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Power Of The Pen

We tend to forget how hard language is when trying to express how we really feel. Words sometimes are just either not enough or we don’t have the right words at the right time. When speaking with anyone, a conversation has the potential to be of many forms, can go left or right, and with so many interpretations. We just tend to speak without any real intent in what we are trying to say. Just like you would do something for someone. Maybe write a letter, or have a real desire to tell someone how they make you feel. You want it to come out a certain way in order to steer them in the right direction and receive what is going on In your head. A projection screen of sorts that is your mind’s eye. How much effort you put into it, and the patience you have determine how well the message will be received. To tell someone that you despise them in such a way that you’re willing to dedicate a large amount of time is like saying that they are your intended focus of their foreseeable future. Now take hate, as strong of a word as it is, then replace it with love and it will have the opposite effect for a person that you make priority every day. Those you are trying to reach over time will not feel the first message, second, but if it continues and is a part of your life’s plan to convince someone that you not only love them, but that they are the pursuit of your happiness till the end of their time on this planet. Then love is really not enough. You have to feel every emotion capable of feeling in order for them to know the meaning of your intent towards them. I hope to not only communicate that, but in sync show that what I say to those I care for will know from the deepest, darkest, most evil parts of their heart that I will be down there fighting. I will repel down, come out guns blazing close in and destroy the demons that keep you thinking you don’t deserve what you want in life simply because someone told you don’t or someone never told you to believe that you do. You pick whichever is worse, but I am saddling up for war. Peace? Fuck peace, you stay in Utopia while I fight for my life’s pursuit. For those of you who are willing to join the fight, come and go as you please. I am in this till the day that those I cherish are raised above what they have accepted or settled for. Pretty cool huh? You communicate that to someone you love or hate and use the right context, you will either instill fear, or love in their heart. That is how powerful words are, so when people say to me “ talk is cheap”, well so are guns, ammo, gasoline, gun powder, and look at what they tend to protect or destroy. Just how you use them. As always this is Bangov Actual, I live to serve, Bangov Actual, out.

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Ideas Are Stolen By Those Without Them

For when you have an idea, they will come and try and make it their own. Understand that when you build something worth something. Only those who see it as worth their time take it from you. What you should be ready for is when sharing your inspiration, or desire with others if some will try and make it their own. Throwing out ideas of what you should do. Don’t be so hard on them. Listen and learn how they are acting. Maybe they just want to help. Those who don’t have a pursuit of their own will see you as a way in. They don’t know which way to go. What’s more is they are not where you want to be. So be respectful, and just say not interested. If you don’t know how to fish, don’t go ask someone who is in the same boat, or you’ll both just be floating there in your own ignorance. Find a fisherman and learn his way. Then someone who is better than him at it. Transfer of knowledge is so fast when you talk to those who actually know what they are doing. Ideas are only as good as those who bring them to life. Don’t go backward when you have something to look forward to. Initiate a plan in order to make your vision a reality. Write the idea down, create a script, pick up the phone and start calling people who may know more than you. Realize you may have an idea, but you cannot build your empire alone. Others will always be needed in order to push your ideas up the hill. You’ll get tired and others to carry the weight make the climb that much easier. Working hard is for those who don’t know how to work smarter yet. Not saying hard work is a bad thing, sometimes those are just the hurdles you must get over to get to where you want to be. Always be thinking of ways to simplify your work in order for money to work for you. Bangov Actual, out.

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Don’t Look Back

Is it a danger of looking back, or is it the little wins that we need to move forward? Looking back we see what we have accomplished. Even though we were just starting out we may look back and call those the little wins. Only because we are always looking back to the things we don’t have yet. This is why I tell myself that money is never going to be enough. If a million dollars is not enough, then no amount will get me to ever look back and say I should have stopped there. When a life pursuit is in motion, it is thought of as irresponsible to stop. Taking a gift and throwing it away. When people have a talent, to sing, dance, and do something with an extraordinary finesse. An art form that has fallen into your lap and you are going to throw it away. Sorry pop not interested in baseball, see a different life for myself. Want to join the military, I want to see who I am before life just becomes easy for me. As we look back and see the roads that have been traveled, we tend to not look at new roads that could be taken. Building new roads takes time. Have to think if it is worth your time. Little wins can either keep you from motivating yourself to move forward, or they help you checkpoint times in your life. Almost like goals being check listed. Can be good or bad, you decide that for yourself. If you don’t know what to do then thinking of the best road to take will not help you. If you’re in trouble, pick any road that is not the one you’re on. If you want a different life, never mind better, just pick a road, and never look back to what was keeping you from happiness. Grab your loved ones and get away from that world. Nobody is stuck,they just stop making decisions for themselves. Start making those, you’ll wonder why you ever listened to losers in the first place. Keep your head straight and don’t go back to a life that was never in your best interest. Second chances, do I believe in them? Not really sure, I guess the situation would have to present itself where I give one or get one to really believe in them. I’m much more focused on putting myself in situations where I don’t need second chances. So I guess I believe in them. I just don’t like needing them. Situation will dictate if I give one out one day. You decide how you want to live your life. Dangers of looking back will also depend on how dangerous you want to live your life and little wins may just keep you from going back to your old life. You’ve invested time, money and going back just seems like a lifetime ago. Bangov Actual, out.

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Pick Your Battles, Before They Choose For You

Has anyone ever been through a terrible tragedy and said, “ I’m glad I kept my mouth shut about this.” I’m assuming not, I mean when something is needing to be said, we can only hope the heroics of one wil compel them to say “no, don’t, stop, get out of the car you have been drinking. Or, “you should leave before he kills you.” Or my favorite, “we probably shouldn’t do this without a condom, what if i get pregnant.” Is it ignorance? Is it a feeling of invincibility? Maybe, or some of us just need to learn the hard lessons the hard way. No matter what the consequences. Consequences is something I have brought up before. Won’t be the last time. Consequences are those we can look at as positive or negative.

 

Consequences is defined as: a result or effect of an action or condition. Nowhere in this definition does it say you lose a leg, get punched in the face, go to hell for eternity for my religious folk. For non religious people maybe you spend a week at bible camp. Talk about hell on earth. Consequences come in many forms, and sometimes can be a duration of a seconds, days, weeks, or even the rest of your life. For you to continue on through life negatively based on one consequence you have had to endure, then life is going to be very difficult for you. Just pack it up, move back in with mommy and continue your basement dwelling antics. Consequences are a part of the decision making process. Go left, get burned to death, go right, freeze to death. Decisions are “hard” for only one reason and that is the fear of consequences that may be faced if we are to fail.

 

Let me ask you this. If you were to fail and know that failure was inevitable in your pursuit of a better life, then why are consequences keeping you up at night? I won’t tell you everything will be alright, I won’t say it is easy, I won’t say it is going to all turn out alright because it is not my job to do so. It is your job to take it upon yourself as an individual and tell yourself these things. What I say DON’T MEAN SHIT if you don’t believe it yourself. It still to me seems odd that we don’t say things in order to keep ourselves out of trouble. From having to deal with consequences that have nothing to do with bettering ourselves. Just that keeps us from digging the hole deeper and making things harder for ourselves. If we are caught in a situation that has consequences. Life altering consequences that affect a lot of people.

 

We are expected as adults to know what to do in every situation. “Life experience” as some like to refer to it as. Well let’s say I am attacked by a dog while on the street. Dog comes out of nowhere, and I get bit, and people always ask well why didn’t you do this, this, or this? Maybe because I have never been attacked by a dog before and I didn’t care about the extra steak in my pocket to throw as he was latched onto my leg. So I start carrying pepper spray, a knife, or a gun in case it happens again. It is interesting how many people have told me they want a gun after the fact of being attacked. I always ask “ well why now?” They tell me, “because someone came and banged on my door and tried to get in, and I had my child with me.” Me: “why didn’t you have a gun before?” I know the answer but it gets them to think, and realize how vulnerable they are. They always confess to the thought of thinking it could never happen to them, or maybe they just were afraid of an object before it became clear that it could be used in a different way like saving their life. Positive, negative, offense, defense, we have to be put in situations a multitude of times in order for the knowledge of what to do becomes apparent to us. Some of us learn lessons the easy way, and some learn the hard way. Call it stubborn, hard headed, ignorance, but if I am attacked by dogs every day of the week, and am still alive, I may tend to get pretty good at it.  Maybe have the street mapped out, have a couple juke moves, carry some treats in my pocket as deterrents. Same thing with any other situation. I have adapted to the likelihood of being attacked. Now with other situations we just have to think, how do I protect myself in this situation? I’m going out drinking tonight, don’t want to drive drunk, but you don’t want to spend money on an Uber. I’m not advocating drinking and driving and I am not telling you to spend money on an Uber. Are the consequences of killing someone, or paying for a DUI OK consequences for you.

 

Don’t think this post is going to save lives either. Even as advanced as people think we are, drunk driving is still killing half of teens on the road today. Also my demographic for this site is 18 and over but if this happened to be printed out and you just happen to read it to your son or daughter then that is on you but just make sure they know BANGOV is inevitable and to assess situations and think about consequences before making stupid choices. Also tell them they will make stupid decisions no matter what they do because being afraid of failing is worse than living in fear, and indecision. Don’t tell them what not to do, that is just lazy parenting in my opinion. You outsmart them and instill fear for decisions they are going to make by telling them they are an individual, and let them know mommy and daddy will not be there to help you when you are hauled off to jail. We will leave you there, we still have bills to pay, also I am not missing a day of work to unfuck you. My father told me that, was fucking terrifying. I didn’t drink till I was 21. True story. Hell, I didn’t have sex till…..eh ill stop there, but to recap we need to start looking at consequences just as the little things in life we need to change. Eating better, exercising, drinking more water maybe, easy on the drinking.

 

Consequences are embedded in every aspect of every decision we make, so as you define how you want your life to be, think of the little things as big ones in how you want to represent yourself. Bangov Actual, out.

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An Erection Never Lies

Ladies I have a confession, and it is in my pants. When men are quiet in bed. Just know it is not because we are not enjoying it. We enjoy it A LOT. We are asked many times throughout the day, about things we may not want to comment on. Now just keep in mind I’m not saying it is not sexy when a woman does it . Shouts your name, moans, narrates the sexual act. It is sexy, but you have to understand the circumstances that we as men have something to keep up. We have to constantly maintain an erection and saying things just draws attention away from the primary function. In between positions may be something to talk about and I encourage more men to be vocal in bed about what they want. Just good communication from both parties is never really a bad thing. For men maybe if we were to compliment, say how pretty she is, sexy, she tastes good, whatever!! It’s verbal stimulation that is being communicated. Watch a porno without the sound, guarantee something will be missing. Same thing as in bed, doesn’t have to be constant, just be more expressive in your enjoyment I guess? Ladies please send me some emails on this because we don’t know all the things that are out there. All that I can say on the matter is that men even from a historical context have been quiet, have been solely focused on completing the motion to climax and watching predators near by, so ladies you have a man who’s fucking you while looking like a sprinkler head to watch for apex predators. Ladies please don’t be self conscious when we are quiet during sex, aside from concentrating on what we are doing, we do have to constantly think of next positions, watching the door, who is in the house, did I leave the stove on, should I smack your ass, choke you, kiss you, when we first met, or just enjoy the elegance that is you without make up in the morning, and can’t believe that this incredible woman has entrusted me with her safety and is letting me do this. So again, do we enjoy the sex? Not as easy of a question as you think. Sex can be constantly improved if 2 are willing to share what they want in the bedroom. If a guy is quiet, good chance he is in blissful silence. Bangov Actual, out.

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Are You A Self Starter?

I’m a self starter? I would say so. Build a business, write everyday, and nobody has to tell me to do it. Are you a self starter? Do you decide when you get up? Do you decide what work needs to get done? Across the valley of resume building and applying for jobs we all need to be self starters. Education doesn’t really matter anymore because even the school system you go to decides what you have to learn before you even go learn what was intended. Self starting is basically saying if you fuck up, can you deal with the consequences? Can you intend on making a decision and seeing it through. Employers are not looking for just someone to get them coffee,  label shit on a shelf, or even take out the trash. They are looking for someone to run this place when they want to get the fuck out. Can hire any jackass and get someone to do the trivial things. When you self start you keep things in motion. Businesses die when they stay stagnant. They have no direction because nothing is moving and therefore less and less options are available to them. Business, life, need to feed someone or something besides yourself? That won’t happen standing still. You’re not a self starter, welp, that couch is going to be your prison one day and nobody will be around to help you get up when they have their business or life they are moving for. Nothing better than getting rid of dead weight. Doesn’t mean they don’t care, or don’t love you. Life continues, and is in constant motion, and you’re keeping them from living theirs. Just like the life of anything else, when you stop moving, you die just a little bit. The comfort that you hold dear while being in between the sheets, on the couch, or by the fire is not a way of life. Self start in order to put things in motion. Sometimes you won’t be able to steer, sometimes you won’t even be the one driving, but when you’re along for the ride still be thinking about stops you want to take along the way. In a world where you were hired to do a job, and they actually think you’re worth a damn, you may just find what you’re looking for on their time. Utilizing someone else’s time while they are paying you? Cannot think of a better situation for you to succeed. So go out there and be a self starter, create motion, watch life unfold before you. Explore the opportunities that can come from doing a 9-5, and don’t care if you’re flipping burgers. Someone is depending on you, that is pretty powerful considering you won’t do anything to depend on yourself. What makes you different from those who depend on you? Maybe a different talent? Maybe a better education? Maybe a mommy and daddy who loved them? Hahaha Look at all the forms of success. Anyone who has been a success in their life has had hardships, so don’t play this game with yourself that your life is harder than anyone else’s. Self start something else in order for you to get off the road you’re on. Keep in mind it should be your life’s work to get where you want to be. Won’t happen overnight, someone telling you it can is selling you something. Life pursuits start in motion, so get moving. Bangov Actual, out.

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Freedom VS. Bangov

Unexpected turns no matter which way they go have an affect on you and your way of thinking. Don’t let this be a make it or break it moment, your dream, or mission has not changed and don’t let anything change it. No matter your decisions, each road you take may feel like a long way, but you have to keep moving either way. As long as you maintain a positive mental attitude then even opportunities disguise themselves as steps backward. Hunt for your opportunity. Look at the whites of its eyes and find the fear brewing under the surface. When you are able to change the dynamic of the eyes, the soul will change the intent of what it was bred to do. Turn a fighter into a runner, make something that flies hide in a hole. Take all that life has to offer, all that life does is push you in the direction it wants. Stop thinking you are in control. You are only in charge of certain outcomes, death is inevitable so don’t think life will be perfect the way you planned it. You will just be miserable in another form. Plan of attack is a hell of a lot different than you planning who you choose to be in this life. Taking charge of your life means that you shape it into what you want no matter what is dropped on your doorstep. When in a state of anxiety, or hyperventilation, it is the perfect time to develop who you are. You will make mistakes, but don’t let the fear of making them stop you from moving. Punch, kick, scream and fight your way out of a paralyzing feeling of someone or something making you feel inferior. Do not be a slave to your feelings. Freedom is defined as: the power or right to act, speak, or think as one wants without hindrance or restraint. Also defined as: absence of subjection to foreign domination or despotic government. Their is a reason why I didn’t call my website freedom fuckers or some lame ass name derived from a word that has been so overused that people never have even thought of looking up what it actually means. They only have their twisted representation that has been passed on from one idiot to the next. Freedom this and freedom that. No issue with the word, the word is harmless, but people never thought to sell it in a way that was beneficial for the individual. It was always left vs. right. Well Bangov is all encompassing. It is whatever you choose it to be. Encompassing is defined as: surround and have or hold within. Your life decisions are yours. So don’t let the weight of your decisions break you. Think positive and become stronger to hold them up. My personal prerequisite for this life is don’t keep anyone else from their pursuits. Bangov Actual, out.

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