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Debt

If you’re in debt CONGRATULATIONS, you know how to buy shit. You’ve successfully been able to establish needs and wants and be able to distinguish whether they are worth your time and effort. OR you went to Vegas. Not everything stays in Vegas and debt is not one of those things. Regardless of how you got into the situation. Christmas shopping, trip to Paris, I.DO.NOT.CARE. What I want to know is how hard are you willing to work to pay it off. As well, do you have any plans for different avenues of income to have it paid off?…crickets, ya I am aware you see the huge balance of thousands of dollars staring at you in the face. Just one of those things that doesn’t seem like it will ever go away. One thing that always gets rid of debt is time. The problem with that is people tend to only rely on their one stream of income coming from their 9-5 and don’t care to think about ways they could tackle that debt. Thing about debt is that when it seems impossible to pay it off, it is because you have not taken any action towards paying it off. You just keep staring at it, when one weekend job could relieve you of a thousand dollars. I wouldn’t be surprised if things in your home could be sold in order to pay off half of it but you neglect to take action in taking steps to pay it off. Of course maybe mowing some lawns, working some extra shifts, bar tending, whatever your skills right now allow you to do. I know these seem small but creating avenues in your mind start with exhausting your resources of skills you have. From there you have to think bigger. You have to think, instead of 10 dollars an hour, how do I make a 1000 dollars a day? To scale yourself is to take on bigger challenges in life to where your debt seems small. Debt won’t kill you, debts are a product of your own control and lifestyle changes. Debt is how people get rich, not saying you have to take on mass amounts, but don’t look at debt as it makes you someone not worthy of great things. It is because of debt that you must think bigger in order to buy things now with the confidence that you will always be able to pay them off because you have set yourself up for success and have a product or service that will always take care of your lifestyle. When it becomes someone else’s money that now you’re in their debt. You better believe that you are going to find a way to make that money back. Someone handing you a dream, it is your job, no more 9-5, you will be thinking about it 24/7 365. Time is all you need to conquer your debt. So utilize it well, and be creative and have fun paying off the things you enjoy. Bangov Actual, out.

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Momentum Is Who You Lose And Gain

Gaining Momentum in order to see a work in progress. Is that what we are all looking for? Is it the old seeing,Is believing. Well for that you must put pen to paper. You must have the action of putting one foot in front of the other to see how far you have gone. Paint a wall and know that you’re that much closer to finishing the room. Run a mile and know you’re that much closer to 2 miles. You get the point. Momentum is going to feel like pushing a train. Super hard to get going, but just know it comes from day to day struggles over time creating motion. Will not happen in one day, and will not happen if you are not consistent. Consistent is defined: acting or done in the same way over time. Knowing time is your obstacle, then you are the only thing that needs to get moving. Whatever presents itself as a result of that you should learn to be proud, and create the momentum you wish to chase. Don’t allow those who are stuck to determine your motion. Life tends to be suited to those who are in constant motion. Does not mean you have to leave those you love behind, just means they are not always there with you every step of the way. Ride the wave, see how far you go and as always it is your choice when deciding to settle down. To me momentum comes in two types. The momentum you create in your life based on the work you put into the foundation. This being, research done beforehand, pre-workout for all you gym rats. Or the popular “leg work.” We tend to forget when we are riding the wave, or so coked out on pre-workout, our relationships between those around us that can keep our momentum going. We have spent all this time trying to get the people holding us back out of our life. Those who put us down, who shame us for wanting more when they complain about not having enough. Really upsetting as well when they are the ones who need more help than you because you have the confidence to finally break away from the world you have felt trapped in for what seems like a lifetime. DON’T. YOU. FRET! It is all about to be different, it just starts with your decisions to make it better. Despite your emotional state, push through in knowing you’re getting closer to the light.

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Come On We’re Both Naked Here

Come on man we’re both naked here. You’re never really in control. Can be taken from you at any second. Kind of exciting right? Are most of you still stuck on the first sentence? That is OK because it is where this blog really takes place and in spite of my of how people feel of showering at the gym, it is full of emotions that i see as a necessity for those who lack confidence. If you have seen the movie Crazy Stupid Love then you may remember the conversation between Steve Carell and Ryan gosling in the men’s locker room when Ryan goslings character is testing Steve’s character by having his dick in his face. Not saying the class is for everyone but it does help in a sense depict the issue that men. No matter how old, men have a problem, or insecurity with another man naked in the same room. Why is it that? Is it because we are afraid of being gay? Maybe we might get a little nub and be “confused” all of a sudden. Insecurities about our own body? I find it odd that men have such an awkwardness leading up to later years about being naked in a gym locker room, where frankly you’re supposed to be naked. I’m not saying walk through town guys, but at least take some time to gather up some confidence about who you are as a man. Ladies just know I don’t go walking into the ladies locker room all the time so for me to comment on such a thing, or leave your perspective out of this is not intentional, I just don’t have the perspective of being in a room full of naked women and asking how they feel about it. Being in a place such as the locker room is really a testament to men and just how insecure they can be. The lack of confidence, or thinking that they have to be impressive towards other men, of course in a non sexual way. To most men, life is competition, sports, work, money, status. Constantly in the ring and trying to fight our ways to the top. The comment I made earlier, “Come on man we’re both naked here, what is really going on?” Was an encounter I had with an elderly gentleman in the gym after my morning workout. He had just wrapped a towel around his arm and was headed to the showers. Coming to the door which separates shower room from the lockers, he seems to have a fit and starts questioning me, “why do they prop open this door?” I myself have just dropped my towel and this conversation was taking place. I thought clearly this guy is having a bad day, this cannot be what he is really upset about. I shout out “Come on man, we’re both naked here, what’s really going on?” He must have been hard of hearing, because I said it a few times, and never got a response, or he just didn’t know how to reply. In that event he takes the trash can propping open the door and throws it against the sinks. As he proceeds to the showers, 10 people coming to and from the showers open that door and smack into the trash can. So I myself being the antagonist put the trash can back, propping the door open, grab my bag and leave. Some people just have no control in their lives and will do anything throughout the day to feel some sort of it. Control yourself, and the direction you are going. Everyone else is not worth your time. Bangov Actual, out.

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Customer Service Is A Way Of Life

Customer service should be a class. No test, the only test is life. Seen some shit customer service in the past few weeks. See how you are with others, and let that transfer to your professional life, and see how far that gets you. Seen servers role their eyes for questions pertaining to their job. Gotten, just “I don’t know, and I don’t care attitude. Customer service has to be a priority when not only creating yourself, but a business, I myself have told a customer off but only when they are disrespectful. I do not mean they say anything demeaning, or they even insult you or your company, but at the point of threatening when they do not get what they want. Be mindful only in circumstances where there is threat of a physical altercation do you put your hands on someone. That goes for just life in general. That is one side of the spectrum. I am talking about keeping your cool when a customer is flat out screaming at you. To be put in these situations I want you to think to yourself, have I really done anything to upset this person. Of course not but always in the back of your mind I can probably do something to make them happy. Deescalating the situation before hand is all it takes when dealing with someone that is upset about how they feel they are being treated. Reassurance goes a long way, as well an explanation is always a way to get you talking and them to calm down. I know what you’re thinking, what if they insult you, they call you an idiot, they go after character, IT.DOES.NOT.MATTER. This can be utilized in a good way. Someone offended, or insulted you, understand if you’re working at a place where a manager is called that does not stand up for you, WORK SOMEWHERE ELSE. Company culture will define how you go about this, some cultures I’ve seen take it and it is not good for business. You cannot help everyone, and a company must be respectful of it’s employees. Of course unless that employee is in the wrong. Customer service is about giving the right impression even before the problem starts and a company that is able to fix a multitude of problems has a very strong history of repeat customers. Customer service takes away the customers notion that they are doing business with a company. You want it to be more personal, so make sure they know they are doing business with you. Sell yourself and the customer will develop a sense of trust in what you say. Which are very important to you especially if they work on commission. When people are treated In a certain way and shown a level of competence above others they are sure to return. Of course you will have bad days but just like anything else, it all is going to start with you and how you want to face the day. Can either be a good or bad day, choice is yours. BanGov Actual, out.

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Define Your Wants In Life

When all is said and done thinking about WHAT YOU WANT is the most important thing. I mean what you really want. Not just what you saw in a movie and thought, huh, that would be cool. Something you may not even know that has been a dream of yours. You’ve been off and on between work and play and then the in between is something that has distracted you from even things you think you have wanted. It is the fuel that drives you to do things that see you differently. When you were a kid, you may have been called a show off. I was because I liked girls. Pushing myself was also an evolution of going for bigger and better challenges. First it is physical, then mental, then financial. When all those fade away you tend to do things because you think I am going to die one day and this is just what has been done from the beginning. You’re creating your inevitability before the world. The only thing you must do from then on is make it known to the world. Everyone is known for something. What do you want to be known for? This is how you focus and narrow your focus so that it becomes a part of your success. That is what people will know you for, you just need to believe that you can set yourself apart from it, even if you don’t believe, if you believe it long enough it will become a part of you. It will become your reality. So first, find who you are, second, ask, how do I become better? Back yourself into a corner so that you have no choice but to fight your way out. The further you continue to go towards what you want the more you don’t want to look back. Many roads will get you from a to b. Just don’t take too many roads that you end up going backwards. To want something, as desire is defined: strong, feeling of wanting to have something or wishing for something to happen. With a feeling that has to be created we must want something for it to be felt. Love, as we have all felt, or at least the desire for someone. Makes me think, what kept her from me? what kept him from her? The desire was there for both, then the only thing that was missing as them forgetting to communicate how they felt about each other. When you want something or someone you can either think that they would be happier with or without you. You still have to make the call that you are going to communicate to them, regardless of how they feel that it is going to be communicated that you like them. Yes you may regret not saying anything, but then missed opportunity creates in your mind that you have to take any opportunity that comes your way. Becomes confusing because then your wants become little opportunities seized. You have no direction at that point, you’re just taking wild shots, which, in your younger years can be fun, and a great learning experience. As you get older, wanting to define yourself and what you are about becomes harder, or at least something that feels more rushed. In life, always make a quality product, especially when establishing yourself. You deserve it for the amount of work you’re about to put into it. Bangov, Actual, out!

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Give Up Control

What binds us to the life we are living now? Are we happy? Is that even a prerequisite anymore. To go through life does not have any means of a pursuit. You don’t have to have a college degree, certificate of achievement. Hell you don’t even need a participation trophy to get through it. Big misconception is that you need others’ approval for your life choices. I hope those of you over 30 would know this but in this day and age you just never know what people need to hear anymore. Don’t need your parents approval, your friends, you’re kidding if you think they know more than you. Release yourself from others expectations and create your own. I have some time on this earth and it has always made me wonder if right now, at this very moment am I in the right mind set. Do I have the right mentality to move forward? Unfortunately I have only a few moments where everything has been in sync. I guess I had it once, and now it is a distant memory. I will spend the rest of my life trying to get it back and make it as consistent as possible. The consistency we feel keeps us in motion towards our happiness. Ok maybe not happiness always. Even happiness can be faked. Progress cannot though. Happiness is what is shared between people. We’re social creatures. If you disagree, then I would like to know what your happiness is. Continue to build who you are, piece by piece, laugh by laugh, cry by cry. Those around you are not who you need to please. They are those who are looking for their own journey. Nobody really has time to control others. Usually those who try have no control over their own lives. So what does it really mean to be in control? Since by definition, control is to influence, or direct people’s behavior or the course of events. Of course it has a few others, just look ’em up, I’m not going to do everything, BUT let’s just focus on this one. Although I am the one writing these blogs in order to inspire people to take risks, and make something of their lives. Maybe I’m controlling. Eh fuck it, get out there and make something of yourselves. That’s me when I’m controlling. I push others to be something they are afraid of. So don’t fuck with me, or I’ll push you to do all the things your afraid of. You know, like aspire to be someone you dream of being, follow your passions, or even tell the world to go fu k themselves while you work on yourself and focus on your happiness. Don’t focus on control. Experiment, enjoy the embarrassment. Bangov Actual, out!

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What Men Really Want In Bed

Gentlemen, what gets you all riled up in bed? Seriously. Do we even know, why don’t we know these things. You know your favorite music but not what your lady can do to really turn you on. This is interesting to me because I have been an advocate for men and women to be comfortable exploring sexual acts in order to spice up the bedroom, or even being single you engage in actions that may just be of curiosity to you or someone else. Let me be clear in saying I am not against exploratory sex with someone you are not currently involved with romantically. Casual sex, sex between 3, DO.NOT.CARE. Do what makes your pickle tickle or flower power! I am a strong advocate for being professional, and would like to just mention those who do pay a lot of money for these fantasies to become a reality. We can all stop hiding from those who may not agree with you. If for religious reasons, societal norms, then it is simple that we just do not share these sides of ourselves with them. Some people may think if they won’t accept all sides of me then they don’t deserve me. I won’t be the one to say you are wrong, then again that is your choice who you let in your worlds and those should be people that encourage you to be the best version of yourself. Another side would say due to a societal norm these people who don’t agree may just be under the impression that you may get hurt and they are trying to protect you from that. So don’t always take oppositions as a negative or as a potentially controlling desire. They may just not want you to get hurt. Or hell maybe they are too afraid to say they feel the same way. So be open to talking about it if you’re open to sharing the thought with someone. Break down the psychology of it together with the why. You may just come to the same conclusion. This blog is not just what men may be thinking of about during sex, it may be women need to ask the question for men to feel comfortable answering. Ladies, just know that unless you have never asked, the man in your life has probably never been asked. Men usually talk about sex in bullet points. Went to dinner, drinks,back to my place, fucked. Then a high five with the guys. Ladies are way more expressive in how the night went. All starts with the ring of the door bell and they are telling friends, he came to the door to pick me up, brownie points, he opened the door, brownie points, got in the car, it was clean, smelled good, FUCKING BROWNIE POINTS. I won’t go through the entire date because you get the point. From the point of the act of having sex women are breaking down the five senses The better it was the more detail they will go into it. The worse it was they will be more like a guy and say ya, we fucked in his car, I did not cum. Then he drove me home. Very romantic, I know guys. Gentlemen just know this goes both ways. You have to be willing to initiate conversation as well, if you make an agreement, or have paid someone to have these specific fantasies come true then OK that transaction will be handled as business as usual, But, if you’re intimate with someone for a number of years, these questions just as what they aspire to be, hopes, dreams, aspirations. Why does it never include sexual fantasies?

What men want in bed is simple. The same thing women want. The chance to discuss options of sexual exploration without judgement. The conversation alone is liberating for the both of you, don’t care if you paid or not. Stop being afraid of asking these questions, literally the internet is filled with answers for you and another to explore til your heart’s content.

 

What? You guys think I would leave you without giving you a list? Come on, this is Bangov!

 

1-Play with his balls, (suck on them)

2-Finger in the ass, (it’s not for everyone)

3-Little spoon, (some are afraid it’s demeaning)

4-Be vocal on what feels good ladies/guys

5-Sex in a public place, you initiate it ladies

6-Ask to be on top of him

7-Make eye contact while he licks his lips and smiles.

8-Jump into another position without being asked.

9-When we are sucking on you ladies, say yes, no, left, down, right, up, what do you want?

10-Lights on

11-Don’t talk bad about your body

12-Find some clothes you may be OK ripping

13-Go shopping for lingerie together, big part of sex for men is visual, we like a lot of things leading up to the bedroom, like women do with foreplay to get you wet, we don’t get wet ladies we get hard.

14-Sucking on him may take a while, but in the end the commitment and the feeling after, he may return the favor immediately after. Like seriously you would think a refractory period was a myth when you suck him off.

15- Cum in your mouth, chest, stomach, the usual. (I’m not going to pretend to know the level of kink who reads this)

16- According to business insider 26.8 of males fantasized giving oral sex to a man

20.6 males fantasized about having sex with another man ( Who knew?)

source: https://www.businessinsider.com/normal-male-sexual-fantasies-2014-11?amp

17- Make a sex video (this I will say I would do again, will not post, don’t ask.)

18- 3 some, which I have researched, and what I have researched is men, if you’re willing to do it with a guy, she may be willing to do it with a woman.

19-Watching someone fuck your wife, Relax! Talk about it.

20, 4 some, can’t forget about my swingers, that is literally what an open marriage is for.

21- Sit and be naked together, explore each others bodies even before sex

22- Dance naked together

23-Slap his ass, and ladies, (yell yahoo!, yeehaa!, whoo!)

24-Laugh during, still talk and tell jokes.

25- Shower together before/after.

26- Watch porn together, watch something you’re both into, or take turns.

27- Experiment with different positions, see what you both like. Make a top 10.

28- Compliment each other on things you like, or find sexy, boobs, but, legs, arms, smile, hands,

29- Make a list of where you would like to have sex, schedule an airbnb, hotel stay.

30- Ladies what are you going to wear, outfits, star wars, cheer outfit, aeon flux, I mean hell if a woman walked up to me in a lady gaga outfit I’d probably say yes. I mean even Jabba the hutt I may give a try. Just as long as it is a costume. Hahahaha

 

31- Ladies, maybe we want to buy you something? Vibrators, dildos, clamps, whips, feathers, floggers, just to name a few.

32-Massage, my goodness gracious if you don’t know how, then YouTube, or Pornhub that shit and get your life together.

33- Tie you up?, ladies he may want full control to fuck you where he pleases and in all sorts of positions. Strongly advise doing this between those you trust or in a controlled and safe environment. Or at least a class to go over safety measures.

34- Bondassage? Look it up, light BDSM and sensual massage.

35- Make a playlist of sex music together. Different moods, create a few playlists and use one for maybe more romantic nights, quickies, maybe just home for lunch, more fun and have some time.

36- Cunnilingus,blow job, while sucking on different candies, fruits, after different drinks, light candles for different smells.

37-Sex toys, Just look up different things to kink up your bedroom.  Adameve.com, lovehoney.com  this one just makes me laugh, buy as many toys as you like and if you feel like you don’t use them as much, leaving a box at goodwill to me was one of the best reactions I have ever seen. Holy fuck I was dying laughing, or save some friends money and see if they want to give them a try. Just use some Clorox wipes ya bunch of nancy’s.

 

This list I hope this list helps some of you explore more of your sexual worlds within yourself and with your partner. I have heard way too many times men and woman experience sexual frustration and a feeling of being trapped in a reality where they cannot express themselves even privately with someone they are dating, married or just seeing for casual sex. After all sex is not just the act. It is a conversation I feel is only coming to the surface now after years of being taboo, and Bangov is here to set you free. Bangov Actual, out.

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