Tag: Sexual health

Are you willing to put in the time necessary? Or are you just going to watch as opportunities pass you by. You can’t grab onto all the opportunities. Why not do 10 different jobs? You’ll never go anywhere, or you’ll go so slow in your many pursuits that you will feel as if you are standing still. Have a ton of knowledge, and you may even be able to have some fun doing different things. Problem is, to be proficient in something you have to do that one thing over and over again. Not 10 different things. Kind of like college when they tell you, you must do the prerequisites in order to be well rounded. Sounds more and more like bullshit the more you say it in your head. So don’t waste your time worrying about if this is the right career for you. Do what you’re passionate about. Pick one, because in 6 months you may not “feel” passionate about it anymore. Remember that you were, and you may just find what you were looking for in the first place. Also, you will be farther into your career and more understanding about why you chose what you chose in the first place. As I have said motivation is a sucker’s drug, you can be motivated for about 20 min and go back on your decision. So don’t decide your motivation to go left or right. Weigh options, who are you? What are your passions based on evidence of what you’ve done in the past? Motivations come and go, passion which is defined as: any powerful or compelling emotion or feeling, as love or hate. Sometimes you will love, and sometimes you will hate what you are doing, just as a relationship is with a person, son, daughter, spouse, brother, sister. It being a lifetime commitment it has gradually only gotten stronger unless you have given up entirely. So, choose, and then create the relationship.

 Giving up on your dreams. Quitting, I think about it allll the time. I don’t because that is the fundamental point of what Bangov is. To remain within the game of pursuit. If you don’t have a pursuit, or something you’re chasing then you’re just existing. That shit is boring. You can be the smartest, gone to all the fancy schools. Even have had all the knowledge on a particular subject. What strikes me as odd is that still those who have a degree still suffer with purpose. Still suffer with a pursuit that enables them to be able to feel fulfilled. Of course it is not about the size of the bank account number, but very seldom do I hear people say that they love what they do. If we are to look deeper within ourselves, the only push that I am willing to bet is that in which the people you surround yourself with are just not getting you to where you want to go. Or maybe you haven’t asked the question. Ask and you shall receive is still a real thing. So even if it annoys, ask.

So apparently to masturbate is something to fear now. Holding your own dick in your hand is simply going to ruin your relationships, marriage is going to end, and your life will just go downhill as you continue to jerk it. In my eyes men or women tend to jerk off as a release they may want to have to themselves, or that they may not be getting from their partner. Ok, so why are you not getting it from your partner? Do you have some notion of fear that you may cheat on him or her if you don’t get that release. Don’t demonize a sexual release or a time when you are to be sexually vulnerable with yourself. 

Of course, too much dopamine, as it is advertised. Just as with sugar or sweets, music, or even television. These things can be damaging to your health if not controlled or used in moderation. Enjoy that brownie, I fucking love brownies, but I don’t have one every night out of fear one day my lady may look at me and not want to sleep with me. Then I will have to jerk off out of necessity of not being able to have sex with a person that finds me attractive. Don’t treat masturbation as the enemy. The enemy is how you’re able to control yourself and when you feel you need the release. If you have to do it 10 times a day and are missing work, or even time with your family because of it, seek help and hopefully you haven’t gone blind. You may have a problem then. If you do it every morning before work, because you work late and you don’t want to wake up your lady, HERO. 

Ladies understand if your man likes doing it, LET THEM. I hear women ask all the time, “why doesn’t he just have sex with me?” It is because we don’t always want what comes after, and as a courtesy to your feelings maybe we are not wanting to be in the cuddling mood, or just simply don’t have time. It DOES NOT mean that we don’t want to do it with you later. Rest assured if you are having issues, or haven’t been sexually active for a few weeks, he may just be needing to pleasure himself in order to not make the stupid mistake of finding someone else to do it with.

BDSM, Bondage, orgies, and whatever kind of sexual fetishes you can think of are out there. These are things that are becoming more and more common for couples to engage in what was once known as sinful, or just considered taboo. We keep trying to put a lid on these kinds of things when people can’t seem to understand that maybe some couples are kinkier than others or want to have more adventurous sexual experiences than others. Masturbation IN MY OPINION, may just be someone realizing that they have more to experience about sex based on the porn that they are looking up. As a partner, maybe discuss, and always keep discussion open about what each other wants in or out of the bedroom. You’re both together out of love, so be there for each other and make it a positive experience for both.

Looks can be deceiving….no shit, right? Well, that’s because you tend to look at everything through our own eyes and continue to skew your own reality towards a perverse reality. It’s ok though, you’re not the only one. When things get hard, or time seems like it is standing still then we have more and more things to pile onto life.

What is seen through the eyes should not always be trusted. Close your eyes and start seeing things from the mind’s eye. Too many distractions when you open your eyes you let in all the distractions as well. I’m reminded of times when I have been frustrated with someone or something and not known of any of the factors that have come into play. When my children frustrate me of course it is always hard at the moment to get them to calm down and think rationally. Rational is defined as: agreeable to reason. That is very hard when they get to the kicking, screaming, door slamming phase.

You must bring them down from the storm that is brewing inside their head, and then bring rationality into the mix. Same happens when everything looks to be deceiving. You’re in the storm. You’re only seeing what you have to fight, you’re punching, kicking, and screaming in your head. So don’t think just because something has happened to you, that it must be everyone else’s reality. The world doesn’t revolve around your problems. So be a solution. Don’t pester those who don’t know what you have been through, maybe they have been through more than you. Also, maybe they have a better attitude than you. Bangov Actual, out.