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Spend And Then Die

Business to me is just something that you are willing to commit to and make your life’s work. It used to baffle me that someone would turn down a 100k job. Even if it is a job of your dreams type of scenario. I am all for the grind, away from the wife and kids on a daily basis, or even weeks at a time. To some this may seem like a “workaholic” or even a selfish individual. All they tend to think of is money, or themselves.

Let us step back here for a bit. A man, trying to provide for his family’s basic needs, because for a lady having granite countertops may be a basic need. Or endless jewelry, presents for the kids. You’re telling me a man is selfish when all his efforts go towards the wants and needs of his family? You may want to look up the definition of both. Workaholic- a person who compulsively works hard and long hours. OR Selfish- lacking consideration for others; concerned chiefly with one’s own personal profit or pleasure. 

Seems to me a man to be doing PRETTY FUCKING WELL, if he has devoted the majority of his existence to what his family asks for. Does anyone know what the word servant means? Servant- a person who performs duties for others, especially a person employed in a house on domestic duties or as a personal attendant. I think we are now on the same page when it comes to what can be expected of a man. 

Working at all hours of the night just to keep food on the table. Forbes Advisor survey tells us that 40.7% of Americans are living paycheck to paycheck. NY Post, and Business Insider tell us that 51% of Americans making over 100k a year live paycheck to paycheck. What is even more funny to me, and all of us suffering is that these are things that can be changed in a matter of weeks. Not years but just changing your habits. This is a world of fuck it times, so why wouldn’t you just say fuck it when it comes to making life a little easier on yourself.

Forbes Again with paycheck-to-paycheck people reporting that cost of living…i.e., housing, insurance and utility bills are at the forefront of their financial hardships. Which really chaps my ass is that 27.5% related spending to “social pressure” aka spending unnecessarily. “Fuck off Tom, I’m not going out with you tonight?” Of course, we all like to go out and have fun but more than once a month and you are just throwing anywhere from 30-200$ a month away. Also being at a bar, it is fries, maybe a burger or tots and a couple beers. (3…4..5 beers you degenerate, you’re just making my point.)

 

Just understand that living paycheck to paycheck is like paying off that credit, only paying off the minimum every month. It will inevitably get you where you want to be when life is at its end. You die, and the only way you’re out of debt is when your life insurance pays for it before it goes to your kids. So, commit to something that you think is worthwhile. Doing that you come to realize how much you can be without filling that empty void we all try to fill with expensive stuff, alcohol, clothes, food, etc. Bangov Actual, out

 

For all you feminist out there who may want a woman’s side to this, just know you are more than welcome to write one yourself and send it to info@ban-gov.com.

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Your Business Is A Life, Raise it

As I lay here with my son on my chest I am reminded of all the things I planned to do but never got around to. I don’t feel regret for not doing them, but I do wish as a parent I may be able to spare my son from feeling the same way. Living a fulfilling life I’m not sure is people’s goal anymore. A life of purpose has always seemed to pull on people’s heart strings. Finding a point A and sticking with it all the way to Z. Not really even being sure where Z is, they trail on to B then C. Eventually they arrive at D. That being 5 years down the road with no end in sight they abandon the whole thing and start a new venture on a different path they feel motivated about. If you have read any of my other blogs then you know im not a fan of motivation. Motivation is something you use to get yourself through to the finish line. It comes and goes like a deadbeat father in and out of your life. It’s never really there when you need it. It’s there in the good times, but never there in the bad times. Which is funny that fear is more of a father than motivation will ever be. Those who have fear already I hope will receive guidance by those who want the best for them. I’m reminded of a story by Elon Musk. He was talking about the days when he owned 2 businesses that were on the brink of failure and going bankrupt. He said it’s like raising a child. You don’t want to see it die so all the money he had he put into both and hoped they would succeed. This coming from one of the richest men in the world you can imagine everything turned out alright for him. That story stuck with me and now that I have children you can bet it makes sense to me now. I have no idea what to become of my children but I’m hoping in their days of fear that I can guide them in a way that makes sense. In a way that that fear has cleared and they can see a clearer path.

 

Those of you who wish to start a business, understand that you are growing a child. Your effort towards it may make you seem lost at times. You may not even see the ending at times. Whole point of a life pursuit is that you don’t know the outcome. Just that you gave it your all, but life doesn’t stop just because you cash in your chips and fold your cards. You gotta be willing to play the long game. For those of you reading, you dictate your life. No matter how many people believe in you, if you don’t, forget failing, life will be as if you never tried. Bangov Actual, out.