I have been known to say this before that the conditions of a marriage are between 2 people and the world they create for each other. Why does anyone think the government should be involved? I think in this interview with one of New Yorks most streamed divorce lawyer James Sexton. He speaks about how prenups do not make him that much money. Even for a guy who charges $750/hour, a prenup will make him in the ballpark of 5k. A divorce stretched out has made him 3 million dollars.
Prenups in my opinion are a surrender of all things when going into the marriage. When you go into a marriage knowing that if it ends you will have everything divided up based on the agreement that was written when you loved each other. Now that you are getting divorced you cannot squeeze everything that another person legally thinks the other person deserves. A third party being a judge, or laws made up by other people with their own bias towards marriage, don’t control the outcome of other people. Worst argument I have ever heard is the tax benefits of being married legally. Anything you can do being married legally, having to do with filing your taxes separately you can do just as well being married. Just depends on who gets more money filing with the child. See who gets more filing with the child then split the bigger of the pot.
Anything from life insurance to assets when someone passes away, to medical decisions can be done through a lawyer, what is more important it forces a conversation to be had with your significant other. If you are going to commit your life together, you better have a conversation in case of your death. Once more it excludes a particular legal aspect out of your life that didn’t need to exist. The government tells you what to do, while a lawyer does what you tell them to do. YOU ARE PAYING THEM FOR THEIR SERVICES. A judge does not give a shit, they will tell you what you can and cannot do whilst legally handing over authority to the government.
When watching this, it really hits you that when you choose to commit yourself to someone, you hope that the intent of both of your is to make it easy for each other, as well cheer each other on through life. You are both adults, so you don’t need big daddy government telling you what to do when they have no skin in the game. Bangov Actual, out.