What do I do with my spouse, uh make a list? Why is it so hard to do something with the people that we supposedly love? Want to spend the rest of your life with this person, or are we just dating “place holders?” Till you find the one that you’ve really been wanting to be with. The one you dream of. Love is a beautiful thing, but can distract you at times from the bigger picture. This is why people say love is not enough, because life doesn’t just end there when you find someone at 19. You have another part of you that is invested in a whole other ideology and self image of what could be. Just imagine if you had a little more confidence in yourself, really ask yourself would you be with the person that you are with right now? It is a delicate fabrication of what you’re willing to do and how far you are willing to push yourself. Sucks if they are nice people. You can’t help it, the fire inside you just needs to come out sometime. It either gets released or it dies. Then what is to become of you? Are you ready for it to be put to rest or are you young and feel too much pressure stuck in a life that you did not want but inevitably had to fall into to please those around you. It is hard to please everyone, so don’t. You can only go forward based on the vision you have in your head and taking steps to fill in blanks. Take a walk and ask is this present that you’re in what feels fulfilling. If so, then I have nothing more to say. If you want more, then you are going to have to disappoint everyone that has a different vision for your life. This is not just a couples thing either. Being single and picturing more than just the bullet points in life keeps you from getting stuck. Ask your significant other what they want to do Friday night. If he or she does not know, welp you now have free range to do whatever the fuck you want. Go bowling, go dancing, go make pottery. The fact of doing things that you don’t even like opens your world up to communication. Doing things you don’t like inevitably just enforces you will pay more attention to that special someone in your life. Talking with them or creating memories in my opinion are the time stamps of your relationship. If one or both parties is not interested in how to spend time with each other……..well you decide the ending of that story. The title is, “Why Is It Hard To Plan Dates.” Well that is because you are still dating the person even if you are married to them. Never really shifts into “look!, we made it.” You are going to have to date for as long as you are together, so make sure that someone is someone you will have the kind of fun you want with. If you want to snack, Netflix and chill, do that. Or if you choose to go out for a drink and let loose once a month, then great. Either way having 2 lists I think is great, big vacations and small dates to do once a week. Having a hard time making a list, holy fuck google you monkey. Tons of articles on what to do with your squeeze when you both want to be in or out. Bangov Actual, out!
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