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What Men Really Want In Bed

Gentlemen, what gets you all riled up in bed? Seriously. Do we even know, why don’t we know these things. You know your favorite music but not what your lady can do to really turn you on. This is interesting to me because I have been an advocate for men and women to be comfortable exploring sexual acts in order to spice up the bedroom, or even being single you engage in actions that may just be of curiosity to you or someone else. Let me be clear in saying I am not against exploratory sex with someone you are not currently involved with romantically. Casual sex, sex between 3, DO.NOT.CARE. Do what makes your pickle tickle or flower power! I am a strong advocate for being professional, and would like to just mention those who do pay a lot of money for these fantasies to become a reality. We can all stop hiding from those who may not agree with you. If for religious reasons, societal norms, then it is simple that we just do not share these sides of ourselves with them. Some people may think if they won’t accept all sides of me then they don’t deserve me. I won’t be the one to say you are wrong, then again that is your choice who you let in your worlds and those should be people that encourage you to be the best version of yourself. Another side would say due to a societal norm these people who don’t agree may just be under the impression that you may get hurt and they are trying to protect you from that. So don’t always take oppositions as a negative or as a potentially controlling desire. They may just not want you to get hurt. Or hell maybe they are too afraid to say they feel the same way. So be open to talking about it if you’re open to sharing the thought with someone. Break down the psychology of it together with the why. You may just come to the same conclusion. This blog is not just what men may be thinking of about during sex, it may be women need to ask the question for men to feel comfortable answering. Ladies, just know that unless you have never asked, the man in your life has probably never been asked. Men usually talk about sex in bullet points. Went to dinner, drinks,back to my place, fucked. Then a high five with the guys. Ladies are way more expressive in how the night went. All starts with the ring of the door bell and they are telling friends, he came to the door to pick me up, brownie points, he opened the door, brownie points, got in the car, it was clean, smelled good, FUCKING BROWNIE POINTS. I won’t go through the entire date because you get the point. From the point of the act of having sex women are breaking down the five senses The better it was the more detail they will go into it. The worse it was they will be more like a guy and say ya, we fucked in his car, I did not cum. Then he drove me home. Very romantic, I know guys. Gentlemen just know this goes both ways. You have to be willing to initiate conversation as well, if you make an agreement, or have paid someone to have these specific fantasies come true then OK that transaction will be handled as business as usual, But, if you’re intimate with someone for a number of years, these questions just as what they aspire to be, hopes, dreams, aspirations. Why does it never include sexual fantasies?

What men want in bed is simple. The same thing women want. The chance to discuss options of sexual exploration without judgement. The conversation alone is liberating for the both of you, don’t care if you paid or not. Stop being afraid of asking these questions, literally the internet is filled with answers for you and another to explore til your heart’s content.

 

What? You guys think I would leave you without giving you a list? Come on, this is Bangov!

 

1-Play with his balls, (suck on them)

2-Finger in the ass, (it’s not for everyone)

3-Little spoon, (some are afraid it’s demeaning)

4-Be vocal on what feels good ladies/guys

5-Sex in a public place, you initiate it ladies

6-Ask to be on top of him

7-Make eye contact while he licks his lips and smiles.

8-Jump into another position without being asked.

9-When we are sucking on you ladies, say yes, no, left, down, right, up, what do you want?

10-Lights on

11-Don’t talk bad about your body

12-Find some clothes you may be OK ripping

13-Go shopping for lingerie together, big part of sex for men is visual, we like a lot of things leading up to the bedroom, like women do with foreplay to get you wet, we don’t get wet ladies we get hard.

14-Sucking on him may take a while, but in the end the commitment and the feeling after, he may return the favor immediately after. Like seriously you would think a refractory period was a myth when you suck him off.

15- Cum in your mouth, chest, stomach, the usual. (I’m not going to pretend to know the level of kink who reads this)

16- According to business insider 26.8 of males fantasized giving oral sex to a man

20.6 males fantasized about having sex with another man ( Who knew?)

source: https://www.businessinsider.com/normal-male-sexual-fantasies-2014-11?amp

17- Make a sex video (this I will say I would do again, will not post, don’t ask.)

18- 3 some, which I have researched, and what I have researched is men, if you’re willing to do it with a guy, she may be willing to do it with a woman.

19-Watching someone fuck your wife, Relax! Talk about it.

20, 4 some, can’t forget about my swingers, that is literally what an open marriage is for.

21- Sit and be naked together, explore each others bodies even before sex

22- Dance naked together

23-Slap his ass, and ladies, (yell yahoo!, yeehaa!, whoo!)

24-Laugh during, still talk and tell jokes.

25- Shower together before/after.

26- Watch porn together, watch something you’re both into, or take turns.

27- Experiment with different positions, see what you both like. Make a top 10.

28- Compliment each other on things you like, or find sexy, boobs, but, legs, arms, smile, hands,

29- Make a list of where you would like to have sex, schedule an airbnb, hotel stay.

30- Ladies what are you going to wear, outfits, star wars, cheer outfit, aeon flux, I mean hell if a woman walked up to me in a lady gaga outfit I’d probably say yes. I mean even Jabba the hutt I may give a try. Just as long as it is a costume. Hahahaha

 

31- Ladies, maybe we want to buy you something? Vibrators, dildos, clamps, whips, feathers, floggers, just to name a few.

32-Massage, my goodness gracious if you don’t know how, then YouTube, or Pornhub that shit and get your life together.

33- Tie you up?, ladies he may want full control to fuck you where he pleases and in all sorts of positions. Strongly advise doing this between those you trust or in a controlled and safe environment. Or at least a class to go over safety measures.

34- Bondassage? Look it up, light BDSM and sensual massage.

35- Make a playlist of sex music together. Different moods, create a few playlists and use one for maybe more romantic nights, quickies, maybe just home for lunch, more fun and have some time.

36- Cunnilingus,blow job, while sucking on different candies, fruits, after different drinks, light candles for different smells.

37-Sex toys, Just look up different things to kink up your bedroom.  Adameve.com, lovehoney.com  this one just makes me laugh, buy as many toys as you like and if you feel like you don’t use them as much, leaving a box at goodwill to me was one of the best reactions I have ever seen. Holy fuck I was dying laughing, or save some friends money and see if they want to give them a try. Just use some Clorox wipes ya bunch of nancy’s.

 

This list I hope this list helps some of you explore more of your sexual worlds within yourself and with your partner. I have heard way too many times men and woman experience sexual frustration and a feeling of being trapped in a reality where they cannot express themselves even privately with someone they are dating, married or just seeing for casual sex. After all sex is not just the act. It is a conversation I feel is only coming to the surface now after years of being taboo, and Bangov is here to set you free. Bangov Actual, out.

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Some Days Feel Like Mud

Some days feel like they don’t move at all. Almost like walking through Mud. Nothing is wrong but also nothing is moving or I don’t feel as if I am moving forward. Ami going backwards? I try to enjoy the moment, I try to look around, see the stars, and enjoy the cool breeze. Listen to my surroundings for signs that tomorrow will be different. Everything is still. Is this wrong? I feel as if I am not moving, I am dying. Then again we are all dying, but those who fear death and still stand still are very powerful to me. To be afraid of being still is to be afraid in itself. If we are always constantly moving it is as if we think we are trying to escape death. Escape all of our fears, and nightmares. Cannot run from them. It is ok to be still, hell I encourage it if it gives you some sort of relief. Don’t run from anything, you’ll be running forever. Challenge yourself, take a hit sometimes. Ever been hit in the face before? It is more liberating than you may think because now the fear has literally been beaten out of you. Take a deep breath. Take another one. Be in the moment you are in and notice things about yourself. Are you afraid? Why, nothing to be afraid of, or if there is then it means you’re running and you must start running towards fear. Or just stand still and let it come to you. Don’t waste your energy running from it, you’ll die tired. Instead plant your foot, and get ready to feel the force of it. You may just find what you’re looking for when it knocks the fear out of you and you’re ready to take on tomorrow. If the day is not over, then know today you can rest and play chess to be ready for your next 3 moves. Think, and enjoy your stillness. Keep calm and Bangov. Bangov Actual out.

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Are You Struggling, or Complaining?

If you own a horse, I don’t want to hear your problems. “I can’t afford shit.” Ya well I want to own a bear, or tiger like Mike Tyson, but I don’t because then my whole life changes around that animal. So my dog will do it for now. It is amazing how people will complain about their finances, and yet they have a horse, boat, 3 cars and a big ass house. So be honest with yourself and evaluate your situation and what you own. Are you really struggling? Or do you just like having expensive shit? Nothing wrong with that, I have expensive hobbies as well. I just tend to look at purchases like a choice. If they are not the essentials, like food, gas, rent, utilities. Then I can wait a month to purchase that new suit, or watch, anything really. It can wait and it is not the end goal, it is only going to give me happiness for about 10 minutes. Things accumulated are not what defines you, so don’t think that the more you have the happier you will be. In my experience what is done for others is what will define me. That is all I will focus on till the end of my time on this earth. I have had many jobs, made money in many different ways, but never had I realized that a passion for inviting others would be this easy to continue. I’m a communicable person. I believe in opening up communication, whatever that may mean to you. Remember this is Bangov, this is your choice and how you choose to view your life. I am simply here telling you what I am going through. All the questions, fears, doubts, I am going through just as you are. So never think you’re alone in how you’re feeling. All I ask is when you begin your journey, or if you have been at it for a while, make sure communication stays open. The world is always trying to help you in intricate ways that if you just take the time you may be missing what is needed right in front of you. Challenging yourself is supposed to be hard, but again how you decide to view it, you can either make it your prison, or you can make it your game. The world you create in your mind should be what you put on paper. Then paper can be constructed to become reality. Bangov Actual, out!

 

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Path Of Most Resistance

I feel myself battling with all sides of me. What I could be doing. What I’ve dreamed of doing and What I should be focusing on. It is hard to dream and think that you could ever amount to what your dreams are because that is the point of dreaming. Stepping outside your own beliefs and having the confidence to commit to an ideal of yourself. You will probably feel as if you are running in circles as I have many times in pursuit of a passion. This is when you need to evaluate yourself. Really take time to write down, maybe say into a voice memo what you’re feeling right now. Yes feelings do matter, despite popular conservative slogans like, “Facts don’t care about your feelings.” Which is true they don’t when trying to argue reason and logic. This is me trying to instill a passion within myself. Does not happen overnight and I am tired of people giving up when getting rich quick scams tend to not be what they imagined. Not so instant. You better be willing to work for what you want or just be content with mediocrity. Do yourself a favor and look at your lives today and just think 10 years ago was I here? If you have made tremendous leaps and are out of the situation you were in, great. Just realize that 10 years from now when you are better than you are now, you’re still going to want more. May just not be of a financial pursuit. As I have always told friends, money is inevitable. If you’re constant then money should come as you are inevitably going to keep moving forward with your life. Of course we have all felt backed up against the ropes with a mortgage payment, or a credit card payment. Hahahaha slap me with a 35 dollar charge because I can’t pay on time while I am trying to figure my way through this thing called life, sure go ahead. No big deal, and it is not a big deal but you tend to make it a bigger deal then it is. Everything comes down to you. Three things, What could i be doing, What I have dreamed of doing, and what I should be focusing on? Choice is yours. Do you want to follow your dreams? Or are you OK with the 2nd or 3rd tier in order to feel fulfilled. Of course, finding;g love, having a family is all important, but this is about you and I will SAY IT AGAIN! Help yourself in order to help the masses. Can’t help get anyone out of a hole if you’re in the same hole, or bigger. That is the interesting thing about paths of least resistance. Choosing yourself as a path when you’re the resistance. Bangov Actual, out.

 

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You Owe People Nothing

It is always interesting to me the way we latch on to others. I think it is important to make distinctions about others in our life. Another reason why having 1000 supposed friends is a waste of time. You have your group and depending on the choices they make you can recycle out the ones that give your life more value. To think that you owe anyone because of the friendship they have given you is always in question. Not saying if they gave you money, you should try to repay that friend back as soon as possible. Also just what my father had told me was any money you give to a friend, don’t expect back. So obviously understand if money is given depending on the circumstance, it may just be the end of the friendship. With anyone I call my friend today, I have never owed, never not said thank you, and never not wanted to be there for them when they have needed me. After  everything, they have never owed me. They never will because I choose to keep those who have stuck around in a world where everyone does their part. Everyone chooses to do what part they wish. Not too much, not too little. Mainly you just have to display an interest in each other. Call on the phone sometimes, text message “hey bud, how are you?, Great OK go fuck yourself!” You know guy shit. They have girlfriends or wives, and we all get together, find out what is new and maybe after we don’t see each other for 6 months. Ya, we get busy, life happens, or maybe I never leave my hole, I just keep blogging. Weird that when people haven’t seen each other for a while they automatically go to the conclusion they are not friends anymore. Relax people, maybe they have a new girl or guy in their life, you should be happy for them. Having to share every aspect with you just means that you need to start living life yourself. You owe people NOTHING. This is especially important when thinking how much have you done for people that have never deserved it. Friends they are not if they think their time is more important than yours. That is why you don’t see your friends for a while because you both respect that each other is trying to get your shit done. You’re reading this, trying to better yourself, your situation. Taking steps to make yourself better, well so are they just in different aspects. You’re a nice person and you need to start being selfish, people who take advantage of that are not the ones you should be giving your time to. Bangov Actual, out!

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Let’s Define Terms, “Endure”

To endure means to suffer patiently. It is increasingly surprising to me that old Merriam Webster, with just the simplest definitions. Can bring you out of a funk to give you a different perspective. A way of the world that was only undiscovered a moment ago. To endure, if your pursuit is one I would not say is for everyone but those who dabble in it will be the most grateful for it’s lessons. To endure when you are lost is to be as you are now. The thing is when trying to find life’s pursuit we just don’t think we are lost. We just tend to give up too early and don’t wish to endure the darkness of our own existence. Ask me what I wanted to do 10 years ago, I would have told you the military. When I got out I didn’t want to do it anymore. I only wanted to do it because that just seemed like my only option. No way I would have made it in college. I know, I have the grades of me attempting to prove it. I personally just came to the conclusion that I wanted to work. That was it, in simplest form. Work, work, work, money, money, money….. I think a lot of people feel this way at some point. Out of some notion that the money will fill a void, or a certain dollar amount will make you happy. Nope, it is what I have come to see as a degree of wealth, or a measure of means. Haven’t really coined it yet, but it is the measurement of confidence in the individual and what they choose as a life for themselves. What do you think you deserve out of life? What do your manifestations build for you? What is your end? Have to let go sometime right? I won’t decide when. Just when you’re done with the ride, step off. How do you choose to suffer? Are you alone? Have you found someone to suffer with? To endure is a life’s pursuit. When you find yours just always remember…Bangov….

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Just… Breathe..

So stress being the biggest bitch of all when it comes to wanting to work hard and play hard every day all day. We have to take a step back and remember we are human. The immune system is still a thing and we want to keep it strong, so aside from maybe vitamins and tea which I take and drink everyday, what are things that you guys do to keep the stress level down. Can never really get rid of it. Think of yourself as a teapot. Once the water boils it is time to turn it off or take it off the burner. What happens if you don’t? Water evaporates then you ruin the pot, and then your mom smacks you because you saw your favorite show on TV and forgot what you were doing. The point is stress will come in all forms or fashions and having a regular regiment of ways of relieving the stress is very important. Make sure you’re actually using the time to relieve stress. Workout, focus on breathing, meditate, and sleep is probably the biggest one for me. I have a cold now and my biggest pet peeve in the world is getting sick. I mean even more than hearing Alec Baldwin didn’t pull the trigger. Also a big one I am sure we all could do is maybe cut down on social media. I have a social media site, but in the pursuit of people’s happiness I would like to be an advocate for your physical and mental health. I tend to overwork myself, but understand that just like everything, persistence is not just in how hard you work, it is how you do what is necessary in basic maintenance to continue on. So grease up the hinges, tighten up the bolts, put coolant in the reservoir, whatever you need to tell yourself so that tomorrow is just another day and you’re in good health, so it is going to be a good day. Or like me and on day 3 of this shit cold. This is so dumb. Bangov Actual, out!