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Are You Struggling, or Complaining?

If you own a horse, I don’t want to hear your problems. “I can’t afford shit.” Ya well I want to own a bear, or tiger like Mike Tyson, but I don’t because then my whole life changes around that animal. So my dog will do it for now. It is amazing how people will complain about their finances, and yet they have a horse, boat, 3 cars and a big ass house. So be honest with yourself and evaluate your situation and what you own. Are you really struggling? Or do you just like having expensive shit? Nothing wrong with that, I have expensive hobbies as well. I just tend to look at purchases like a choice. If they are not the essentials, like food, gas, rent, utilities. Then I can wait a month to purchase that new suit, or watch, anything really. It can wait and it is not the end goal, it is only going to give me happiness for about 10 minutes. Things accumulated are not what defines you, so don’t think that the more you have the happier you will be. In my experience what is done for others is what will define me. That is all I will focus on till the end of my time on this earth. I have had many jobs, made money in many different ways, but never had I realized that a passion for inviting others would be this easy to continue. I’m a communicable person. I believe in opening up communication, whatever that may mean to you. Remember this is Bangov, this is your choice and how you choose to view your life. I am simply here telling you what I am going through. All the questions, fears, doubts, I am going through just as you are. So never think you’re alone in how you’re feeling. All I ask is when you begin your journey, or if you have been at it for a while, make sure communication stays open. The world is always trying to help you in intricate ways that if you just take the time you may be missing what is needed right in front of you. Challenging yourself is supposed to be hard, but again how you decide to view it, you can either make it your prison, or you can make it your game. The world you create in your mind should be what you put on paper. Then paper can be constructed to become reality. Bangov Actual, out!

 

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Path Of Most Resistance

I feel myself battling with all sides of me. What I could be doing. What I’ve dreamed of doing and What I should be focusing on. It is hard to dream and think that you could ever amount to what your dreams are because that is the point of dreaming. Stepping outside your own beliefs and having the confidence to commit to an ideal of yourself. You will probably feel as if you are running in circles as I have many times in pursuit of a passion. This is when you need to evaluate yourself. Really take time to write down, maybe say into a voice memo what you’re feeling right now. Yes feelings do matter, despite popular conservative slogans like, “Facts don’t care about your feelings.” Which is true they don’t when trying to argue reason and logic. This is me trying to instill a passion within myself. Does not happen overnight and I am tired of people giving up when getting rich quick scams tend to not be what they imagined. Not so instant. You better be willing to work for what you want or just be content with mediocrity. Do yourself a favor and look at your lives today and just think 10 years ago was I here? If you have made tremendous leaps and are out of the situation you were in, great. Just realize that 10 years from now when you are better than you are now, you’re still going to want more. May just not be of a financial pursuit. As I have always told friends, money is inevitable. If you’re constant then money should come as you are inevitably going to keep moving forward with your life. Of course we have all felt backed up against the ropes with a mortgage payment, or a credit card payment. Hahahaha slap me with a 35 dollar charge because I can’t pay on time while I am trying to figure my way through this thing called life, sure go ahead. No big deal, and it is not a big deal but you tend to make it a bigger deal then it is. Everything comes down to you. Three things, What could i be doing, What I have dreamed of doing, and what I should be focusing on? Choice is yours. Do you want to follow your dreams? Or are you OK with the 2nd or 3rd tier in order to feel fulfilled. Of course, finding;g love, having a family is all important, but this is about you and I will SAY IT AGAIN! Help yourself in order to help the masses. Can’t help get anyone out of a hole if you’re in the same hole, or bigger. That is the interesting thing about paths of least resistance. Choosing yourself as a path when you’re the resistance. Bangov Actual, out.

 

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You Owe People Nothing

It is always interesting to me the way we latch on to others. I think it is important to make distinctions about others in our life. Another reason why having 1000 supposed friends is a waste of time. You have your group and depending on the choices they make you can recycle out the ones that give your life more value. To think that you owe anyone because of the friendship they have given you is always in question. Not saying if they gave you money, you should try to repay that friend back as soon as possible. Also just what my father had told me was any money you give to a friend, don’t expect back. So obviously understand if money is given depending on the circumstance, it may just be the end of the friendship. With anyone I call my friend today, I have never owed, never not said thank you, and never not wanted to be there for them when they have needed me. After  everything, they have never owed me. They never will because I choose to keep those who have stuck around in a world where everyone does their part. Everyone chooses to do what part they wish. Not too much, not too little. Mainly you just have to display an interest in each other. Call on the phone sometimes, text message “hey bud, how are you?, Great OK go fuck yourself!” You know guy shit. They have girlfriends or wives, and we all get together, find out what is new and maybe after we don’t see each other for 6 months. Ya, we get busy, life happens, or maybe I never leave my hole, I just keep blogging. Weird that when people haven’t seen each other for a while they automatically go to the conclusion they are not friends anymore. Relax people, maybe they have a new girl or guy in their life, you should be happy for them. Having to share every aspect with you just means that you need to start living life yourself. You owe people NOTHING. This is especially important when thinking how much have you done for people that have never deserved it. Friends they are not if they think their time is more important than yours. That is why you don’t see your friends for a while because you both respect that each other is trying to get your shit done. You’re reading this, trying to better yourself, your situation. Taking steps to make yourself better, well so are they just in different aspects. You’re a nice person and you need to start being selfish, people who take advantage of that are not the ones you should be giving your time to. Bangov Actual, out!

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Let’s Define Terms, “Endure”

To endure means to suffer patiently. It is increasingly surprising to me that old Merriam Webster, with just the simplest definitions. Can bring you out of a funk to give you a different perspective. A way of the world that was only undiscovered a moment ago. To endure, if your pursuit is one I would not say is for everyone but those who dabble in it will be the most grateful for it’s lessons. To endure when you are lost is to be as you are now. The thing is when trying to find life’s pursuit we just don’t think we are lost. We just tend to give up too early and don’t wish to endure the darkness of our own existence. Ask me what I wanted to do 10 years ago, I would have told you the military. When I got out I didn’t want to do it anymore. I only wanted to do it because that just seemed like my only option. No way I would have made it in college. I know, I have the grades of me attempting to prove it. I personally just came to the conclusion that I wanted to work. That was it, in simplest form. Work, work, work, money, money, money….. I think a lot of people feel this way at some point. Out of some notion that the money will fill a void, or a certain dollar amount will make you happy. Nope, it is what I have come to see as a degree of wealth, or a measure of means. Haven’t really coined it yet, but it is the measurement of confidence in the individual and what they choose as a life for themselves. What do you think you deserve out of life? What do your manifestations build for you? What is your end? Have to let go sometime right? I won’t decide when. Just when you’re done with the ride, step off. How do you choose to suffer? Are you alone? Have you found someone to suffer with? To endure is a life’s pursuit. When you find yours just always remember…Bangov….

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Just… Breathe..

So stress being the biggest bitch of all when it comes to wanting to work hard and play hard every day all day. We have to take a step back and remember we are human. The immune system is still a thing and we want to keep it strong, so aside from maybe vitamins and tea which I take and drink everyday, what are things that you guys do to keep the stress level down. Can never really get rid of it. Think of yourself as a teapot. Once the water boils it is time to turn it off or take it off the burner. What happens if you don’t? Water evaporates then you ruin the pot, and then your mom smacks you because you saw your favorite show on TV and forgot what you were doing. The point is stress will come in all forms or fashions and having a regular regiment of ways of relieving the stress is very important. Make sure you’re actually using the time to relieve stress. Workout, focus on breathing, meditate, and sleep is probably the biggest one for me. I have a cold now and my biggest pet peeve in the world is getting sick. I mean even more than hearing Alec Baldwin didn’t pull the trigger. Also a big one I am sure we all could do is maybe cut down on social media. I have a social media site, but in the pursuit of people’s happiness I would like to be an advocate for your physical and mental health. I tend to overwork myself, but understand that just like everything, persistence is not just in how hard you work, it is how you do what is necessary in basic maintenance to continue on. So grease up the hinges, tighten up the bolts, put coolant in the reservoir, whatever you need to tell yourself so that tomorrow is just another day and you’re in good health, so it is going to be a good day. Or like me and on day 3 of this shit cold. This is so dumb. Bangov Actual, out!

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Why Is It Hard To Plan Dates?

What do I do with my spouse, uh make a list? Why is it so hard to do something with the people that we supposedly love? Want to spend the rest of your life with this person, or are we just dating “place holders?” Till you find the one that you’ve really been wanting to be with. The one you dream of. Love is a beautiful thing, but can distract you at times from the bigger picture. This is why people say love is not enough, because life doesn’t just end there when you find someone at 19. You have another part of you that is invested in a whole other ideology and self image of what could be. Just imagine if you had a little more confidence in yourself, really ask yourself would you be with the person that you are with right now? It is a delicate fabrication of what you’re willing to do and how far you are willing to push yourself. Sucks if they are nice people. You can’t help it, the fire inside you just needs to come out sometime. It either gets released or it dies. Then what is to become of you? Are you ready for it to be put to rest or are you young and feel too much pressure stuck in a life that you did not want but inevitably had to fall into to please those around you. It is hard to please everyone, so don’t. You can only go forward based on the vision you have in your head and taking steps to fill in blanks. Take a walk and ask is this present that you’re in what feels fulfilling. If so, then I have nothing more to say. If you want more, then you are going to have to disappoint everyone that has a different vision for your life. This is not just a couples thing either. Being single and picturing more than just the bullet points in life keeps you from getting stuck. Ask your significant other what they want to do Friday night. If he or she does not know, welp you now have free range to do whatever the fuck you want. Go bowling, go dancing, go make pottery. The fact of doing things that you don’t even like opens your world up to communication. Doing things you don’t like inevitably just enforces you will pay more attention to that special someone in your life. Talking with them or creating memories in my opinion are the time stamps of your relationship. If one or both parties is not interested in how to spend time with each other……..well you decide the ending of that story. The title is, “Why Is It Hard To Plan Dates.” Well that is because you are still dating the person even if you are married to them. Never really shifts into “look!, we made it.” You are going to have to date for as long as you are together, so make sure that someone is someone you will have the kind of fun you want with. If you want to snack, Netflix and chill, do that. Or if you choose to go out for a drink and let loose once a month, then great. Either way having 2 lists I think is great, big vacations and small dates to do once a week. Having a hard time making a list, holy fuck google you monkey. Tons of articles on what to do with your squeeze when you both want to be in or  out. Bangov Actual, out!

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Battle Of The Sexes..Gentlemen We’re Losing

The battle of the sexes is in its 2nd phase and men are losing the war. I have constantly been told by women that men are not men anymore. Gentlemen, I get your argument, “well they wanted equality right?” That doesn’t mean you throw in the towel because a small group of women want one thing. Your intention was to listen to the news and neglect women who still like the tradition. What kind of small minded individual takes the mainstream news media as a way of life??? It is one perspective you monkey’s. Holding hands, holding doors open, holding her purse when she is trying to get situated. Dating is a hell of a time, don’t get me wrong. Women who don’t know what they want, no drive, no ambition for a better future. Not financially driven, or worse they want sexually what scares the Jesus right out of you religious ones. Ladies this goes for men too. These issues are not generalized to one side.. All this being said, it is hard for both men and women because fundamentally we do not communicate anymore. You’re stuck inside and lack the communicable skills to even approach a woman in a bar. Nightclubs are too loud for me, grocery store, I mean holly fuck just saying hi my name is… is enough to get you both nervous. Be polite, and if they say no, guess what around the corner is another one, around that corner is another corner, and inevitably you’ll find a parking lot of women. What blows me away is men are still stuck on the marriage and divorce scare. I’ll admit I am in that club. I want every man to look up the 7 different alternatives to marriage and choose one that best fits you. Till death do us part, fuuuuuck that shit. Literally anything can be legally entrusted to your spouse through an attorney. Also Gentlemen this is what I am being told by women, none of this is even me complaining, this is from the perspective of women ready for a man, but who have given up looking. They are perfectly happy, financially well off with their careers, raising children, big house and are KILLING IT. If this intimidates any guys out there, great!  You are not allowed to procreate. If this does not pertain to you, understand that marriage is not what it has been. Imagine a life where you don’t have to live with the women you’re married to. You want to fuck other people, be in an open marriage. Some of you would starve, but they have more incentive to learn other skills. Cooking, cleaning, dancing, how to dress, groom yourselves, and I know some of you have never felt a good shave, fresh suit, and even know what aftershave is and IT.IS.DISGUSTING…For men and women, to create a world for yourself is so easy nowadays. Do not look to those around you because you’ll just fall into the same traps they did. Married for the wrong reason, kids as an anchor for the marriage to work. Wanting more out of life you may have to be selfish, but in the end it saves both you and others heartache. Communication we have all heard is key to a great relationship. It is the most basic bitch answer on any show you watch. Morning show, daytime television, Dr. Phil, take your pick. What they don’t tell you is you should be in good Communication before you even get into something long term. Talk, listen, learn, grow, Bangov Actual, out!

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