Confidence, ladies, a woman with Confidence has a man by something even more precious to him than his balls. Confidence is defined as: feeling of self-assurance arising from one’s appreciation of one’s own abilities or qualities. Or the feeling or belief that one can rely on someone or something; firm trust. My question to you is why would you trust someone even more than yourself? Well by definition is someone who has a particular ability such as greater size, strength, or ability to defend. Then ladies, historically men have been viewed as the protectors of the castle, man of the house, Papa bear, take your pick. This is only one example of course. For men or women who have a particular skill set that you don’t have, you are forced to have confidence in those you hire to fix problems, that in which you do not possess the skill to do so. Could be a plumber, electrician, cosmetologist, whatever that you have not put effort into in order to become proficient in. Ladies It has recently been brought to my attention that some women lose confidence in themselves as they age. Which to me seems like a step backward. What is it that makes a woman, particularly one that has had children, become a success in her field of study or career, or even been able to keep her sanity through harsh times of family turmoil or trauma. Can we all agree that families go through harsh times. So no need for specifics, but when a woman says to me with age, confidence begins to dwindle. What does it mean when a child is in the developing stages of confidence, generally preschool where children are exposed to who can run faster, jump higher or even read at a higher level. What I have also learned is that throughout age, generally the older you get, the less confidence you have. Generally 50’s and 60’s shows a lack of self esteem. So IN MY OPINION, What I advise for both men and women is for you to look at the evidence throughout your life and see yourself for what you are and what you have done, rather than pick an afternoon to tell yourself that you are worthless than what the evidence shows. If by your 50’s and 60’s you have accomplished little to nothing, which is highly doubtful to a large majority of the population to never have had at least one accomplishment, then so be it you’re a loser. Those of you who know and are still trying to lie to yourself and say that you haven’t accomplished anything then you know deep down that is not true. Again the evidence may not lay all your doubts to rest, but at least you will know deep down that they are only doubts. Doubts will be with you till the end of time. The only way to subside them for the duration of your life is to develop a pursuit. That pursuit keeps people sharp as well as distracted by what they are incapable of doing. They only focus on the positive because they enjoy what they are doing. Self-esteem is defined as: confidence in one’s own worth or abilities; self-respect. So to circle back to confidence being about appreciation of abilities or qualities, I vote that we all transition to self respect, which is defined as: pride and confidence in oneself; a feeling that one is behaving with honor and dignity. This being a more concrete approach to one’s self development, I am in favor of us moving from what we try and teach our children, which is self-esteem, and transition as adults, to self-respect and let confidence be the byproduct of that. Above all, change how you define yourself and you will be ever evolving in this world of motion. Bangov Actual, out.
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