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You Owe People Nothing

It is always interesting to me the way we latch on to others. I think it is important to make distinctions about others in our life. Another reason why having 1000 supposed friends is a waste of time. You have your group and depending on the choices they make you can recycle out the ones that give your life more value. To think that you owe anyone because of the friendship they have given you is always in question. Not saying if they gave you money, you should try to repay that friend back as soon as possible. Also just what my father had told me was any money you give to a friend, don’t expect back. So obviously understand if money is given depending on the circumstance, it may just be the end of the friendship. With anyone I call my friend today, I have never owed, never not said thank you, and never not wanted to be there for them when they have needed me. After  everything, they have never owed me. They never will because I choose to keep those who have stuck around in a world where everyone does their part. Everyone chooses to do what part they wish. Not too much, not too little. Mainly you just have to display an interest in each other. Call on the phone sometimes, text message “hey bud, how are you?, Great OK go fuck yourself!” You know guy shit. They have girlfriends or wives, and we all get together, find out what is new and maybe after we don’t see each other for 6 months. Ya, we get busy, life happens, or maybe I never leave my hole, I just keep blogging. Weird that when people haven’t seen each other for a while they automatically go to the conclusion they are not friends anymore. Relax people, maybe they have a new girl or guy in their life, you should be happy for them. Having to share every aspect with you just means that you need to start living life yourself. You owe people NOTHING. This is especially important when thinking how much have you done for people that have never deserved it. Friends they are not if they think their time is more important than yours. That is why you don’t see your friends for a while because you both respect that each other is trying to get your shit done. You’re reading this, trying to better yourself, your situation. Taking steps to make yourself better, well so are they just in different aspects. You’re a nice person and you need to start being selfish, people who take advantage of that are not the ones you should be giving your time to. Bangov Actual, out!


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Battle Of The Sexes..Gentlemen We’re Losing

The battle of the sexes is in its 2nd phase and men are losing the war. I have constantly been told by women that men are not men anymore. Gentlemen, I get your argument, “well they wanted equality right?” That doesn’t mean you throw in the towel because a small group of women want one thing. Your intention was to listen to the news and neglect women who still like the tradition. What kind of small minded individual takes the mainstream news media as a way of life??? It is one perspective you monkey’s. Holding hands, holding doors open, holding her purse when she is trying to get situated. Dating is a hell of a time, don’t get me wrong. Women who don’t know what they want, no drive, no ambition for a better future. Not financially driven, or worse they want sexually what scares the Jesus right out of you religious ones. Ladies this goes for men too. These issues are not generalized to one side.. All this being said, it is hard for both men and women because fundamentally we do not communicate anymore. You’re stuck inside and lack the communicable skills to even approach a woman in a bar. Nightclubs are too loud for me, grocery store, I mean holly fuck just saying hi my name is… is enough to get you both nervous. Be polite, and if they say no, guess what around the corner is another one, around that corner is another corner, and inevitably you’ll find a parking lot of women. What blows me away is men are still stuck on the marriage and divorce scare. I’ll admit I am in that club. I want every man to look up the 7 different alternatives to marriage and choose one that best fits you. Till death do us part, fuuuuuck that shit. Literally anything can be legally entrusted to your spouse through an attorney. Also Gentlemen this is what I am being told by women, none of this is even me complaining, this is from the perspective of women ready for a man, but who have given up looking. They are perfectly happy, financially well off with their careers, raising children, big house and are KILLING IT. If this intimidates any guys out there, great!  You are not allowed to procreate. If this does not pertain to you, understand that marriage is not what it has been. Imagine a life where you don’t have to live with the women you’re married to. You want to fuck other people, be in an open marriage. Some of you would starve, but they have more incentive to learn other skills. Cooking, cleaning, dancing, how to dress, groom yourselves, and I know some of you have never felt a good shave, fresh suit, and even know what aftershave is and IT.IS.DISGUSTING…For men and women, to create a world for yourself is so easy nowadays. Do not look to those around you because you’ll just fall into the same traps they did. Married for the wrong reason, kids as an anchor for the marriage to work. Wanting more out of life you may have to be selfish, but in the end it saves both you and others heartache. Communication we have all heard is key to a great relationship. It is the most basic bitch answer on any show you watch. Morning show, daytime television, Dr. Phil, take your pick. What they don’t tell you is you should be in good Communication before you even get into something long term. Talk, listen, learn, grow, Bangov Actual, out!