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Are You Struggling, or Complaining?

If you own a horse, I don’t want to hear your problems. “I can’t afford shit.” Ya well I want to own a bear, or tiger like Mike Tyson, but I don’t because then my whole life changes around that animal. So my dog will do it for now. It is amazing how people will complain about their finances, and yet they have a horse, boat, 3 cars and a big ass house. So be honest with yourself and evaluate your situation and what you own. Are you really struggling? Or do you just like having expensive shit? Nothing wrong with that, I have expensive hobbies as well. I just tend to look at purchases like a choice. If they are not the essentials, like food, gas, rent, utilities. Then I can wait a month to purchase that new suit, or watch, anything really. It can wait and it is not the end goal, it is only going to give me happiness for about 10 minutes. Things accumulated are not what defines you, so don’t think that the more you have the happier you will be. In my experience what is done for others is what will define me. That is all I will focus on till the end of my time on this earth. I have had many jobs, made money in many different ways, but never had I realized that a passion for inviting others would be this easy to continue. I’m a communicable person. I believe in opening up communication, whatever that may mean to you. Remember this is Bangov, this is your choice and how you choose to view your life. I am simply here telling you what I am going through. All the questions, fears, doubts, I am going through just as you are. So never think you’re alone in how you’re feeling. All I ask is when you begin your journey, or if you have been at it for a while, make sure communication stays open. The world is always trying to help you in intricate ways that if you just take the time you may be missing what is needed right in front of you. Challenging yourself is supposed to be hard, but again how you decide to view it, you can either make it your prison, or you can make it your game. The world you create in your mind should be what you put on paper. Then paper can be constructed to become reality. Bangov Actual, out!

 

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Path Of Most Resistance

I feel myself battling with all sides of me. What I could be doing. What I’ve dreamed of doing and What I should be focusing on. It is hard to dream and think that you could ever amount to what your dreams are because that is the point of dreaming. Stepping outside your own beliefs and having the confidence to commit to an ideal of yourself. You will probably feel as if you are running in circles as I have many times in pursuit of a passion. This is when you need to evaluate yourself. Really take time to write down, maybe say into a voice memo what you’re feeling right now. Yes feelings do matter, despite popular conservative slogans like, “Facts don’t care about your feelings.” Which is true they don’t when trying to argue reason and logic. This is me trying to instill a passion within myself. Does not happen overnight and I am tired of people giving up when getting rich quick scams tend to not be what they imagined. Not so instant. You better be willing to work for what you want or just be content with mediocrity. Do yourself a favor and look at your lives today and just think 10 years ago was I here? If you have made tremendous leaps and are out of the situation you were in, great. Just realize that 10 years from now when you are better than you are now, you’re still going to want more. May just not be of a financial pursuit. As I have always told friends, money is inevitable. If you’re constant then money should come as you are inevitably going to keep moving forward with your life. Of course we have all felt backed up against the ropes with a mortgage payment, or a credit card payment. Hahahaha slap me with a 35 dollar charge because I can’t pay on time while I am trying to figure my way through this thing called life, sure go ahead. No big deal, and it is not a big deal but you tend to make it a bigger deal then it is. Everything comes down to you. Three things, What could i be doing, What I have dreamed of doing, and what I should be focusing on? Choice is yours. Do you want to follow your dreams? Or are you OK with the 2nd or 3rd tier in order to feel fulfilled. Of course, finding;g love, having a family is all important, but this is about you and I will SAY IT AGAIN! Help yourself in order to help the masses. Can’t help get anyone out of a hole if you’re in the same hole, or bigger. That is the interesting thing about paths of least resistance. Choosing yourself as a path when you’re the resistance. Bangov Actual, out.

 

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Just… Breathe..

So stress being the biggest bitch of all when it comes to wanting to work hard and play hard every day all day. We have to take a step back and remember we are human. The immune system is still a thing and we want to keep it strong, so aside from maybe vitamins and tea which I take and drink everyday, what are things that you guys do to keep the stress level down. Can never really get rid of it. Think of yourself as a teapot. Once the water boils it is time to turn it off or take it off the burner. What happens if you don’t? Water evaporates then you ruin the pot, and then your mom smacks you because you saw your favorite show on TV and forgot what you were doing. The point is stress will come in all forms or fashions and having a regular regiment of ways of relieving the stress is very important. Make sure you’re actually using the time to relieve stress. Workout, focus on breathing, meditate, and sleep is probably the biggest one for me. I have a cold now and my biggest pet peeve in the world is getting sick. I mean even more than hearing Alec Baldwin didn’t pull the trigger. Also a big one I am sure we all could do is maybe cut down on social media. I have a social media site, but in the pursuit of people’s happiness I would like to be an advocate for your physical and mental health. I tend to overwork myself, but understand that just like everything, persistence is not just in how hard you work, it is how you do what is necessary in basic maintenance to continue on. So grease up the hinges, tighten up the bolts, put coolant in the reservoir, whatever you need to tell yourself so that tomorrow is just another day and you’re in good health, so it is going to be a good day. Or like me and on day 3 of this shit cold. This is so dumb. Bangov Actual, out!

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Battle Of The Sexes..Gentlemen We’re Losing

The battle of the sexes is in its 2nd phase and men are losing the war. I have constantly been told by women that men are not men anymore. Gentlemen, I get your argument, “well they wanted equality right?” That doesn’t mean you throw in the towel because a small group of women want one thing. Your intention was to listen to the news and neglect women who still like the tradition. What kind of small minded individual takes the mainstream news media as a way of life??? It is one perspective you monkey’s. Holding hands, holding doors open, holding her purse when she is trying to get situated. Dating is a hell of a time, don’t get me wrong. Women who don’t know what they want, no drive, no ambition for a better future. Not financially driven, or worse they want sexually what scares the Jesus right out of you religious ones. Ladies this goes for men too. These issues are not generalized to one side.. All this being said, it is hard for both men and women because fundamentally we do not communicate anymore. You’re stuck inside and lack the communicable skills to even approach a woman in a bar. Nightclubs are too loud for me, grocery store, I mean holly fuck just saying hi my name is… is enough to get you both nervous. Be polite, and if they say no, guess what around the corner is another one, around that corner is another corner, and inevitably you’ll find a parking lot of women. What blows me away is men are still stuck on the marriage and divorce scare. I’ll admit I am in that club. I want every man to look up the 7 different alternatives to marriage and choose one that best fits you. Till death do us part, fuuuuuck that shit. Literally anything can be legally entrusted to your spouse through an attorney. Also Gentlemen this is what I am being told by women, none of this is even me complaining, this is from the perspective of women ready for a man, but who have given up looking. They are perfectly happy, financially well off with their careers, raising children, big house and are KILLING IT. If this intimidates any guys out there, great!  You are not allowed to procreate. If this does not pertain to you, understand that marriage is not what it has been. Imagine a life where you don’t have to live with the women you’re married to. You want to fuck other people, be in an open marriage. Some of you would starve, but they have more incentive to learn other skills. Cooking, cleaning, dancing, how to dress, groom yourselves, and I know some of you have never felt a good shave, fresh suit, and even know what aftershave is and IT.IS.DISGUSTING…For men and women, to create a world for yourself is so easy nowadays. Do not look to those around you because you’ll just fall into the same traps they did. Married for the wrong reason, kids as an anchor for the marriage to work. Wanting more out of life you may have to be selfish, but in the end it saves both you and others heartache. Communication we have all heard is key to a great relationship. It is the most basic bitch answer on any show you watch. Morning show, daytime television, Dr. Phil, take your pick. What they don’t tell you is you should be in good Communication before you even get into something long term. Talk, listen, learn, grow, Bangov Actual, out!

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Be Your Own Example

I had sex, and I liked it…OK not really , kind of going through a dry spell, but if that doesn’t get your attention then what will right? Establish what really “motivates” you. When you look at your lives and think that they could be any other way. Really define who you are now and define who you choose to be in this world. It is one of your biggest freedoms looking at the life you have and the life that you want to live for the rest of it. Doesn’t matter how old you are and the younger you are the less excuse you have because you have so much life left to live and time is on your side. The older you are I don’t want to hear any shit from you either, you have all the experience that life had to offer and you tend to use it as a way of superiority. You may be thinking well this guy doesn’t know what he is talking about. Literally every generation we have had to right the wrongs that we have had to endure in the past. Anything you bitch about now you have been bitching about for years and have never been the one to change it. You don’t have the power, money, grew up in the right family, bitch, bitch, bitch, moan, moan, moan. The less you tend to complain the more clear headed you are about making decisions for the better. I was once told by a gym teacher, ya, my mentors were pretty big back then. What he said was for some reason, “complaining never got anything done.” Now I may lose readers just off that alone, but just for a second, for the simplicity of that statement just know that I hate it as well. For how simple it is, just the most annoying words ever put together, it almost has a unscented, non flavored ice cream vibe to it. Like 2+2=4 No. Fucking. Shit. What is even worse is 13 years later I am bringing it up on my blog in trying to tell others that an age difference does not justify how you get to act, feel, or react to certain situations when they may be the very thing standing in the way of getting you to where you want to be. Bitch and complain all you like, scream in your pillow, punch your car, get into a fight with a bee hive. Whatever has been told you, that has made you think you are not good enough, or that you can’t be the person you aspire. Just know that they are wrong. They are on the wrong side of evolution to think that they get to decide what you are capable of. Whoever is still telling you these things, no matter the situation you need to get very far away from them. They are on their way down to rock bottom, and if you are in reach they will pull you down with them. Let’s try and be a good influence on people out there. Bangov actual, out..

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Get Comfortable With Doubt

Doubt: Feeling of uncertainty or lack of conviction.

 

This is a big one for me. For many of us this may determine whether you go left or right. Do you face your fears, or do you take a minute to just breathe. Take a min to realize you are afraid, and like a bath just soak in the ambiance that it gives off. Makes the room seem cloudy, like you don’t have all the answers you need, or that you think you need right now. It’s OK to feel this way and just know I am glad that you have felt it before. Like taking a cold shower you just have to let your body go through the sensations and be cold so that the body will go through. It’s natural cycle to warm up. Yes doubting yourself is part of the process of moving forward. You will doubt yourself every step of the way. It’s a fear tactic that others use against you when they want you to go a certain way. It is a tactic used by societal norms in order to control what we believe to be “normal.” I would advise always going against societal norms and change it to be for the better. As long as you don’t endanger others around you then all you are doing is disrupting a system that has been disrupted once before. Does not mean you’re a bad or mean person. Just means that people may not understand at first glance that you may want them to be a part of this with you in the event they may find their own pursuit along the way. Disruption breeds creativity, and leads people down paths they may not have intended to go down. Doubt to me is as a fly in the kitchen. It is annoying a few times until you finally have it pinned and kill it with a towel. Think of yourself as the solution and people will determine whether they want to follow or not. Biggest thing you can do is give people the choice and let them decide for themselves. Some will follow, some will be too afraid, just like you were so many times before. So decide now whether you will not be afraid this time, or next time. The choice is yours when you decide that you are worthy for better. Nobody else can make that decision for you, just as nobody else is to blame for the current state you are in. When you decide, because it is your decision to doubt. Take a moment, know that it will pass. Do not make decisions in times of doubt, do not choose to quit, do not choose to give up on what you have worked hard for because it will be there again and again. Day 1-infinity, so it is important for you to know since doubt is inevitable. Why wouldn’t success be the opposite? Go left and give into your fear, or go right and accept your passion for something. Again, you decide. Bangov Actual, out.

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Your Empire Is Waiting

My patience with customer service people has increased….OK only a little it, but at least I am not screaming by the end of a 15 min hold anymore. Which in my experience has been happening a lot throughout these last few months. Not only on the phone, but in ordering processing, and I am aware of hold times, shipping, delays of inventory stock. Just a few things that can make days turn into weeks, turn into months. It is quite exhausting when you have a dream. It just never seems fast enough for that dream to come true. This is when you begin to make excuses, and you have to be aware of what you are doing when impatience sets in. I don’t have enough money, don’t have time, don’t know the right people in order for this to work properly. Well you are going to have to roll with the punches in order to be able to get through certain aspects of your pursuit. I had a buddy of mine build a house and holy shit was that a process. Some may say, “well that is not the same thing I am going through, that does not help me with my problem.”  Lazy, lazy, lazy. I am not going to tell you every little aspect of what it takes for your dreams to come true because that is your dream not mine. It is your responsibility to know the ins and outs of what it takes to get to each level and beyond. Make every excuse you want, but until you just commit and keep going, no matter how slow or boring in the beginning it may be you will never be able to build momentum in order to make the changes you want to. Back to my story though, building the home was promised in 3-6 months, ended up taking 9 months. With the building itself, right before lumber prices had spiked, that was a set back for money to be asked for. Needing a shed to be built for the water pump because it could not be put underground. He built it himself just FYI. Then winter came and construction had to be halted due to snow. Not to mention all the permits that had to be signed before a well could be put in. I am not familiar with construction projects, but the fact that the state has control over that, BANGOV, but OK I have said my peace. The house ended up being built. With everything he and his wife could dream of for their 2 children on a plot of land to call your own. I am not saying your dreams have to be any certain size, shape, taste or fashion. What I will say is in the end committing to them and going through whatever hell need be to succeed will be worth it to say you did not just accept the life that you were born into. Do not care if you were born into a wealthy family either. They have problems, dreams and aspirations all their own so shut up about people having more money than you, better car, better house. They chased their dreams and are reaping the benefits of hard work and you deserve to do the same. Bangov Actual, out!

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