are sad, we want to do anything to avoid the feeling that we are dealing with. When the numbness goes away we are faced with 2 realities. The fact that we ran away and the fact that drinking did nothing to solve it. The reality you have for yourself only changes when the pursuit of another is initiated. So don’t forget to be responsive, and act. Bangov Actual, out.

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