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Make Time For Reflections

Can’t really tell everyone to make the right decisions all the time. Decisions when your angry or stressed may not be the best way to go. Only way I can seem to make sense of it is when you make decisions in order to better yourself or your way of life, they are not usually small things that make you see the change. Believe me when I say I still think they are super important. Think of anyone you know with money or someone you idolize. They can still be fat, bald, short, ugly. No real parameters for the successful. Just that they make life decisions that impact in a big way. They see a life that they want and are willing to make certain changes or decisions in order to make that vision a reality. You have to make the big moves, which after the fact seem small because they just took a phone call or a meeting with someone that could make it happen. So why don’t we do these things? Are we afraid of what decisions we could have made all along, but never saw the light that was shining in our face THE WHOLE FUCKING TIME? Well I am no billionaire so maybe it is infrared and i’m just too broke to see the light without the right tools. We can really only make these kinds of decisions when we are ready. When you’re stressed or angry, it’s unlikely we will see what we need to do. You can be in stressful situations and still not be stressed. When the pressure builds and thinking is no longer a part of your voluntary action. Welp, that is when you use all your strength. The mind gives up way before the body. So just put one foot in front of the other and keep on going. I only say this because when you do have a chance to stop and reflect, and I mean really reflect, then things start to settle. When you’re on shift, you’re on, you’re working. When you’re off, you’re in the midst of reflection, like looking in a mirror thinking, what went right, what went wrong, how did I get to where I am and how do I move forward. No place like where I am now, forever I am in awe of how far I have come. If you don’t think you can move forward now, then be grateful for where you have been, reflect on that. Might just find that bit of light you were looking for. Bangov actual, out.

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Stay Hungry

Ever been hungry before? Ever thought it through? I don’t mean for an hour so you can finish typing something up, or finish with a business call. When you’re hungry you have 2 options. Light snack to keep you going or just eat a big meal and hope it holds you over. Ignore your hunger for a little longer then it goes away. Don’t worry, it will always come back. Hunger never seems to be something we worry about. We never worry about the things that trigger a warning. You essentially are cutting out the middle men. You are not really worried about being worried. Yes I know this is very wordy, but really the only way I can describe it. Worry is defined as: give way to anxiety or unease; allow one’s mind to dwell on difficulty or troubles. To give way into what we know is not the solution to a problem. So why do we do it? My opinion of course is that those who avoid problems at all cost will inevitably face something that is out of their expertise. They have never really molded the mind into thinking that it can face anything that comes its way. Of course it may be hard, but then again isn’t that the point? That is also the definition as a verb. As a noun the definition of a worry is: a state of anxiety and uncertainty over actual or potential problems. So we as people choose to feel a certain way based on no certainty at all. If you’re 100% confident about what is going to happen, then of course you have the right to worry. What makes me tingle is those who usually know 100% are not usually the ones who worry. Usually because they have seen the consequences. When you know the layers that break down as mistakes are made you mitigate risk by preparation. Preparation is defined as: the action or process of making ready or being made ready for use or consideration. This is the issue I have with procrastination as well, I will get to that in another blog. So prepare, plan, act and make it so that worry is mitigated. Do it over and over again. Your problems will only progress as you continue on in life. Some “big”, some , ”small” which I still don’;t necessarily buy into anymore. Big problems vs little problems, what is the difference. I think it is a way of describing problems coming from someone who worries too much. If they get to define the language being utilized then the wrong message is being sent about how I should react to certain situations. I’m thinking, ya, not following that person. How they communicate inspires problems in the future will always be measured by how “big” or “small” they are and not seen as opportunity. The opportunity of an issue or problem in my opinion is to be looked at as a learning experience. Big or small, don’t care, what is the solution. Small problems lead to big ones, just may take more of them. This to me is how to make something of quality. Can something be done to move forward? Or are we stopping because it is too big of a problem? Or too hard? All these words are things we say to limit our progress. We are hungry, so maybe we should stop? Worry sets in. Then we have already made our decision to give up. For those reading and can’t read between the fucking lines, I am not saying don’t eat. It is just to get you to think about why we stop things. Big, small, problems are problems, just think of solutions. Maybe I should start using trigger words in my writing. I’ll start saying these “obese” problems are getting out of hand. Hey man we got a “Fat” problem here ;since we’re on the topic of not eating and some jackass will read this and think it is all about him. Well keep your rolls in your pants, no need to get all bloated over this. Problems require solutions, it is how I like to say the lock to your key. If I really cared about the obesity problem in this country I would tell everyone to stop eating and chase something that is meaningful to you. More meaningful than that cake you’re death staring while trying to eat this paper….See what I did there? NO, because you’re still looking at the fucking cake. Find a purpose that keeps you off your fat ass and you will see all things holding you back like they were circled with a sharpie marker. That is my philanthropy for the day folks, Stay hungry, Bangov Actual, out.

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What Does It Mean To Be A Veteran?

Someone asked me once what it meant to me to be a veteran. I assumed they meant military veteran, but let us define Veteran as the question was asked. Veteran is defined as: a person who has had long experience in a particular field, OR, a person who has served in the military. For those of you who don’t know I only give one or more definitions in order to better communicate a point. My intentions are strictly for better communication, and to open up the boundaries between myself and whoever will read this. This being a military service platform, both active and prior service, this is one question, when asked I did not just answer and then write a blog about it. I did answer the person who had asked as effectively as I could at the time. For this blog though many things have to be addressed. Those of you who read my blogs, I am never going to say that if you are not a veteran then you are not welcome. I will however say if you are not open to communicate, have a conversation and come to some sort of understanding or compromise, then we have nothing further to discuss. Veteran to me is an understanding that I have gone before to fight in someone else’s stead. For whatever freedoms you think are important to you. I have also been asked why do you think you fight for freedoms, when they are constantly being taken away from those who send you to the place to fight? Which is a good question. I’ve spoken about this with other Veterans and they as well are exhausted by government overreach. Remember this is BanGov for a reason. Veterans no longer are required to serve their country. Country is defined as: a nation with its own government, occupying a particular territory. BanGov is no longer fighting for a country governed by those who choose what fight is necessary. BanGov is about fighting for a way of life for yourself. The pursuit of the individual is part of a decentralized theory that if everyone fights for their way of life they will inevitably respect everyone else’s. Continuously thinking that someone or something is continually holding you back from achieving is just an excuse for not trying. With this as a forethought then it is no wonder impoverished communities stay the way they are, and are told by their parents they have strikes against them and should just stick to the common complacency, WE HAVE ALL HEARD BEFORE!!. Go to school, work hard, go to college, get a good job, pay your bills, get married, have children, and then die knowing that you achieved what everyone else has been brainwashed into believing is the importance when nobody even asked what you wanted out of life. Anything outside of that you are considered and outcast by your peers, even if they may think the same way but are too afraid to ask. What does it mean to me to be a veteran, it means I have a basic understanding of what it means to put foot to ass for a way of life and as your neighbor be sure that if any group of individuals no matter their way of life, if it is in their interest to disrupt yours then the foot to ass mentality shall be visited once more. Insert Tom Cruise, Scorched Earth, Tropic Thunder video here. Unless of course they wish to discuss a way of life that we can agree on that I may like better. I mean round of drinks and just ask, “hey, what kind of weird shit are you into?” Now never losing my brothers or sisters in combat related incidents, but just maybe we can agree that some of those that we have served with are lost on what to do when they get out of the service. Which to me is problem numero uno (number one). To me telling someone that has dedicated their life to service and was willing to give it up for however long in defending it, 2 years, 20 years and then tell them they no longer have to serve. Well you have basically told them they have no purpose anymore. Never did I hear when getting out I should continue my service to others. It was them saying I was free, I could do whatever I wanted, I could be whomever I wanted. Well no fucking shit, I didn’t think I went to jail. I still was working and doing things for money other than the military. I didn’t only just have one purpose. I wasn’t in a prison sentence because I couldn’t have any other ambitions. This to me is what prior military struggle with more than anything is a lack of self worth when they think the fight is over and because they no longer take orders from those with their own agenda. Now obviously I am no doctor, or mental health specialist, CLEARLY. I can read though, and mental health is defined as: a person’s condition with regard to their psychological and emotional well-being. This is not just for Veterans, this is for all who need something to hold onto. Reality may feel like it is slipping away, I have been there. How you think or feel about yourself matters. So tend to THINK positively about yourself and what you are capable of, and trust that the FEELING will come with time. Again, what does it mean to me to be a Veteran? Well while day in and day out I’ll continue to work on myself. I will adapt skills, and really try to define a purpose for myself as an individual. Patiently waiting for the inevitable future when those who try to impede on my way of life or those of my community. My rifle will be oiled and ready when they no longer wish to talk. This is BanGov Actual, and I live to serve. BanGov Actual, OUT!

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Do You Fear Questions, Or Answers?

Watching kids be kids while you’re trying to get your haircut is all the entertainment I need. Their resilience as the older brother tries to assert his dominance with a close fist and brute force reminds me of my younger days. A barbaric way to live, I will admit it does not get you very far. Compliance is defined as: the action or fact of complying with a wish or command. Watching 2 little ones vs the bigger brother all came down the barber handing them a few lollipops. Instantly we had peace and quiet while they munched on them for as long as they lasted. Which begs the question: what are some things that we comply with as adults? This is not me telling anyone to break the law. This is asking what questions we ask ourselves that instill fear that have no consequence. Why does asking questions instill a fear that has been developed through a superiority complex? Does not matter their stature, if they just choose to not answer, or say “I don’t know” then what is the harm in the question? As adults we comply with things everyday that keep us in line. Also don’t get it twisted, I’m not saying don’t pay your bills, rent or pay off loans you chose to take out. You chose to have a higher car payment than you could afford, or a bigger house or if you’re under the impression you can’t live without your Netflix subscription, then please stop reading and get off my site. No room for those not willing to make sacrifices in order to rise above their problems. Most common problem I have seen with being compliant is nobody want to take the time to do research. Impatience drives them into a deeper hole. They want everything right now, and they want it without thinking could things be better? This also helps with delayed gratification. Besides the everyday essentials, and for some may be more than food and water, but besides that which you need to survive, what do we really need in order to succeed? In my opinion not much of anything unless what we are trying to succeed requires a purchase. If you learn to push aside the things you want for a little while. Let’s say a new PlayStation costs 300 dollars. Then you’re only tuned to the cost in front of you. When you are tuned to what could be made from a lifestyle change. Move some things around to create an avenue of income you could possibly buy one Xbox a month every month. The things you want and the things you need to do in order to get them are 2 different decisions. Video games are a cost, now you need to fuel that cost. Buying new games every so often, which you can afford now because you’ve created a stream of income for it. Same with a new car or truck. You need the gas and maintenance, maybe create a stream of income to cover those costs as well. Residual income, maybe a raise you’ve NEVER ASKED FOR. Change in your life begins with asking questions. It helps with giving you direction. Take the first step and don’t stop till you’ve found what you’re looking for. You may walk in circles, you may take left and rights, but you’re always going to be farther than those still deciding on if they should make a move. For those whose objective is to control other people’s way of life, I have something for you to suck on. Bangov Actual, out.

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Battles Within One For Many

Biggest transfer of power that I know is with yourself. First you help someone in need, then you help all who you’re close to, whenever opportunities present themselves you lend a hand. Then when you find your Bangov you start with saying no. Not because you don’t want to help but because you’re chasing your happiness. Don’t worry about the world while you’re trying to figure yourself out. You are either meant to fight or not. Then when you’ve achieved who you were meant to be then you will realize that you are now able to help more people than you could imagine. One thing I have heard from people is that they rather help others, rather than focus on themselves. They are content with their decision of helping on an individual basis. I will not try to convince them otherwise. As Bangov Actual I hope to encourage those into believing in themselves. If they believe they can help even a single person then I am proud of their efforts. “Help” is defined as: make it easier for (someone) to do something by offering one’s services or resources. Personally I am more a fan of incentives that get people to do things outside their means, expertise because I am convinced of incentivizing people to get back to work, and realize their potential, they may just see the shift in the world they may need. If battles can be won with the right angle then many will be won with more good people making the shift. Bangov Actual, out.

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“Problems” Or A Different Approach

Writing to make things bearable. This is why I tell you to write things down. You can’t remember everything. Write down your thoughts, frustrations, goals, ambitions. Keys you have written down will open so many doors for you to embrace how much you’re feeling inside and will bring what is inside to life. I write to communicate. The mouth cannot regurgitate everything that the mind is thinking. It is fitting a super computer on a turn belt, Niagara falls through a straw, which is the same feeling when trying to piss while having an erection, so maybe poor choice of words, but let us move on from this. The mouth can only say what it is trained to say. Think of learning a foreign language, you must train linguistically through repetitive movement of the mouth. Your tongue is a muscle, just like your brain, but what needs to be said needs to be written down first. Accumulate all of your thought processes and analyze them over time. Those who say or do things today may say and do something different a year from now. For me the things I write to you are not only thoughts but the process in which they are expressed. These give me time to digest thoughts and emotions I would rather not express until I have further had time to consolidate what I am trying to communicate. Remember using big words does not make someone intelligent. Intelligence is defined as: the ability to acquire and apply knowledge and skills. Everyone is intelligent in something, I have said it before. I believe everyone has a talent, and I love to drag it out of them in order to show them they are special in their own way and should utilize their talents in order to rise above poverty or even out of their comfort if they choose to do so. Bangov should be in all of our minds as a way for us to break through barriers. We do not dodge obstacles, we face them head on and on an occasion we step to the side for when shit hits the fan. We can all be intelligent in something, but ignorance is when you think you have it all figured out. I write as a way of getting all I have going for me and all I need to work on in front of me. With so many lock doors and so many keys, it is in my best interest just to keep putting keys into doors till some open. Those who are tired of problems, step into my world and welcome problems as a neurological strike to the brain in order to help you find solutions. Problems are defined as: a matter or situation regarded as unwelcome or harmful and needing to be dealt with and overcome. The need for whatever comes your way will inevitably lead you to a new perspective, as long as you stay positive, what you have in your mind will be all the strength you need to push forward in your endeavors. Bangov Actual, out.

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My Version Of “Fake It Till You Make It”

Pretending who we need to be, to get where we want. To me everything is salesmanship. Only difference is I am not forcing customers to buy anything they don’t actually need. Bangov is not to take up space in your home, but it is for you to take with you everywhere you go. Confidence is defined as: full trust; belief in the powers, trustworthiness, or reliability of a person or thing, or belief in oneself and one’s powers or abilities; self-confidence; self-reliance; assurance: Bangov is for you to take along your journey of taking risks, daydreaming. Being confident in yourself when you need the strength to move forward. The belief you have in yourself of course will come with time. I didn’t create Bangov in a day, week or year. It has been my life’s work, a constant fear of never having enough money to do the things I wish, living the life I wanted. Never taking risks on love, thinking I have to be at a point in my life in order to live my life. Sometimes it is good to pretend. It helps us solidify the dreams in our heads and realize that the distance between having a dream and living one are only a couple decisions away. For the ladies maybe a dress you can’t afford, makeup and hair done, and OF COURSE let’s not forget about the shoes. For my gentlemen, nice suit, watch, haircut and shave. To treat yourself with things you wouldn’t usually have is just putting on a face of who you are inside. Problem is people usually retreat back to those whom they think they have to be to please others. Or worse, they don’t try to hold on to the dream for as long as possible. Believe me I understand having to make sacrifices in order to get to where you want to be. That does not mean the dream may stay the same. Dreams are evolving with time and experiences. Like a blank canvas you wake up to every morning. Just pick up the brush and start painting and see what comes of your motion. Have confidence in yourself, whatever face you choose to put on, brave face, tired face, angry face and trust yourself that you can keep going. When it has been a hard day, I quietly whisper to myself, Bangov. To me Bangov is something for all to hold on to when you need an anchor. Something when your mind is lost, you need something to ground yourself to. When you’re afraid of floating away, being forgotten, Bangov will always be there. As I am continually trying to make Bangov more accessible to others, through blogs, social media, some day an app which I am tirelessly trying to figure that shit out. I whisper because it is what I wake up thinking about, and what makes it hard for me to fall asleep at night. My hope is for all who read, that you will find your Bangov one day. To dream is such a beautiful thing, and to be lost in your dream is just another way to say you’ve made it a reality.